Do people praise your discipline while ignoring your struggle with a long-term eating disorder?

In this solo episode of Dr. Marianne-Land: An Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast, Dr. Marianne Miller, LMFT, unpacks the cultural myth of the “high-functioning” eating disorder and explores why so many lifelong eating disorders go unnoticed, untreated, or mislabeled as willpower or success.

So many people live for decades with an eating disorder that never fully goes away—because the world keeps rewarding them for being productive, disciplined, or “healthy.” Dr. Marianne explains how functioning can become a form of masking, how trauma and safety patterns reinforce chronic disordered eating, and why recovery often requires dismantling the very systems that taught us to perform instead of rest.

This episode brings honesty and compassion to those who have felt unseen by treatment models that only recognize crisis, and validation to those who have carried invisible pain behind competence and control.

What “high-functioning” really means and why it’s a harmful label

How lifelong eating disorders become normalized and overlooked

The hidden costs of functioning and perfectionism

Trauma, safety, and why control feels protective

How privilege shapes who gets labeled “high-functioning”

Recovery pathways for long-term and late-stage eating disorders

The difference between surviving and actually living

This episode is for anyone who has lived with chronic disordered eating, for those who have been told they “don’t look sick,” and for clinicians seeking to better understand the quiet suffering that hides behind high performance. It’s also for neurodivergent listeners and those in larger bodies who have felt unseen in traditional eating disorder spaces.

You can explore therapy, coaching, and recovery resources at drmariannemiller.com.

If you’re ready to deepen your healing, check out Dr. Marianne’s virtual, self-paced ARFID and Selective Eating Course, designed to support autonomy, sensory needs, and manageable recovery.

You can also follow Dr. Marianne on Instagram @drmariannemiller.