What if your biggest health problem in 2026 isn’t your food… but the sentences you keep repeating?

The self-talk that keeps you overwhelmed and stuck?

In this episode, I’m deleting two phrases from your wellness vocabulary:

1. “I always self-sabotage.”

2. “This is only going to get worse.” (menopause /aging doom-talk 🙄)

Because both of these lines train your nervous system to expect failure… and then it politely delivers it.

We’re talking about what “self-sabotage” really is (usually self-protection), why strict plans create backlash, and how to make changes so simple your body barely notices—so you stop quitting, drifting, swinging, and starting over every Monday.

Then we go after the second cultural virus: women ominously warning other women that aging is basically a slow-motion disaster. A MAJOR frustration of mine, simply because of the totally pessimistic vibe. I’ll share how this narrative shapes behaviour, fuels fear-based decision-making, and keeps you braced for impact instead of becoming solutions-oriented.

We’ll end with a practical nervous-system tool I use in yoga (and in real life): how to shift your internal language so your body feels safe enough to cooperate.

If you’ve been stuck in “on plan / off plan” chaos, this one is for you.

In this episode:

• Why you can’t “ruin everything” in a few days or even a week (unless you DECIDE to)

• The real reason you “self-sabotage” (it’s not laziness, weakness, or lack of discipline)

• The cross-country ski grooves analogy (and why your brain keeps pulling you back)

• How to shrink the “pirate ship pendulum” swing of dieting

• A better question than “What’s wrong with me?”

• Why “just wait, it gets worse” is not wisdom—it’s contagion

• A simple nervous-system cue to shift out of dread and into agency

If this hit you: share it with a woman who’s tired of fighting herself.

⏱️ Timestamps:

00:00 Two Phrases That Keep Women Stuck (Let’s Delete Them)

00:11 Why the Holidays Make Women Feel “Off Track”

00:40 New Year Energy—Without the Self-Punishment

02:12 Why “Self-Sabotage” Isn’t What You Think It Is

05:25 What Your Nervous System Is Actually Doing

09:16 Why Simpler Health Changes Work Better

15:40 A Better Question Than “What’s Wrong With Me?”

17:22 What Sustainable Health Actually Feels Like

18:02 The Problem With “Just Wait, It Gets Worse”

20:01 How Beliefs Quietly Shape Outcomes

21:59 Relating to a Changing Body Without Fear

24:04 Why Doomsday Aging Talk Helps No One

30:23 Nervous System Safety: The Missing Piece