The Well Done Life

This week we're talking about not "taking ourselves out of the game". I think this is a good opportunity to remind ourselves that in spite of what it looks like, we've got this handled. We all have dreams and goals that we're trying to accomplish. This is the time where we need to check in and remind ourselves that we can do this. We just have to stay checked into the game. So, let's support each other and make great things happen.

Past Episodes:

Episode 93: Grace and Accountability: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9884518-grace-and-accountability.mp3?download=true

Episode 92: You Have So Got This: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9838890-you-have-so-got-this.mp3?download=true

Episode 91: Necessary Goodbyes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9688781-necessary-goodbyes.mp3?download=true

Additional Points:

The Scene From Tyler Perry's movie "Daddy's Little Girls" about not giving up in your due season:  https://youtu.be/auzlY3o-mH0


Things to remember:

1. Celebrate your successes no matter how small. Forgive yourself for the mistakes. Learn from them, and keep going. 
2. Make sure you're surrounding yourself with content and people that are conducive to a positive mindset. Everyone and everything can't be on the journey when you're birthing a vision. 
3. Be honest with yourself about your fears. Speak to them. But, don't let them control you. This is your time. Claim it and own it. 

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Are you tired of 2022 already? If so, then this episode is for you. This week we're talking about why we need to give ourselves a break.  There's a lot going on in the streets, and we need to make sure we're prioritizing our peace and energy. So, this week let's get real about what we need to do to make sure we make it. We're only 16 days in, so we need get real quick. Let's talk about it!!

Previous episodes:
Episode 92: "You've So Got This": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9838890-you-have-so-got-this.mp3?download=true

Episode 91: "Necessary Goodbyes": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9688781-necessary-goodbyes.mp3?download=true

Tips to help you give yourself grace and accountability: 

1. Check in with yourself about how you're feeling: Make sure you stay aware of your moods and energy. 
2. Take a moment to "sit your butt down": It's ok to say "no" to events and/or people. If you need a break, take that break. Give yourself what you need.
3. Give yourself permission to say "no": Again, it's ok to not be everything to everyone. Figure out how to be what you need for yourself. Give yourself permission to do what you can. Our best will fluctuate based on how we're feeling. 
4. Give yourself permission to "pivot": Things aren't always go as planned. That's ok. It will get done. It just may not be in the timeframes we thought it would. That's ok. What's for you won't miss you. 
5. Create space and room for moments to engage with people or things that bring you joy. 
6. Celebrate ALL of the accomplishments: Everything you do is worth recognizing. Don't just talk about the things that didn't happen. Celebrate the things that did happen. Those wins will keep you going. 
7. Speak to yourself with love and encouragement: Speak to yourself with the same love that you give to other people. Grace and empathy are for you too!! 

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It's the first episode of 2022! We're back! This week is a recap of the holiday. Let's talk about planning for our "unending abundance" and build some space to pivot when life hits us. It's all about staying present, doing what works for you, and deciding that they're uncomfortable in mediocrity. It's time to move to our next level together :-).

Previous Episodes Mentioned: 

1. Episode 91 "Necessary Goodbyes": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9688781-necessary-goodbyes.mp3?download=true 
2. Episode 71" Romanticize Your Life": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8914276-romanticize-your-life.mp3?download=true 
3. Episode 84 "Welcome To The Self Care Suite": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9440538-welcome-to-the-self-care-suite.mp3?download=true

Canva (This site is great for all things creative): https://www.canva.com

FedEx/Kinkos (Great setup for designing your own planner): https://www.fedex.com/en-us/printing/online-printing.html


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It's the last episode of 2021. It's time for my rest. So, I wanted to take it very "foundational". Let's talk about the time that we're in, and let's talk about the things we're leaving in 2021. It's time for "necessary goodbyes" before we step into our season of "unending abundance". Let's talk about it!!

Meaning of 91: https://thesecretofthetarot.com/angel-number-91/ 

Here are some of the things I’m leaving in 2021.

1. Overthinking:  I’ve finally realized that I’m equipped to handle anything that comes my way. I’ve learned to give myself space to process and keep going. Overthinking only leads to overreacting, and that’s negative to my health and peace of mind. 
2. Not prioritizing  my peace and health (mental and physical): Life is too short not to take care of yourself on all levels. We have to stop treating ourselves like less than. We have to prioritize us above all things. That’s not selfishness, that’s self-love. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for that any longer. 
3. Not prioritizing my time: Time management is really important to me. Time is the one commodity that we can never get back. Don’t ever feel guilty about taking solo time for yourself. Or removing yourself from situations that don’t add value. That’s it! 
4. Living in atlhleisure wear: Yep, I said it. I miss getting cute. So, I’m leaving too much athelisure in 2021. I’m pretty fashionable when I want to be. So, I’m bringing back the fashions. This is going to be my #finerthanfroghairyear , so it’s on!! 
5. Regrets: I’ve been good about not holding on to the things that didn’t work out. But, I like to remind myself of this to make sure I stay connected to the right thoughts. It’s easy to let negative thoughts slip in, so you have to constantly work on ensuring that you let go of the struggles and learn for your next level. 
6. Not sharing my emotions: You have to let people know that you love them. You also have to realize that you have the discernment to know who deserves to hear that, and who doesn’t. Simply put, everyone doesn’t deserve your love. But, you know who does. Don’t let your fears hold you back from sharing and receiving the love and support you need/deserve. Be open!
7. Not dreaming big: I’ve learned that if my dreams don’t scare me, it’s not big enough. Dream big and be prepared to receive your blessings. It may not come when you want it too. But, if you’re intentional and do the work, it will come right on time. 

Thought Leaders that I love:

Nedra Glover Tawwab:  https://www.nedratawwab.com
Check out her book, "Setting Boundaries, Find Peace": https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08LMSS439/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?creative=9325&creativeASIN=B08LMSS439&ie=UTF8&linkCode=as2&linkId=7cab865665d5263fc6bd6295f45344e6&tag=nedratawwab-20

Alexandra Elle: http://www.alexelle.com

Elizabeth Gilbert: https://www.elizabethgilbert.com


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This week is all about Legacy. What are we doing to contribute to our legacy? How is your legacy a part of your goals for 2022? We've seen a lot of losses. Let's talk about living fully, and letting our gifts shine through us. We all have a legacy, it's just up to us to stand in it.

Previous episodes to help you plan for 2022:

1) The Jumping Off Point: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9522840-the-jumping-off-point.mp3?download=true

2) The Keys: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9575611-the-keys.mp3?download=true

3) It's the Gratitude For Me: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9597629-it-s-the-gratitude-for-me.mp3?download=true


Things to think about as you're making your plans for 2022:

1) How will the plans you're making contribute to your legacy?
2) What are you planning to do in 2022 that will build your legacy?


Legacy definition from Merriam Webster: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/legacy


Top Five Regrets of the Dying: Bronnie Ware, Australian Nurse/Hospice: https://bronnieware.com/blog/regrets-of-the-dying/


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This week we're talking about gratitude. It's the perfect time to reflect on being grateful. Let's talk about the power of being grateful for the good and bad. This has been a very challenging time. But, we're stepping into our abundance. So, we need to make sure we're giving ourselves the space to be clear about all of the things that we're grateful for. We're going into 2022 ready for all that our next levels will bring. Happy Thanksgiving!!

Episode 88 "The Keys": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9575611-the-keys.mp3?download=true

Episode 87 "The Jumping  Off Point":  https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9522840-the-jumping-off-point.mp3?download=true

Definition of "Gratitude from Merriam-Webster: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/gratitude


Alex Elle (Great resource for information on doing self-work, journaling, etc.): http://www.alexelle.com

Matthew 25:23: New International Version
“His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’

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This week we're talking about "keys" or "reccomendations" that will help you on the journey to achieving your goals. This is time where we're setting the plans for 2022. But, you have to be very intentional. You also have to be very clear about what does and doesn't work for you. Let's get clear about what you need, and how these "keys" or "recommendations" that will give you the support and strength you need to thrive.

The Keys:

1) For breaking stagnation: The Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes : https://www.amazon.com/s?k=year+of+yes+shonda+rhimes&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIis7BpsSj9AIVlcqGCh2Z8wNyEAAYASAAEgI4tvD_BwE&hvadid=241646591496&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9012413&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=6067412476529160710&hvtargid=kwd-91819227210&hydadcr=22125_10167101&tag=googhydr-20&ref=pd_sl_6dqv85cnhz_e


2) For learning the power of manifestation/intention:  The Secret by Rhonda Byrne: https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Rhonda-Byrne/dp/1582701709


3) For building abundance:  Abundance Now by Lisa Nichols : https://www.amazon.com/Abundance-Now-Amplify-Achieve-Prosperity/dp/0062412213


4) For speaking to your fear and yourself when you're creating: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert: https://www.amazon.com/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1594634726


5) To simply and radically change your perception of self and others: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz: https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319

6: Setting boundaries: Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab: https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095

* Red Table Talk Episode with Nedra Glover Tawwab on setting boundaries: https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwiBgJiexaP0AhU5SzABHaLIAlwQwqsBegQIAxAB&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fredtabletalk%2Fvideos%2Fhow-to-set-boundaries-and-change-your-life%2F349502650282587%2F&usg=AOvVaw2OPDRC1-Amow17CL29ZUHU

Another "key" or "recommendation" that I love. The Warrior of the Light by Paulo Coelho: https://www.amazon.com/Warrior-Light-Manual-Paulo-Coelho/dp/0060527986


Episode 87 "The Jumping Off Point": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9522840-the-jumping-off-point.mp3?download=true

Episode 85: "The Self Care Suite" with Tara Pringle Jefferson: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9440538-welcome-to-the-self-care-suite.mp3?download=true

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This week is all about laying the foundation for this season of abundance that we're going into. We're less than 60 days away from the end of 2021. Let's take this time to begin talking about how we want to go into 2022. Let's talk about the power of this time  and what we can do to maximize it. Let's jump off together!!

Meaning of 87: https://angelnumbersmeaning.com/angel-number-87-meaning-and-symbolism/

Things to remember while we're transitioning into our growth season:

• Find time to reflect. You have to look back at the highs and lows to celebrate the successes and learn from the losses. It’s important to not get caught up in what didn’t work. This is a time to forgive yourself for the missteps and/or decisions that lead to this delay. That also goes for people who may have contributed to that misstep. Holding grudges is like taking poison into yourself. Let it go. Letting it go doesn’t mean you have to invite these people back into your life. 

• As you're  reflecting on all of the things that happened this year. Think about how you felt. If the feelings we’re good, what made them good? If it was bad, what made it bad? Remember,  getting to the root of each scenario allows you to  put words/feelings to it. This will be key in setting up your goals and/or boundaries for 2022.

• So, now that we’ve begun processing. Think about how you want to record this information. You have to hold yourself accountable. Write down the vision and make it plain.  Keep the format fluid to account for life. 

• This isn't a cookie cutter solution. It’s about finding something that you can follow through with. You’re the most important part of this commitment. 

Alex Elle's website: http://www.alexelle.com 

Previous episodes:

Episode 85 "Welcome To The Self Care Suite" w/Tara Pringle Jefferson: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9440538-welcome-to-the-self-care-suite.mp3?download=true


Episode 86 "Low Maintenance": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9480649-low-maintenance.mp3?download=true


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This week we're talking about how I was inspired by an IG post to talk about "low maintenance friend". I talk about my journey as the "low maintenance friend"; and what I'm doing to evolve in this role. Let's put some respect on the "low maintenance friends" in the world.

Episode 85 "Welcome To The Self Care Suite" w/Tara Pringle Jefferson: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9440538-welcome-to-the-self-care-suite.mp3?download=true

Low Maintenance Friend Definition and Article: https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/low-maintenance-friends_uk_5d00f481e4b0e7e7817071fa


Tips to help you navigate the journey as the low maintenance friend and improve your friendships:

1. Be honest with yourself and your friends about how you can extend yourself.
2. Extend grace to yourself and your friends when discussing your needs.
3. Be prepared for the feedback you receive. Don't take it personally. Try to understand that they're operating from their viewpoint. What they're saying is a reflection of how they feel.
4. Be open to making changes in your approach. Don't be afraid to being open to a new process or communication style. Boundaries are not walls.


Gary Chapman "Love Languages": https://www.5lovelanguages.com

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I'm so excited to welcome Tara Pringle Jefferson, M.A. to the podcast. Tara is the Founder of The Self Care Suite. The Self Care Suite a wellness community for women of color. The Self Care Suite provides  digital and in-person experiences that allow women a reprieve from the daily grind to design a life that is nourishing and expansive. This week we're talking about how Tara founded The Self Care Suite. We also discuss where she is on her self care journey and what's next.

Tara's information:
The Self Care Suite website: https://www.theselfcaresuite.com
The Self Care Suite Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theselfcaresuite/
The Self Care Suite Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wherewomenbloom
The Self Care Suite Twitter: https://twitter.com/selfcaresuite


The Well Done Life Podcast Episode 84 w/Adrienne Glusman "Young Life Interrupted": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/9406169-young-life-interrupted.mp3?download=true

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