The Well Done Life

This week we're talking about "Making Time" for folks. When you "Make Time" for someone you're carving out time to get folks together when they have crossed your boundaries. There are a lot of people out here making reckless assumptions that can violate our boundaries. So, we need to make time to help guide them back to the right path with love and clarity. Let's discuss!


Episode 73 -Romanticize Your Life: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8914276-romanticize-your-life.mp3?download=true


Four Agreements By Don Miguel Ruiz: https://www.miguelruiz.com/the-four-agreements 
The Four Agreements are:

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally.
3. Don't Make Assumptions.
4. Always Do Your Best.

Steps To Successfully "Making Time":

1) Make sure you're in a place where you're not emotional.
- Are you ready to proceed or do you need to take a moment to collect yourself?

2) Write down what you want to discuss.
-Be specific about the issues to ensure all of your points are addressed.

3) Stay calm and make sure you're coming from a place of love.
-Be impeccable with your words. Don't waste time arguing.

4) Be ready to receive feedback.
-You can't allow anger or hurt to cloud the discussion. You also may need to walk away until you can move forward in a positive manner.

5) You have to ensure understanding.
-Reiterate your feedback and hold them accountable to what you expect.

6) You have to be willing to move on after the feedback is given.
-You can't hold a grudge. You have to be willing to move forward without throwing it back  in the person's face. We can't hold people prisoner to things in the past.


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This week we're talking about "Romanticizing" our lives. We're going to talk about what it is, and how do we get there. Maybe it's time to learn from Gen Z and TikTok on this journey called life.

Tajah Ferjuste "YouTube" Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcXVFBUi_r91pyqgF1ZZiNQ 

Click here for the definition of Romanticize
Click here for the definition of Romantic

Recommended Books:
Four Agreements By Don Miguel Ruiz: https://www.miguelruiz.com/the-four-agreements 
The Four Agreements are:

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally.
3. Don't Make Assumptions.
4. Always Do Your Best.

You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience by Tarana Burke and Brene' Brown: https://www.amazon.com/You-Your-Best-Thing-Vulnerability/dp/0593243625

Seven Days in June by Tia Williams: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Days-June-Tia-Williams/dp/153871910X 

Things you can do to "romanticize your life":
1) Prioritize doing things that bring you joy often
2) Prioritize something daily that brings you joy 
3) Prioritize doing something daily that brings you joy no matter what happens 
4) Prioritize your content and the people you support via social media. 

People to check out:
1) Demetria Lucas, "A Belle in Brooklyn" and "Ratched and Respectable" Podcast: http://www.demetrialucas.com/

2) Mike Peele YouTube "20 to 39 minute dance classes": https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbx0nYywXrKpoMFT_1ZTYJwc

Previous episodes referenced this week:
Episode 72: Spaces: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8872025-spaces.mp3?download=true 

Episode 67: Possessing The Secret of Joy: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8641891-possessing-the-secret-of-joy.mp3?download=true 

Contact information for Pamela &  The Well Done Life Podcast:
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This week we're talking about being valued vs. tolerated. There have been too many times that we have allowed ourselves to be tolerated vs. valued in our professional & personal life. It's time to change that. Let's talk about what you can do to identify it and fix it. It won't be easy. But, we're in this together.

Episode 71 "The Art of STFU": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8804416-the-art-of-stfu.mp3?download=true

Nikole Hannah-Jones article on her declining UNC offer for Howard University: https://www.dailytarheel.com/article/2021/07/unc-nikole-hannah-jones-cbs-this-morning-interview

Tips to help you recognize whether you are "tolerated" or "valued":

1. If you feel that there is something not right, ask for clarity about the situation.
2. Try not to make assumptions
3. Control your emotions and be prepared for the answer you receive  
4. Take a moment to process what you uncover 
5. Be clear about what you want from the situation or person
6. Be impeccable with your words toward yourself and other people
7. Decide your course of action based on your personal boundaries

Don Miguel Ruiz "The Four Agreements": https://www.miguelruiz.com/the-four-agreements

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This week we're talking about the power or art in STFU. There are so many things going on, and we're going to talk about how you can preserve your peace and energy by learning the power of searching our motives before speaking on things.

Episode 70 "Never Would Have Made It": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8760618-never-would-ve-made-it.mp3?download=true


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This week I'm sharing my gratitude for making it to 70 episodes! We're also talking about the lessons that need to be learned during this pivotal time. This is a time for achieving great things while embracing the blessings that are around us during this time. It's all about the joy, intention, vision, alignment, and love this week.

Episode 67 "Possessing The Secret of Joy": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8641891-possessing-the-secret-of-joy.mp3?download=true

Episode 69 with Stephanie Rolon: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8716862-just-keep-going.mp3?download=true

Meaning of number 70: https://angelnumber.org/70-angel-number-meaning-and-symbolism/

My Seven Things To Remember When Manifesting Your Dreams: 

1. Intention takes a lot of cultivation
2. Clarity is key 
3. Seek out qualified resources and commit to applying them (give yourself 30 days minimum before giving up) 
4. Don’t let the acceptance of others define the direction of your dreams and/or life 
5. Invest in yourself 
6. Celebrate every win and acknowledge and learn from every failure 
7. Just start 

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I'm so excited to share a special guest this week. Please welcome Stephanie Rolon to the pod!
Born in Puerto Rico, Stefania Rolon decided one day to step out of her comfort zone and pursue her dreams. On January 12, 2018, her father, who was and will be her greatest source of inspiration, took her to the airport and with his blessing allowed her to venture and grow not only professionally, but spiritual growth, maturity and cultivate her self-love.
 This episode is for everyone who needs a little inspiration to just keep going!!

Stephanie's information:
https://www.instagram.com/stefania_rolon/?hl=en 

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This week is round 2 of  joy. This week we get a little clearer about what you can do to begin the process of "doing the work" to manifest joy and happiness.

Episode 67 "Possessing the Secret of Joy":  https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8641891-possessing-the-secret-of-joy.mp3?download=true

Five tips for beginning the journey to joy (Self-Awareness Work):

1. Check in with yourself: Is it time to bring someone else in to help you deal with your feelings? Do you have a supportive environment to process any feelings that can be holding you back?
2. Begin to look at what happiness/recognition/love/joy  looks like for you: This is your time to define what this feels like. What affirms you? Check out the " Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman : https://www.5lovelanguages.com
3. You have to put it into practice:  You need to be willing to look at the areas of your life that don’t make you happy and/or bring you joy and start making adjustments.Check out the "Year of Yes" by Shonda Rhimes: https://www.amazon.com/Year-Yes-Dance-Stand-Person/dp/1476777128 
4. You have to be your greatest cheerleader: You must be able to speak over yourself. This is going to help you stay focused as you're moving through the challenges that life will throw at you. 
5. Accountability: Use your voice to make sure that when you're not feeling affirmed, that you take steps to correct it. This is done through love with a desire to manifest growth. 

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This week it's all about joy. Let's talk about how happiness is the minimum, but joy needs to be the standard. Let's get clear on what joy looks and feels like. Let's also talk about how we need to ensure we're doing the work to ensure we're open enough to receive joy when it's presented to us. It's a journey, let's take it together.

Last week's episode  "Bring it On": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8608183-bring-it-on.mp3?download=true

Definition of Happiness (Merriam-Webster): https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/happiness

Definition of Joy (Merriam-Webster): https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/joy 

Gary Chapman's "The Five Love Languages: https://www.5lovelanguages.com
(Sorry about missing some in the episode. Here's the list.)

1. Quality Time
2. Acts of Service
3. Words of Affirmation 
4. Receiving Gifts
5. Physical Touch 

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This week we're talking more about vulnerability, and my continued love for "You Are Your Best Thing" by Tarana Burke and Brene' Brown. But, we also dive into how it important it is to remember that you're a baddie. It's important to heal, but it's also important to remember that you're amazing. So, let's dive into how we have to pivot vulnerability into being able to talk about our accomplishments and speak life into ourselves. Let's find some joy together!!

Last week's episode:
Episode 65: You Are Your Best Thing: https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8567052-you-are-your-best-thing.mp3?download=true

Tarana Burke and Brene' Brown's book on vulnerability, shame resilience, and the Black experience called You Are Your Best Thing:  https://www.amazon.com/You-Your-Best-Thing-Vulnerability/dp/0593243625 

Marc Lamont Hill: https://www.marclamonthill.com  (He's the contributor of the "Never Too Much" essay in "You Are Your Best Thing")



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This week is about the power of vulnerability  and creating space to grow through our pain. I also talk in depth about my experience and love of Tarana Burke and Brene Brown's book "You Are Your Best Thing". We get deep and hopefully build space for some healing and revelations.

Tarana Burke and Brene' Brown's book on vulnerability, shame resilience, and the Black experience called You Are Your Best Thing:  https://www.amazon.com/You-Your-Best-Thing-Vulnerability/dp/0593243625 

Episode 64: "How is Your Mental Health?": https://www.buzzsprout.com/851650/8526481-how-is-your-mental-health.mp3?download=true


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