Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Dr. Scherer and Dr. Sylvester sit down with co-host Ann Kelley, Ph.D., and break down helpful strategies when co-parenting, integrating attachment into disciplinary styles, and finding balance in our relationships. Introducing structural markers like the "7 Essential Attachment Needs" and emphasizing the importance of the "repair" aspect of relationships, this episode dives into the building blocks of secure parenting. Follow along to step into a grounded, empowering approach where you can deepen the connection with yourself and your loved ones.

Poverty, attachment, stress & research on mental health podcasts on today's episode w Sharon Lambert and Sue Marriott.

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Attachment 'insecurity" is, in part, a manifestation of patterns of unresolved stress in the child and by extension, the family. Therapists usually think of stress as interpersonal and dyadic; however, that needs to include the context we discuss on this podcast. Context means the circumstances or setting which helps to understand a process more deeply. As Sharon Lambert says in today's episode, you can't "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" if you have no boots. Sue Marriott and Sharon Lambert discuss the unconscious bootstraps communities have that cause blame towards those who are struggling.

There is no doubt that poverty impacts physical and emotional health, and thus lifting children out of poverty is a direct intervention in their well-being. Today's session also explores fascinating research on how people use mental health podcasts - join us! www.therapistuncensored.com/191.

You don't have to be totally healed from years of therapy under your belt or a history of secure attachment to develop skills for increased intimacy and secure relating. This is something that anybody, no matter their history, can begin to learn. Channeling your inner awareness to recognize a heightened state of arousal or using visualizations to help stay in a regulated place helps tap into your right brain to connect with yourself and your humanity. Ann and Sue navigate their personal examples, self-regulating tips, breaking out of their defensive "competitive head", and many more useful strategies to explore the ways we can move in the direction of secure connections. Show notes at TherapistUncensored.com/190

Hair-pulling, skin picking, and cheek, lip, & cuticle biting are self-soothing strategies that depending on degree can become body-focused repetitive behavioral disorders. Learn about a new attachment-informed psychodynamic model for treating these painful, shame-associated behaviors.

While we may not be fully aware when we are pulling and picking, these sorts of unconscious behaviors can be an indicator of dysregulation. Outside factors such as our environment, upbringing, and various traumas can all play a role in these self-soothing behaviors. Stacy Nakell is a pioneer in this field and has dedicated years to understanding and educating others on how to abandon shame and treat these behaviors. By blending attachment theory and neurobiological research, Nakell has helped rewire the ways in which we navigate these behaviors and brought forward new perspectives like viewing BFRBDs on a continuum and how these overlap with body dysmorphic disorders. Shownotes at www.therapistuncensored.com/189. Ad-free feed at www.therapistuncensored.com/join

Assumptions block our view of seeing the whole perspective and equip us with a bias that can make our relationships difficult to navigate. Not asking people personal questions or receiving feedback might be underlined unexamined bias. Whether your "moral compass" may get in the way, your assumptions form from cultural influence, or you even feel avoidant of those tougher conversations and just assume the other person is on the same page - this episode is for you.

Ann and Sue were on a role w disarming defenses so while this one isn't technically in that 5 part series that just wrapped up called "Disarming Human Defenses", let's call this one a hanger-on. Shownotes at www.therapistuncensored.com/188. Join our ad-free Neuronerd community www.therapistuncensored.com/join. Tks for stopping by!!

Throughout this five-session series, we've explored different defenses, self-reflection, and navigating our own internal systems. But how do we navigate something we aren't aware of in the first place? In this episode, Ann and Sue recap the material we've learned and take a dive into suppression versus repression. Organizing defenses on a continuum can help us tap into our own emotions, and better regulate our responses to the triggers of the world. However, it is also important to detach the narrative of being "good and bad," when it comes to our defenses, and recognize they are little parts of who we are that are constantly evolving. Whether it's projection, appearing to be a "know it all", power dynamics, ceding, or even being forgetful - we express our subconscious and conscious defenses in multiple ways. Follow along to connect with your own defenses and learn how to healthily disarm your patterns for emotional regulation.

Aggression is not a feeling - it is a goal-directed behavior that is frequently associated with feelings such as anger, fear and even hunger.  It is a vital energy that propels us forward with an intention. Aggression can be used for positive or negative gain, it is basically a resource to help us navigate our personal goals, increase intimacy within our relationships, and to act as a catalyst for change when paired with desire.  Follow along as Jeanne Bunker and Sue Marriott break down the negative connotations and provide perspective to harness this resource and help reclaim healthy aggression.  Shownotes at www.therapistuncensored.com/186.  Join our Neuronerd community at www.therapistuncensored.com/join.

Therapy boot camp - session 3 of a series of 5.

When you unconsciously deem "power" as what keeps you "safe" in vulnerable situations, reflecting and rewiring on this dynamic can transform your connections.

Human defenses are quite necessary to protect our nervous system and sense of self. The goal isn't to eliminate defenses - but to learn how to regulate them, especially in relationships. Defenses can often feel triggered when there is an uneven power dynamic expressed in a relationship and can be influenced by outside factors like gender socialization, culture, or personal history. Shownotes at www.therapistuncensored.com/185, join our exclusive neurnerd community for an ad-free feed plus perks at www.therapistuncensored.com/join

In the last episode, we explored what Sue and Ann call the 3-R spiral of change, Recognize, Reflect and Rewire.  We also identified various common defenses. In this episode, Ann & Sue break down the different areas of our brain and discuss the roles each can play in our defense responses. Understanding the critical interplay between the amygdala and hippocampus gives us more insight into our own behavior and sheds light on how our history can intrude today. They explain the concept of "coherent narrative" and discuss applying the 3 R Spiral to our relationships and personal healing. By blending neuroscience and these strategies, we can begin to sort through our unconscious defenses and rewire the ways in which we navigate our interpersonal world. Shownotes at www.therapistuncensored.com/184. Join our Neuronerd private community for an ad-free feed at www.therapistuncensored.com/join.