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In this episode, we hear a clip from a podcast where a man VERY PROUDLY explains that he only changes diapers if he's in a good mood, doesn't wake up with the babies during the night and acts like a child. We talk about the importance of reciprocity and the value of care.
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Disability Intimacy, edited by Alice Wong
We Do This Til We Free Us by Miriame Kaba
Constellations of Care by Cindy Barukh Milstein
Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer
Data on parenting!More Data on Parenting!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the mental load of parenting and the learning that is often assumed by partners socialized as female. We also talk community building through gardening, and, of course, neurodivergence!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this week's episode, we look at an AITA where someone's caught in a sticky friendship/family situation chock full of emotional labor. We talk about friendship, family, communication and empathy and all of the nuance that exists in our relationships.
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Domestic Violence Resources
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Laura and Crystal discuss submissions from our audience concerning loss of identity through self-sacrificing. Can we serve others, enjoy it, without sacrificing or losing who we are?Mentioned in this episode:
Financial Abuse ResourcesFresh Starts Registry
Mikki Kendall
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Domestic Violence Resources
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Crystal and Laura discuss a viral article from The Cut titled 'The Case for Marrying an Older Man'. The article argues that marrying an older man provides women with ease, flexibility, and liberation from the burdens of womanhood. Is that what's it doing?Mentioned in this episode:Rose Hackman's article, I was 14. He was 22. If it wasn't grooming, what is? bell hooks ain't I a womanHow to rent without credit! https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLBowGyy/
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this episode, we discuss a listener's email--she wants to know what to do if her partner is on board but, because of his ADHD, isn't able to follow through. We also touch on our own examples of how each of our neurodivergence shows up in our partnerships--how can we take responsibility for our actions and behaviors while also balancing disabilities and deficits?
Mentioned in this episode:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/disability-visibility-first-person-stories-from-the-twenty-first-century-alice-wong/13840332?ean=9781984899422
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this episode, we discuss common commentary along the lines of, "I'm not sure why you're so upset! I do what you ask. I never make demands of you. I'm fine, so it kind of seems like you're maybe just mad... to be mad." Oh, and the ole' "You're no fun anymore." EEk!
Mentioned in this episode:
https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2020/02/if-you-want-marriage-equals-then-date-equals/606568/
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/10/business/gen-z-dating-pay-etiquette.html
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Domestic Violence Resources
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By popular demand, Laura and Crystal review Love is Blind, season 6! Just in time for the finale, get all the hot takes on the newest season!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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Laura and Crystal discuss a comment left on Instagram--what happens when a partner insists on doing something in the house the "right" way? How do you tell if it's for a bigger reason than preference? Listen to find out!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a viral video, separation anxiety, and the existential crisis that is the internet. Join us in the fray!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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On the Time to Lean podcast with Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, we dig into the often-overlooked realities of domestic labor, care work, and household inequity. Through sharp cultural…
Laura, @thatdarnchat, is an educator and advocate. Crystal Britt, @itscrystalbritt, is a coach and licensed therapist in California. Find us on IG or join us on Patreon @ timetoleanpod for Ad-Free episodes, resources, book clubs, weekly virtual meet-ups and so much more!
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