Time to Lean

In this REPLAY episode, we revisit a discussion we had about common commentary along the lines of, "I'm not sure why you're so upset! I do what you ask. I never make demands of you. I'm fine, so it kind of seems like you're maybe just mad... to be mad." Oh, and the ole' "You're no fun anymore." EEk!

Mentioned in this episode:

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2020/02/if-you-want-marriage-equals-then-date-equals/606568/

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/10/business/gen-z-dating-pay-etiquette.html

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In this episode, we respond to a listener email from someone who is feeling stuck. Their partner says they're on board, but actions don't reflect those commitments. We explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the mental load, communication dynamics, and the concept of domestic equity. They discuss the challenges default partners face, the importance of setting boundaries, and the role of systems like Persist and Fair Play in managing household responsibilities.

What do you do when you're feeling gridlocked and considering options? We talk about the power of community support and self-care - REAL self-care.

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Is it your partner's job to make sure you get to work on time? In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a Reddit post about a woman who refuses to wake up her boyfriend in the morning, which has caused him to almost lose his job. They explore the dynamics of the relationship and the expectations placed on each partner. They also touch on the importance of allowing children to experience failure and develop problem-solving skills. The conversation highlights the need for self-advocacy and discernment in navigating relationships and personal growth. The conversation revolves around the dynamics of responsibility and accountability in a relationship where one partner has ADHD. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by the partner with ADHD in managing time and tasks, as well as the impact on the other partner. It explores the importance of self-awareness, communication, and mutual understanding in navigating these challenges. The conversation also touches on the need for individual independence and the potential consequences of relying too heavily on a partner for basic responsibilities.

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Original AITA Post on Reddit

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This week's episode, we cover an absolutely WILD RIDE of an Am I The Asshole where a woman runs to the internet to ask if she's the asshole for divorcing her husband over lids that are too tight. This may be a spoiler... but in this episode, we also delve into the topic of GASLIGHTING!!

A link to the original post

Gaslighting warning signs

Wikihow resource on gaslighting

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In this episode, Laura and Crystal are joined by Toi Smith to discuss capitalism, motherhood, and collective liberation. How are they related, and how do we see them affect our day-to-day as we provide care in our homes? 

Toi Marie Smith is a growth and impact strategist whose work centers on doing life, business, and motherhood differently. She works with people whose work is countercultural, liberatory, and revolutionary in nature...or people who desire and are committed to moving their work or lives in that direction. You can find Toi @toimarie on Instagram and at ToiMarie.com. 

Cannibal Capitalism

Caliban and the Witch

Care: The Highest Stage of Capitalism

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In this episode, we chat about the often-overlooked value of care work and the challenges of juggling work and family life. We share our personal stories about dealing with job insecurity, finding affordable childcare, and the mental toll it all takes. We also touch on how the pandemic has affected women’s roles at home and why it’s so important to push for fair pay and better support for care workers. It’s all about recognizing the value of care work and coming together to create a more balanced and caring society.

Post from Female Quotient

Fatherhood Bonus Article

A Decolonial Feminism

Braiding Sweetgrass

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Join us as we dive into the rollercoaster ride of decision-making in relationships! We tackle the hot topic of who does what at home and the mental juggling act that often leaves one person feeling like a circus performer. We'll chat about why it's crucial to have teamwork and open communication and explore the difference between handling the practical and emotional sides of a partnership and the art of finding a balance that works.

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On this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss all things Back-to-Schoo! If you have kids or teach them or babysit them or are around them, you have felt the heavy mental load of this time of year. Join us in discussing this episode in our Patreon, meet up with us on Tuesdays to connect and ask questions-AND you can listen to our episodes AD-FREE for as low as $5 a month!

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On this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the viral Ballerina Farm Time's Article. We delve into the unequal division of labor, the pressure on mothers to prioritize their kids and role as mom above all else, and the lack of autonomy and self-care for mothers.

Mentioned on this episode:

The viral Time's article on Ballerina Farm

All Fours by Miranda July

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In this episode, Laura speaks with Ellyce Fulmore, author of the national bestseller Keep Finance Personal, a book dedicated to helping neurodivergent individuals approach their finances without shame!

Find Ellyce @ellyce.fulmore, at Queerd Co., and on her podcast, Dopamine Dollars!

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