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We have a listener-submitted question! Queen of Group Projects wants to know if she should feel bad for wanting her partner to do his own tasks ON HIS OWN, rather than together. Crystal and Laura discuss the purpose of delegating tasks, the benefits of alone time, and how to connect outside of the mundane day-to-day!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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This week's episode has us grappled with some conflicted feelings. We discuss an AITA where someone asks if they're being a jerk by not helping their partner who says they're overwhelmed by the holiday tasks - the same tasks the original poster handled on their own for years. Scratch your head and spiral out along with us.
**Oops, you may notice this week's episode had the wrong audio on it! SORRY ABOUT THAT! - Laura
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Domestic Violence Resources
Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)
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This week's episode has us grappled with some conflicted feelings. We discuss an AITA where someone asks if they're being a jerk by not helping their partner who says they're overwhelmed by the holiday tasks - the same tasks the original poster handled on their own for years. Scratch your head and spiral out along with us.
You can find the resources we mention here: On our Patreon!
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Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod
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Domestic Violence Resources
Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)
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In this episode, we explore a viral video featuring a woman who always says she wants to relax, yet when the moment finally comes, she can’t help but get up and keep doing something around the house. We talk through the relatable feeling of never truly switching off, especially for women who feel that even their downtime at home has to be “productive.” Join us as we spiral through the compulsion to stay busy and how deeply it’s tied to societal expectations.
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Domestic Violence Resources
Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)
We <3 Data! Find some of the research we cited below!
https://dornsife.usc.edu/news/stories/moms-cognitive-burden-chores/
Gaps in free time
The cognitive load!
Time Use Data
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A very special episode, post-election. What now?
Resources:
National Domestic Violence Hotline
What Are My Values? Free Worksheet from Us
Fresh Starts Registry
Fresh Starts Experts (if you're in need of a financial advisor or therapist or anyone to walk you through next steps)
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Domestic Violence Resources
Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)
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Domestic Violence Resources
Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)
Resources Mentioned This Episode:
DBT Assertiveness Scripts: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/DBT-IE-4-Assertiveness-Scripts-and-Interpersonal-Rights-compressed.pdf
DBT Boundaries Worksheet: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/DBT-IE-8-Interpersonal-Boundaries-compressed.pdf
DBT What Are Interpersonal Boundaries?: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/interpersonal-effectiveness/interpersonal-boundaries/
Gottman Four Horsemen and Antidotes: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes/
DBT TIPP: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/distress-tolerance/tipp/
Distress Tolerance STOPP: https://www.hey.nhs.uk/wp/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/OHC_STOPP.pdf
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In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss Birthday Blues, expectations for partners, and how to move forward if they let you down.
Links:
Article from The Cut
Time to Read Book Club for October: Ace by Angela Chen!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this conversation, Laura and Crystal explore the dynamics of a viral video that highlights the emotional labor women often experience in relationships, particularly during crisis or stressful situations. Have you ever felt gaslit by a calmer partner? This one's for you.
Links:
Original post
Follow-Up Video
Time to Read Book Club for October: Ace by Angela Chen!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this episode, we interview Jessica Daylover, polyamorous storyteller, educator, mother of two and so much more - including Chief Executive Officer of the Nuclear Fusion App! Jessica shares her journey through motherhood, the challenges of raising a medically complex child, and her vision for community building through the Nuclear Fusion network. The conversation explores the importance of chosen families, the struggles of modern parenting, and the need for vulnerability and emotional intelligence in building connections. It's time to rethink traditional family structures and the value of community support in raising children.
Join us as we discuss the question that's constantly on our minds - how do we connect with people and build the community connections we so desperately want?
Check out the Nuclear Fusion App here!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this week's episode, Crystal reads Laura a story from a woman who faces a disastrous situation while recovering from abdominal surgery and heads to the internet to ask if she's overreacting for being upset. We don't want to spoil it... but she's definitely not overreacting.
Read the Reddit post here!
Get Ruth Whippman's book, Boy Mom
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Domestic Violence Resources
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On the Time to Lean podcast with Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, we dig into the often-overlooked realities of domestic labor, care work, and household inequity. Through sharp cultural…
Laura, @thatdarnchat, is an educator and advocate. Crystal Britt, @itscrystalbritt, is a coach and licensed therapist in California. Find us on IG or join us on Patreon @ timetoleanpod for Ad-Free episodes, resources, book clubs, weekly virtual meet-ups and so much more!
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