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Is there such a thing as "The One?" Is there such a thing as "choosing well" when it comes to a partner, or are we always looking to trade up to a "better model?" Laura and Crystal discuss a quote from Dean Spade's new book, "Love in a F*cked Up World."
Resources discussed in this episode:
We Grow the World Together
Becoming Kin
Emergent Strategies
Love in a F*cked Up World
Tribal Justice on PBS
Restorative Justice
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss recent viral videos that beg the question: When exactly does weaponized incompetence turn into emotional abuse? Is it always emotional abuse?
Resources from this Episode:
Fresh Starts Registry
TheHotline.Org
Power and Control Wheel
Cycle of Abuse Wheel
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Domestic Violence Resources
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Ever wonder if your standard for your partner is too high? Too low? Just right? In this episode, Laura and Crystal explore relationship dynamics when special circumstances like chronic illness and mental health are involved. How can a partnership like this be equitable in the domestic labor arena? Can it? Listen and tell us what you think!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this weeks episode Laura and Crystal read a message from a follower and explore the idea of “if they wanted to they would.” We also give some of our thoughts on how to self-reflect to find solutions that work for us.
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Statistics on Queerness and Neurodivergence
Stardust Cycle Tracker App
The Birds, Bees, and the Elephant in The Room by Rachel Coler Mullhulland
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this episode, we discuss a viral video of a stand-up comedian, whose punchline is how incompetent dads are. We're not laughing.
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this episode of Time to Lean, we share a wild story about a woman who had a three-year-old dropped into the seat next to her on a flight—without a word from the parents. 😳 This unbelievable situation had us thinking about the intense pressures of parenting in public spaces like airplanes. We dive into the anxiety of trying to "prepare for anything," the mental load we carry as parents, and how societal expectations shape the way we navigate these moments. We also explore the implications of neglecting child safety and how weaponized incompetence shows up in unexpected ways. Buckle up for this one—it’s a ride!
Here's the link to the original video!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the complexities of family dynamics, particularly in the context of a viral gender reveal and the emotional labor involved in navigating relationships. They explore the concept of the 'mama's boy' dynamic, the importance of setting boundaries, and the cultural contexts that influence these interactions. The conversation also touches on the emotional toll of familial expectations and the need for self-awareness in managing relationships, especially during the holiday season.
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Link to the original video!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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Laura and Crystal discuss a viral video that ironically covers not only the Nag Paradox but also the double-standard myth that working outside the home should make a partner exempt from working inside the home with the other partner.
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Link to the original video!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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You know the phrase "Happy Wife, Happy Life?" Well in this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a refreshing take on this tired saying by creator @livunderthestairs. They discuss how it can be reframed more equitably, emphasizing shared responsibilities and emotional labor in relationships.
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Link to the original video!
The Tragedy of Heterosexuality
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Domestic Violence Resources
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On this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the viral Ballerina Farm Time's Article. We delve into the unequal division of labor, the pressure on mothers to prioritize their kids and role as mom above all else, and the lack of autonomy and self-care for mothers.
Mentioned on this episode:
The viral Time's article on Ballerina Farm
Marie Claire's Article on the Evie Cover
All Fours by Miranda July
Sara Peterson's Article Re: Ballerina Farm
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Domestic Violence Resources
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On the Time to Lean podcast with Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, we dig into the often-overlooked realities of domestic labor, care work, and household inequity. Through sharp cultural…
Laura, @thatdarnchat, is an educator and advocate. Crystal Britt, @itscrystalbritt, is a coach and licensed therapist in California. Find us on IG or join us on Patreon @ timetoleanpod for Ad-Free episodes, resources, book clubs, weekly virtual meet-ups and so much more!
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