Healing Attachment Wounds: Navigating Tough Conversations with Love

Patricia discusses her ongoing work on attachment wounds and her recent conversation with her mother about her childhood. She emphasizes the privilege of being able to have these conversations and acknowledges that not everyone has that opportunity. Patricia also explores expectations in her relationship with Jen, highlighting the challenges of navigating attachment injuries. She shares an email from a listener expressing gratitude for her vulnerability and relatability. Patricia concludes by affirming the importance of honoring all of your feelings.

HIGHLIGHTS

Takeaways

·         Having conversations about attachment wounds with a parent or caregiver can be a healing and transformative experience, but it is a privilege that not everyone has.

·         The healing work can still happen even if you can’t do it with the person where the injuries originally happened.

·         The majority of healing work is done individually, with support from coaches or therapists, and having conversations with a parent or caregiver is just a small part of the process.

·         Navigating attachment and expectations in relationships can be challenging, especially for individuals with attachment injuries. It is important to communicate and share feelings with your partner (when it is safe and appropriate) to create understanding and connection.

·         Sharing vulnerability and authenticity can have a profound impact on others, as it helps them feel seen, heard, and less alone in their own struggles.

·         Embracing sensitivity and honoring all of our feelings, even the challenging ones, is an important part of self-care and self-acceptance.

Additional Concepts Covered

1. Embracing Vulnerability: Acknowledging and exploring emotional openness in healing.
2. Cultivating Empathy: Nurturing understanding and compassion in relationships.
3. Navigating Childhood Wounds: Understanding the impact of past experiences on present emotions.
4. Honoring Neurodiversity: Recognizing and respecting diverse cognitive perspectives.
5. Fostering Emotional Resilience: Building strength in facing emotional challenges.
6. Celebrating Individual Differences: Valuing unique ways of processing emotions.
7. Promoting Self-Care Practices: Encouraging personalized well-being routines.
8. Empowering Neurodiverse Voices: Amplifying diverse narratives in healing conversations.
9. Building Emotional Intelligence: Developing awareness and regulation of emotions.
10. Creating Safe Spaces: Establishing supportive environments for emotional expression.
11. Exploring Trauma Healing: Engaging in the process of emotional recovery and growth.
12. Supporting Coping Strategies: Assisting in developing effective ways to manage emotions.
13. Advocating for Inclusivity: Promoting acceptance and understanding in emotional discussions.
14. Navigating Complex Emotions: Understanding and processing intricate feelings.
15. Respecting Personal Boundaries: Honoring individual needs and comfort levels.
16. Amplifying Diverse Narratives: Elevating a range of experiences in emotional healing.
17. Encouraging Self-Reflection: Promoting introspection and self-awareness.
18. Embracing Neurodivergent Perspectives: Valuing unique viewpoints in emotional discussions.
19. Promoting Emotional Wellness: Supporting holistic well-being in emotional journeys.
20. Championing Self-Acceptance: Encouraging self-love and validation in emotional growth

Sound Bites

"I'm always touched and inspired by your authenticity and depth."

"I'm having feelings. Let's look at the feelings. What is the reality and do the work that I need to do."

"You have a right to all your feelings. You have a right to be loud. You have a right to be intense. You have a right to take up space."

Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction

00:00 Introduction and Update

02:00 The Healing Work and Reparenting Process

08:03 Challenges and Vulnerability in Conversations

14:06 Self-Care and Managing Attachment Injuries

29:01 Managing Change and Uncertainty

37:48 Gratitude for Vulnerability and Embracing Sensitivity

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

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Expansion and Contraction: Honoring Your Rhythms 

In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their personal experiences with stress, burnout, and the challenges of navigating relationships. They explore the importance of self-compassion, the need for rest and downtime, and the impact of attachment wounds on their interactions. They also touch on the concept of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the role of the 'self' in healing and growth.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

Jen and Patricia discuss stress, self-care, and finding joy in everyday moments. Topics include managing stress using insights from Emily & Amelia Nagoski's book, Burnout, and embracing self-compassion. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of self-care activities like crocheting, walking, paddling, resting, and watching TV for relaxation. Patricia and Jen share personal experiences, highlighting the value of open communication and supportive relationships in navigating challenges. Overall, the conversation offers practical tips for stress management, promoting well-being, and finding happiness in simple pleasures.

Takeaways

Practicing self-compassion and separating stressors from the stress response in the body can help manage burnout.

Honoring the body's need for rest and downtime is essential, even if it goes against societal expectations of productivity.

Navigating relationships can be challenging, especially when attachment wounds are triggered, but open communication and self-reflection can help repair and strengthen connections.

The concept of Internal Family Systems (IFS) emphasizes the importance of accessing the 'self' and its qualities of compassion, wisdom, and creativity in healing and growth.

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Personal Experiences with Stress and Burnout

02:52 The Importance of Rest and Downtime

08:11 Navigating Relationships and Attachment Wounds

14:11 The Role of the 'Self' in Healing and Growth

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cody by Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski

Jen’s Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia’s Links

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Managing Expectations: Showing Up for Yourself During Hard Times

Jen and Patricia discuss attachment wounds in their friendship. They explore the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and managing expectations. They highlight the need for compassion & understanding when dealing with attachment issues & emphasize the ongoing work of healing & growth. In this conversation, Patricia shares her recent experiences with conflict & how she navigated this. She discusses the importance of leaning into difficult emotions and listening to others without defensiveness.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

The conversation revolves around attachment injuries and the impact they have on relationships. Patricia explores the concept of self-care and the need to treat oneself with kindness and nurturing. The conversation highlights the different lenses through which people view relationships and the importance of understanding one's own biases. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the value of curiosity, compassion, and self-empowerment in navigating challenging situations.

In Depth Takeaways

·         Attachment injuries can impact relationships and trigger emotional reactions.

·         Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing and understanding attachment wounds.

·         Setting boundaries and managing expectations can help navigate attachment issues.

·         Compassion and understanding are essential in healing and growth.

·         Working on oneself and developing a strong inner relationship is key to managing attachment wounds. Leaning into difficult emotions and situations can lead to personal growth and understanding.

·         Listening without defensiveness allows for better communication and resolution in conflicts.

·         Self-care involves treating oneself with kindness and nurturing one's own needs.

·         Understanding one's own biases and lenses can improve relationships and communication.

·         Curiosity, compassion, and self-empowerment are essential in navigating challenging situations.

Additional Takeaways

1. Understanding emotional struggles: Gain insights into navigating complex emotions.
2. Communication strategies: Learn effective ways to express feelings and thoughts.
3. Attachment wounds exploration: Understand how past experiences impact relationships.
4. Self-reflection tools: Discover techniques for introspection and personal growth.
5. Compassion importance: Explore the role of empathy in fostering connections.
6. Relationship navigation: Tips for managing challenges in interpersonal dynamics.
7. Trauma healing techniques: Tools for addressing and healing past traumas.
8. Empathy and connection building: Foster deeper connections with others.
9. Self-care prioritization: Learn to prioritize self-care and well-being.
10. Embracing imperfections: Understand the value of self-acceptance and growth.
11. Emotional intelligence enhancement: Develop skills for understanding and managing emotions.
12. Healthy boundaries cultivation: Establish boundaries for healthier relationships.
13. Validation of experiences: Feel validated in your personal journey and struggles.
14. Self-discovery encouragement: Find inspiration for exploring your true self.
15. Personal growth support: Receive guidance for personal development and transformation.
16. Conflict resolution strategies: Learn techniques for resolving conflicts peacefully.
17. Resilience and strength building: Develop resilience to overcome challenges.
18. Effective listening techniques: Enhance your listening skills for better communication.
19. Vulnerability encouragement: Embrace vulnerability as a path to authenticity.
20. Positive change inspiration: Get motivated to make positive changes in your life.

Sound Bites

"The theme is attachment injuries."

"We all need a secure attachment."

"I really have learned to lean into whatever is going on for the moment and knowing that it will last for as long as it lasts."

"I was really able to listen instead of going into a place of defensiveness."

"This is the first time that I honestly thought I don't want to do relationships anymore because the feelings were so intense."

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Checking In

01:26 Attachment Injuries and Emotional Challenges

09:03 The Importance of Secure Attachment

11:18 Managing Expectations and Setting Boundaries

16:38 Learning to Show Up for Ourselves

18:30 Leaning into Difficult Emotions and Situations

19:40 Listening without Defensiveness in Conflict

24:35 The Importance of Self-Care and Nurturing

26:28 Understanding Biases and Lenses in Relationships

29:17 Curiosity, Compassion, and Self-Empowerment in Challenging Situations

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Jen’s Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia’s Links

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Attachment Wounds: OCD, Projection, Managing Dysregulation

Patricia candidly discusses her experiences with attachment wounds, OCD tendencies, projection and trauma responses with Jen, and how this is showing up in their relationship. Patricia shares what her OCD thoughts tend to look like. Through introspection and vulnerability, Patricia reflects on the impact of past traumas on her emotional well-being. Their dialogue underscores the importance of self-awareness, self-care, and resilience in healing from attachment-related struggles.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current emotional states and the challenges they are facing. Patricia shares her struggles with attachment wounds, OCD, and trauma triggers, while Jen offers support and understanding. They explore the concept of projection and how it affects their interactions. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and creating space for emotions. Overall, the conversation highlights the complexities of relationships and the need for compassion and empathy.

Takeaways:

1. Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques.
2. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships.
3. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior.
4. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas.
5. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges.
6. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships.
7. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication.
8. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression.
9. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion.
10. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being.
11. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk.
12. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics.
13. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences.
14. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships.
15. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception.
16. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt.
17. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others.
18. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles.
19. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth.
20. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being.
21. Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques.
22. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships.
23. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior.
24. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas.
25. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges.
26. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships.
27. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication.
28. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression.
29. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion.
30. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being.
31. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk.
32. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics.
33. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences.
34. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships.
35. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception.
36. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt.
37. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others.
38. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles.
39. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth.
40. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being.

Chapters (please allow for addition of introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Emotional States

09:01 Exploring Attachment Wounds and Trauma Triggers

30:00 Building Stronger Relationships through Compassion and Empathy

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Jen’s Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia’s Links

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

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Attachment Wounds: A Follow Up Conversation

Jen and Patricia reflect on their recent challenge (see episode 241), and they discuss the importance of taking responsibility for their own needs and emotions. They explore the impact of attachment wounds and the challenges of navigating relationships. They talk about what trauma and reenactment looks like in a relationship. They also discuss the need for self-care and the importance of managing expectations. This is a very vulnerable and open conversation.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences and the impact it had on their relationship. They explore the challenges of change and disruption, the importance of naming and validating emotions, and the process of healing from past trauma. They also touch on the dynamics of their friendship and the need for autonomy and understanding. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of holding space for each other and navigating through difficult emotions with patience and curiosity. In this conversation.

Takeaways

·         Change and disruption can be challenging.

·         Naming and validating emotions is powerful and can help in moving forward.

·         Healing from past trauma requires self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's own healing process.

·         Navigating difficult emotions in relationships requires patience, understanding, and the ability to hold space for each other. Taking responsibility for our own needs and emotions is essential in relationships.

·         Attachment wounds can impact our expectations and behaviors in relationships.

·         Self-care and managing expectations are important for maintaining healthy relationships.

·         Open and honest communication can lead to growth and healing.

Sound Bites

·         "Change and disruption are difficult for me"

·         "Letting it be okay to say it's annoying"

·         "The power of naming things and how validating it is"

·         "It's the openheartedness really."

·         "Adulthood in many ways is a myth except for taxes and stuff."

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Frustrations

08:03 Reenactment and Taking Responsibility

25:49 Openheartedness and Taking Responsibility

34:00 Accepting Unmet Needs

40:39 Managing Expectations

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Jen’s Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia’s Links

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

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Attachment Wounds: When You Can’t Work It Out In The Moment

Patricia reflects on her attachment wounds & something that happened with Jen. She emphasizes that the issue was not a rupture in her relationship, but rather her own trauma and wounding. She reassures listeners that they are doing fine & have navigated the situation with honesty & grace. Patricia also touches on the importance of doing personal work & finding others who are also committed to growth. She encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity & prioritize their own needs and boundaries.

HIGHLIGHTS

Takeaways

·         Attachment wounds can surface unexpectedly and it's important to seek consent before sharing personal experiences.

·         Healing from trauma and wounding requires individual work and support from others who are also committed to growth.

·         Embracing sensitivity means honoring one's own needs and setting boundaries.

·         Challenges in relationships are normal and can be navigated with honesty and grace.

·         Validation and reassurance are important in maintaining a sense of safety and regulation.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

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Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment

Patricia and Jen discuss navigating uncertainty and overwhelm, managing change and unexpected situations, balancing personal needs, the power of communication and validation, finding meaning and value in relationships, coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking, choosing to assume the best, managing energy and boundaries, secure attachment and autonomy, dealing with uncertainty and seeking information, taking care of yourself in travel. They also reflect on their friendship

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

Patricia and Jen discuss various topics including body image, grief, historical trauma, emotional support, communication, and family dynamics. Patricia shares her personal experiences and emotions surrounding her son leaving for boot camp, which triggers both current and historical grief. They explore the importance of emotional attunement and the impact of different processing styles on relationships. The conversation highlights the need for compassion, understanding, and open communication in navigating intense emotions and supporting one another.

Takeaways

·         Body image concerns can impact self-perception and emotional well-being.

·         Grief can be triggered by current events and activate historical trauma.

·         Emotional support and attunement are crucial in navigating intense emotions.

·         Open communication and understanding of different processing styles can strengthen relationships. Navigating uncertainty and overwhelm can be challenging, but finding ways to manage change and unexpected situations can help.

·         Balancing personal needs and family expectations is important for maintaining well-being.

·         Effective communication and validation can strengthen relationships and provide support during difficult times.

·         Coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking requires self-awareness and the ability to assume the best in uncertain situations.

·         Taking care of oneself and setting boundaries is crucial for managing energy and maintaining emotional well-being.

·         Seeking information and being proactive can help reduce uncertainty and increase feelings of security.

·         Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.

·         Taking care of oneself during travel, such as having snacks and staying hydrated, can help manage stress and anxiety.

·         Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.

·         Reflecting on friendship and growth can bring appreciation and gratitude for the journey.

Additional topics discussed:

1. Exploring the complexities of loss, grief, and change in personal experiences.
2. Normalizing and validating diverse ways of coping with sadness and challenges.
3. Reflecting on the interplay between present circumstances and past narratives.
4. Nurturing compassion and gentleness in relationships to facilitate healing.
5. Recognizing the value of secure attachments in both personal and life contexts.
6. Strategies for dealing with uncertainty and finding resources for support.
7. Cultivating wisdom in distinguishing between controllable and uncontrollable aspects of life.
8. The power of communication in addressing needs within relationships.
9. Overcoming codependency and setting healthy boundaries in interactions.
10. Embracing vulnerability and authenticity in sharing personal experiences.
11. Balancing self-expression with consideration for others in relationships.
12. Addressing feelings of inadequacy and the need for self-affirmation.
13. Seeking empowerment through information and planning in uncertain situations.
14. Building resilience through shared experiences and mutual support.
15. Fostering a sense of autonomy and self-assurance amidst societal pressures.

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Checking In

00:28 Body Image and Self-Perception

07:09 Intense Grief and Emotional Support

08:02 Communication and Emotional Boundaries

12:09 Processing Grief and Emotional Reactions

14:58 Capacity for Emotional Support

20:06 Last Moments and Emotional Vulnerability

21:05 Navigating Uncertainty and Overwhelm

22:01 Managing Change and Unexpected Situations

23:24 Balancing Personal Needs and Family Expectations

25:17 The Power of Communication and Validation

26:15 Finding Meaning and Value in Relationships

27:09 Coping with Anxiety and Catastrophic Thinking

28:03 Choosing to Assume the Best

29:00 Managing Energy and Boundaries

29:26 Secure Attachment and Autonomy

30:18 Dealing with Uncertainty and Seeking Information

32:35 Taking Care of Yourself in Travel

38:33 Finding Security in Relationships and Life

40:18 Reflecting on Friendship and Growth

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

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Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined

Summary

Patricia discusses the wound of too much and how it can impact relationships. Too much is about BOTH people and the capacity of the other person. This is a narrative that needs to be reexamined, and the context of both people needs to be addressed. She explores the intersection of neurodivergence, trauma, and socialization. Patricia also explores the concept of rules, and how through an autistic lens, this can create some challenges.

HIGHLIGHTS

Takeaways

The wound of feeling like you're too much can stem from trauma and socialization of neurotypical norms.

Understanding and respecting one's own capacity and the capacity of others is crucial in communication.

Navigating relationships as a neurodivergent individual requires open and honest conversations.

Embracing sensitivity and accepting oneself is essential for personal well-being.

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

Points made in this episode:

• Exploring the concept of the "wound of too much" in relationships and self-perception.
• Addressing the impact of past traumas and relationship experiences on feeling "too much."
• Discussing the importance of understanding and respecting personal and others' capacities.
• Emphasizing the need for setting healthy boundaries to overcome the "wound of too much."
• Highlighting the dynamics of communication and capacity in relationships.
• Encouraging empathy and consideration for others' limits in interactions.
• Recognizing the interconnectedness of personal wounds of "too much" and "not enough."
• Offering strategies for balancing enthusiasm and respecting others' capacities.
• Challenging the narrative that focuses solely on one person being "too much."
• Advocating for a shift towards understanding and honoring both individuals' capacities.
• Discussing the challenges faced in relationships between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals.
• Providing insights on communication, boundaries, and self-awareness in relationships.
• Emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding and communication in addressing capacity issues.
• Exploring the nuances of being perceived as "too much" and the impact on self-esteem.
• Encouraging self-acceptance, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy connections.

00:00 Introduction and Setting the Topic

01:36 The Wound of Too Much

06:21 PDA Profile and Autonomy

07:52 Socialization and Autistic Females

10:16 Stimming and Accommodations

11:34 Navigating Communication and Social Cues

13:17 The Fear of Being Too Much

14:07 The Influence of Others' Opinions

18:22 Shifting the Narrative: Capacity of Both Parties

20:11 Navigating Relationships with Limited Insight

21:10 Personal Examples and Communication

23:35 Finding Balance in Showing Interest

24:05 Conclusion and Encouragement

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

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Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm

Patricia discusses her experience when her husband is away. She shares her journey of managing attachment wounds, and the challenges of household responsibilities. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and ADHD on her ability to stay on top of things. She emphasizes the importance of honoring autonomy and considering others while maintaining a sense of self. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to trust themselves and find comfort in their own needs and wiring.

HIGHLIGHTS

Takeaways

Learning to trust yourself and find peace in your own rhythm.

Managing attachment wounds and fear of being alone.

Balancing household responsibilities and find ways to stay on top of things.

Honoring autonomy and consider others while maintaining a sense of self.

Additional takeaways:

• Recognize the evolution of coping strategies over the years.
• Understand the impact of attachment wounds on relationships.
• Explore ways to manage feelings of fear and insecurity.
• Discover the importance of staying connected during separations.
• Learn how to anchor oneself to a support system.
• Reflect on the challenges of maintaining responsibilities solo.
• Identify the role of communication in long-distance relationships.
• Explore personal growth through periods of solitude.
• Acknowledge the significance of self-care during partner's absence.
• Reflect on the journey of building trust and resilience.
• Consider the balance between independence and interdependence.
• Explore strategies for regulating emotions during separations.
• Understand the dynamics of individual growth within a relationship.
• Reflect on personal boundaries and self-compassion.
• Discover the power of vulnerability in relationships.

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Background

00:56 Attachment Wounds and Fear of Being Alone

03:04 Trusting the Process

04:24 Autistic Burnout and ADHD

05:19 Autonomy and Consideration of Others

06:47 Guilt and Honoring Autonomy

07:36 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

09:13 Taking Care of Pets

11:08 Autonomy and Space in Relationships

13:03 Trusting Yourself and Letting Go of Tension

16:29 Transitioning and Adjusting

22:30 Processing and Communication

24:43 Non-Traditional Relationships and Balance

26:09 Trusting Yourself and Finding Peace

28:47 Honoring Your Needs and Wired

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

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Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships

Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of unmasking and being authentic in relationships including the role of PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). They explore the narratives we have about ourselves and how they can impact our interactions with others. They also delve into the differences in communication styles and perspectives, and the importance of embracing who we are. The conversation highlights the need to navigate personal dynamics and self-reflection in order to foster understanding and growth.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Takeaways

·         Unmasking involves recognizing and embracing our authentic selves, even if it brings up discomfort or challenges in relationships.

·         Differences in communication styles and perspectives can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, but it's important to approach these differences with curiosity and compassion.

·         Challenging the narratives we have about ourselves and others can help us break free from limiting beliefs and foster healthier relationships.

·         Navigating personal dynamics requires open communication, self-reflection, and a willingness to honor our own needs while respecting the autonomy of others.

More about unmasking

• Unmasking involves revealing one's authentic self and needs in relationships.
• It can bring up feelings of selfishness or discomfort when prioritizing personal authenticity.
• The author discusses the challenge of balancing personal needs with making others feel comfortable.
• Self-awareness plays a role in navigating the discomfort that may arise from unmasking.
• The author highlights the importance of authenticity in fostering genuine connections in relationships.
• Embracing one's true self involves acknowledging and communicating personal preferences and boundaries.

Chapters (please adjust time for the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage

08:03 Unmasking and Authenticity

12:05 Differences in Perspectives and Communication Styles

26:13 Struggles with Identity and Unmasking

30:05 Levels of Experience and Narrative

35:26 Navigating Personal Dynamics and Self-Reflection

36:06 Closing Remarks

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Jen’s Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia’s Links

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

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