Unapologetically Sensitive

Coping and Prepatory Strategies for Overstimulating Situations

Summary

In this episode, Patricia discusses her experiences with content creation, coping strategies for overstimulation, and managing sensory sensitivities during significant life events like weddings. She shares insights on emotional preparation, adjusting to changes in family dynamics, and maintaining a healthy work-life balance to prevent burnout. Throughout the conversation, she emphasizes the importance of self-care, embracing imperfection, and recognizing the rights of individuals to rest and be themselves.

HIGHLIGHTS

· I struggle with overstimulation at events.

· Earplugs help me manage sensory sensitivities.

· Having a plan can reduce anxiety before events.

· It's okay to slow down and take breaks.

· I feel a little jealous of my husband's attention to our kids.

· Managing workload is about finding balance.

· I have a right to rest and take care of myself.

· Sensitivity is nothing to apologize for.

· Embracing imperfection is key to self-acceptance.

SOUND BITES

"Done is better than perfect."

"It's okay to slow down."

"I have a right to rest."

SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED

· You have a right to rest.

· you have a right to push through.

· you have a right to be nervous and anxious and to overthink.

· You have a right to use tools that help you.

· You have a right to be stimmy and happy and loud and bouncy.

· You have a right to be quiet and reserved and to rest and to take care of yourself.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Navigating Content Creation Challenges

01:22 Coping Strategies for Overstimulation

05:35 Managing Sensory Sensitivities at Events

10:17 Emotional Preparation for Major Life Events

15:42 Adjusting to Changes in Family Dynamics

18:45 Work-Life Balance and Preventing Burnout

25:22 Overcoming Perfectionism and Embracing Imperfection

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

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Overstimulation & Recharge and the Impact on Relationships

In this conversation, Patricia explores the themes of overstimulation, the importance of recharging, and the dynamics of friendship, particularly in the context of neurodivergence. She shares her personal experiences with protesting, the challenges of feeling safe in crowds, and the emotional complexities of friendships, including rejection sensitivity, and the trauma that many Autistics have experienced in relationships. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-care, understanding one's limits, and the significance of connection in navigating life's challenges.

HIGHLIGHTS

· We often need to recharge after overstimulation.

· Protesting can be a positive experience despite initial fears.

· It's important to communicate needs in friendships.

· Rejection sensitivity can affect how we perceive relationships.

· Predictability and routine can provide comfort for neurodivergent individuals.

· Self-care is essential for emotional regulation.

· Understanding our triggers can help in managing our responses.

· Friendships can change, and it's okay to let go.

· We should honor our sensitivity and the way we connect with others.

· It's important to recognize that not everyone is meant for us.

SOUND BITES

"You have a right to rest."

"You are not meant for everyone."

SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED

You have a right to reach out to friends.

You have a right to rest.

You have a right to be playful.

You have a right to be serious and quiet.

Our idea of fun is not always what a neurotypical's idea of fun is, and that could be studying a language, studying something that you're interested in, doing a craft project, spending time with animals.

You have a right to be quiet.

You have a right to be loud.

You are not meant for everyone and everyone is not meant for you.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Navigating Overstimulation and Recharge

06:04 Experiencing Protest: A Personal Journey

11:54 Friendship Dynamics and Rejection Sensitivity

18:48 Patterns of Engagement and Disengagement

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

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Performative Expectations vs. Honoring Your Neurodivergent (AuDHD) Needs

In this conversation, Patricia discusses the challenges of navigating personal truths, autonomy, and performative expectations, particularly as an AuDHDer. Patricia reflects on her struggles with body image, the importance of self-trust, the need for autonomy (PDA), honoring her needs as a neurodivergent human, and prioritizing her comfort. She also addresses social anxiety, the joy of spontaneity, and the balance between assertiveness and sensitivity in relationships. Ultimately, Patricia emphasizes personal growth and the acceptance of one's unique identity through the planning and execution of her son's wedding.

HIGHLIGHTS

· Navigating personal truths is essential for autonomy, and working with PDA (pervasive or persistent drive for autonomy)

· Performative expectations can override the needs of the human.

· Body image issues are apt to come up when asked to wear clothes one doesn't normally wear.

· Self-trust is crucial in making personal choices.

· Finding comfort in clothing is important for self-regulation, and feeling authentic.

· Fear of overwhelm and dysregulation can be mitigated with preparation.

· Embracing spontaneity can enhance connections with others.

· Assertiveness is necessary in family dynamics.

· Personal growth often comes from challenging experiences.

· Sensitivity is a strength, not a weakness.

SOUND BITES

"This is not about getting married."

"I felt so present."

"I really wanted to honor the bride."

"I was very disheartened."

"I fell in love with it."

SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED

You have a right to trust that you are exactly where you need to be. There's not anything you need to do. Your value and worth does not come from being productive. You can be stimmy. You can be joyful. You can be quiet.

You can be assertive.

You can be moving your body.

You can be still.

You can want to touch all of the dogs in the world, and all of the horses.

You can want to be left alone.

You can enjoy being with people not being with people.

Every single part of you is okay exactly the way you are.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Navigating Personal Truths and Autonomy

03:01 The Impact of Performative Expectations

05:55 Body Image and Self-Trust

09:11 Finding Comfort in Personal Choices

12:11 Overcoming Social Anxiety and Overstimulation

14:52 Embracing Spontaneity and Connection

18:08 Balancing Assertiveness and Sensitivity

20:46 Reflections on Personal Growth and Relationships

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

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Lessons From the Past and Moving Forward

In this episode, Patricia reconnects after a long break to discuss personal growth through relationships, dealing with OCD, and navigating self-disclosure. Patricia shares experiences with past friendships, lessons learned, and the journey of forming new connections while managing neurodivergence. Tips for content creation and future podcast plans are also highlighted.

HIGHLIGHTS

· Patricia's return to podcasting after a long hiatus.

· Struggles with OCD and its impact on relationships.

· The emotional journey of navigating challenges in a significant friendship.

· The importance of respecting privacy and boundaries in self-disclosure.

· Learning from past relationships and embracing outcomes.

· Reconnecting with old friends and forming new connections at 61.

· The impact of neurodivergence on forming and maintaining relationships.

· The significance of reciprocal relationships and understanding others' limitations.

· Realizing the need for balanced expectations in friendships.

· Reflections on societal pressures for lifelong friendships.

· The role of stress and personal triggers in relationship dynamics.

· Exploring new creative projects and podcast collaborations.

· The challenges and rewards of working with a co-host on a new podcast.

· Differences in preferences and vision while designing a new podcast logo.

· Plans for shorter, more manageable podcast episodes moving forward.

· The importance of embracing vulnerability and authenticity in content creation.

· Steps taken to ensure the sustainability of the podcast.

· Emphasizing self-acceptance and the value of personal growth.

· Encouragement to reach out for personal coaching and share feedback on the podcast.

SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOU'RE WIRED

It's okay to have hard times.

It's okay to feel lonely.

It's okay to feel lonely when you're with a bunch of people.

It's okay to not be okay.

It's okay to be happy, joyful, and stimmy.

It's okay to be quiet and reserved.

It's okay to want to be out and doing things. It's okay to want to be in your bed, in your home where it's cozy and comfy.

There is no way that you can screw up being who you are because who you are is really okay.

It's even when it feels like you're not okay.

You are enough.

You are perfect as you are.

You're wired differently and finding people that are wired like you can really make a difference.

If you have that great and if you don't have it

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

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Taking a Podcast Break: Self-Acceptance & Self-Worth

Patricia announces that she will be taking a break from the podcast. She discusses the challenges of OCD and attachment injuries in relationships and shares tools that have been helpful for her, such as identifying wants, needs, desires, and expectations. She also talks about the importance of rupture and repair work in therapy and coaching relationships. Patricia expresses gratitude to all the listeners, and emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and self-worth.

HIGHLIGHTS

Takeaways

Taking breaks for self-care and healing is important, even in professional endeavors.

Identifying wants, needs, desires, and expectations can help navigate relationships and attachment injuries.

Rupture and repair work in therapy and coaching relationships can strengthen the therapeutic alliance.

Self-acceptance and self-worth are essential for personal growth and well-being.

Sound Bites

"I'm going to be taking a break from the podcast."

"We struggle, especially if you're neurodivergent, if you're autistic, if you identify as a highly sensitive person."

"I can regulate on my own and I am able to stay connected."

Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction

00:00 Taking a Break for Healing and Self-Care

02:16 Navigating Relationships and Attachment Injuries

04:10 Tools for Identifying Wants, Needs, Desires, and Expectations

09:41 The Challenges of Containing Emotions in Relationships

15:04 The Power of Rupture and Repair in Therapy and Coaching

20:37 Embracing Self-Acceptance and Self-Worth

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Attachment Injuries and OCD: The Healing Continues

Summary

Patricia discusses her experience with OCD and attachment injuries while Jen, is on vacation. She explores her fears and insecurities about asking for support and needing connection. Patricia reflects on the importance of consistent communication and creating containers to improve nervous system regulation. She also delves into her childhood experiences of feeling invisible and not belonging, and how this impacts current relationships.

HIGHLIGHTS

Takeaways

· Consistent communication and connection can help soothe attachment injuries and provide a sense of security.

· It's important to ask for support and express your needs, even if it feels uncomfortable or vulnerable.

· Childhood experiences of feeling invisible or not belonging can impact current relationships, but healing and corrective experiences are possible.

· Managing medication and mood during challenging times requires self-awareness and flexibility.

· Sensitivity is nothing to apologize for, and everyone has the right to take up space and ask for what they need.

Ways to navigate attachment injuries and related OCD

· Acknowledge and accept personal wounds and trauma.

· Establish consistent connections with a supportive individual.

· When possible, engage in regular communication to ease nervous system and promote relaxation.

· Reflect on past experiences to differentiate from current relationships.

· Practice self-awareness and internal reflection.

· Identify personal needs and communicate them.

· Let go of expectations and embrace uncertainty

· Challenge negative thoughts and OCD lies.

· Stay present and focused on current tasks.

· Acknowledge intrusive thoughts without acting on them.

· Engage in corrective work to address attachment injuries.

· Cultivate a sense of security and belonging through consistent connections.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Setting the Context

01:29 Navigating OCD and Attachment Injuries

08:05 The Importance of Consistent Communication

20:38 Healing Childhood Wounds in Relationships

26:08 Managing Medication and Mood

29:18 Embracing Sensitivity and Taking Up Space

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

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Annoyance & Acceptance: Managing Emotions in Friendships

Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of naming and accepting emotions, including annoyance, as well as the challenges of communication and managing expectations in their friendship. They share personal experiences and strategies for navigating difficult feelings, emphasizing the value of patience and trust in their conversations. They discuss concepts like nonviolent communication and the impact of attachment wounds on relationships.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences with physical activity and the importance of setting realistic expectations. They explore the tendency to have all-or-nothing thinking and the need for flexibility and self-compassion. Patricia shares her recent experiences with medication and managing her OCD symptoms. In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss Patricia's experience with OCD and how it affects her relationships. They explore the challenges of managing dysregulation and the importance of communication and authenticity in navigating difficult emotions. They also touch on the impact of past traumas on current relationships and the need for self-compassion and setting boundaries. The conversation highlights the importance of accepting and expressing emotions and the value of being honest about one's limitations.

Takeaways

Setting realistic expectations and being flexible is important when trying new activities.

Naming and accepting emotions is crucial for self-awareness and healthy relationships.

Communication and managing expectations are key in maintaining strong friendships.

Medication can be helpful in managing symptoms, but self-awareness and self-compassion are also important. OCD can manifest in different ways, such as excessive worry and fear of harm to loved ones.

Managing dysregulation can be challenging, and reaching out for support is important.

Authenticity and open communication are key in navigating difficult emotions and maintaining healthy relationships.

It's important to recognize and address past traumas that may impact current relationships.

Setting boundaries and being honest about one's limitations is crucial for self-care and maintaining healthy relationships.

Sound Bites

· "I went kickboxing. Yes, it was so much fun."

· "Finding ways to really lower the bar to just get my body there."

· "Are there ways that you can create a little bit more flexibility and options so that your life works for you?"

· "I worry every morning that my husband, you know, is dead."

· "I felt very disconnected from you, like everything just felt meh."

· "I wonder if you remembered about recording and you didn't say anything about recording."

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Kickboxing Experience

01:54 Setting Realistic Expectations and Lowering the Bar

04:15 Embracing Emotions and Practicing Self-Compassion

06:16 Communication and Expectations in Friendships

08:43 Managing Symptoms: Medication and Self-Awareness

20:43 Dysregulation and Feeling Disconnected

24:47 Navigating Uncertainty and Hurt Feelings

29:26 Being Present and Authentic in Relationships

33:18 Addressing Past Traumas and Setting Boundaries

40:13 The Importance of Honesty and Saying No

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Diane Poole-Heller: https://dianepooleheller.com/

Jen's Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

The Importance of Self-Regulation, Self-Compassion and Connection

Patricia discusses her feelings of annoyance and disappointment when her scheduled recording with Jen is cancelled. The conversation highlights the complexities of managing emotions and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. She also discusses her experience of transitioning from an expansive state to a contractive state and the challenges that come with it. She talks about managing dysregulation, the impact of trauma work and OCD, and the importance of self-compassion.

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

Patricia explores her attachment style, OCD, and preoccupation with Jen, as well as her efforts to regulate her nervous system. Patricia also reflects on the challenges that arise from the different ways she and Jen navigate time and commitments. She emphasizes the importance of self-regulation and the need for connection in her relationship with Jen. Overall,

Takeaways

· Different individuals have different attachment styles and ways of navigating time and commitments.

· Self-regulation is important for managing emotions and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships.

· Open communication and understanding can help navigate challenges in relationships.

· Recognizing and challenging OCD lies can prevent spiraling into negative thought patterns.

· Transitioning between expansive and contractive states is a normal part of being human.

· Managing dysregulation and finding ways to self-soothe are important during contractive states.

· Trauma work and OCD can add additional challenges to the process.

· Self-compassion and acceptance of all emotions and experiences are crucial.

· Validation and support from others can help navigate difficult times.

· Fears and anxieties as a parent are valid and should be acknowledged and addressed.

Sound Bites

"I'm annoyed and I'm disappointed."

"I have a need to be, feel like we've got autonomy over things."

"Timeliness, making commitments about things often are more challenging for her."

"I noticed probably about a week ago, I went into what I call an expansive state."

"I know that I do not maintain this expansive state and that at some point I will drop back into a contractive state."

"It felt nice to go into this very expansive space and I could feel myself kind of dropping down out of it."

Chapters

Navigating Attachment Styles and Time Management

Uncertainty and Preoccupation in Relationships

Challenging OCD Lies and Managing Emotions

Communication and Understanding in Relationships

Navigating the Expansive and Contractive States

Managing Dysregulation and Self-Soothing

Challenges of Trauma Work and OCD

The Power of Self-Compassion

Validating Fears and Anxieties

Finding Support and Acceptance

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

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Navigating Reconnection after Rupture: Messiness Is a Healthy Part of Relationships

Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of reconnecting after a rupture in their relationship. They explore the fear of not being able to get back to normal and the desire for rupture and repair in significant relationships. They also discuss the importance of authenticity, setting boundaries, and being clear about needs and expectations. They touch on topics such as OCD, panic attacks, and the process of growth and transformation.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current emotional states and the challenges they are facing. They explore topics such as discomfort, identity, accuracy in sharing personal experiences, and the process of unmasking. They also touch on the importance of honoring individual processes and the impact of communication and responsiveness in relationships. Patricia shares her experiences with OCD and the need for connection, while Jen reflects on the need for self-care and exploring new directions. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness, authenticity, and growth.

Takeaways

· Honor your own process and don't feel pressured to share or show up in a certain way.

· Recognize the impact of communication and responsiveness in relationships.

· Embrace self-awareness and explore new directions for personal growth.

· Practice authenticity and unmasking to find joy and connection. Reconnecting after a rupture in a relationship can be challenging and may require starting over to rebuild the connection.

· Fear of not being able to get back to normal after a rupture is common, but rupture and repair are a natural part of significant relationships.

· Authenticity, setting boundaries, and clear communication about needs and expectations are essential for maintaining healthy relationships.

· It is important to recognize and manage conditions like OCD and panic attacks, and to seek support and self-care when needed.

· Growth and transformation in relationships require navigating uncertainty and being open to change.

Sound Bites

· "Hey, Patricia, that feels like a trick question these days."

· "I'm feeling a little uncomfortable."

· "I get excited that we're willing to talk about some of the things that are difficult."

· "But it's not like when I reconnect with you, I go oh, we're connected. It's like I lose that and we almost have to start over again for me to get that connection."

· "The if onlys, right? The if only we do this right, then we're never gonna have to do it again."

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Expressing Discomfort

03:02 Navigating Identity and Accuracy in Sharing

07:58 The Impact of Communication and Responsiveness

11:52 Embracing Self-Awareness and Exploring New Directions

23:38 Reconnecting After Rupture

28:22 Authenticity and Setting Boundaries in Relationships

30:15 Managing Conditions like OCD and Panic Attacks

32:20 The Process of Growth and Transformation in Relationships

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Diane Poole-Heller: https://dianepooleheller.com/

Jen's Links

Email: [email protected]

Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia's Links

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Taking up Space and Expressing Your Feelings is Important for Healing Attachment Injuries

Patricia shares her experiences of her recent trip to Chicago. She discusses the challenges she faced in navigating changes in plans and the emotions that arose during her son's graduation from boot camp. Patricia also explores the importance of creating a secure attachment in her relationship with Jen and the need to ask for what she wants and needs with both Jen and her son. She emphasizes the significance of taking up space, expressing feelings, and finding support in managing attachment injuries.

HIGHLIGHTS

Takeaways

· Navigating changes in plans and unexpected events can be challenging, especially for individuals with attachment injuries.

· Creating a secure attachment in relationships involves open communication, asking for what you want and need, and being aware of your own emotions and triggers.

· Taking up space and expressing your feelings is important for healing attachment injuries and building healthier relationships.

· Finding support from trusted individuals can help regulate emotions and provide a sense of security.

· Managing attachment injuries is an ongoing process that requires self-awareness, self-compassion, and patience.

Sound Bites

"Navigating changes in plans and unexpected events can be challenging"

"Creating a secure attachment in relationships involves open communication"

"Taking up space and expressing your feelings is important for healing attachment injuries"

Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction

00:00 Introduction and Disappointment

08:27 Emotional Challenges of Departure and Goodbyes

13:46 Creating a Secure Attachment in Relationships

16:19 Taking Up Space and Expressing Feelings

28:00 Managing Attachment Injuries: An Ongoing Process

31:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4

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2. select "listen on Apple Podcasts"
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com