DRIVE TIME DEBRIEF: A Physician Wellness Podcast with The Whole Physician

Understanding and Addressing Contempt in Medicine: Episode 149

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In this episode of Drive Time Debrief, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra tackle the often-overlooked emotion of contempt and its significant impact on physicians, relationships, and the culture of care in medicine. Drawing on insights from Brené Brown's Atlas of the Heart and Terry Real’s work on grandiosity and shame, they explore how contempt—whether directed outwardly or inwardly—fosters disconnection and damages well-being. The hosts share strategies to recognize, address, and move beyond contempt, helping physicians cultivate connection, empathy, and a wholehearted approach to their work and relationships.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

  1. What Is Contempt?

    • Defined as a mix of anger and disgust, often with a sense of superiority.
    • Described by Brené Brown as “the I’m better than you emotion.”
    • Different from anger, contempt creates disconnection and dehumanization.

    • How Contempt Shows Up in Medicine

      • In interactions with patients, colleagues, and even ourselves.
      • Outward contempt: grandiosity (e.g., judgment, dismissal).
      • Inward contempt: shame (e.g., self-criticism, feelings of inadequacy).
      • Examples: labeling patients, gossiping, or berating oneself after a mistake.

      • The Impact of Contempt

        • Outward contempt damages relationships and trust.
        • Inward contempt leads to shame, burnout, and isolation.
        • Affects team dynamics, patient care, and personal well-being.

        • Breaking the Cycle of Contempt

          • Practice Curiosity: Ask, “What’s going on here?” instead of judging.
          • Name It to Tame It: Label the emotion (e.g., “I’m feeling superior” or “I’m being judgy”).
          • Cultivate Empathy and Compassion: Replace criticism with understanding and self-kindness.
          • Use Humility to Soften Grandiosity: Listen to others, validate contributions, and normalize vulnerability.
          • Engage in Self-Reflection: Journaling, coaching, or therapy can uncover patterns of contempt.

          • Building a Culture of Respect in Medicine

            • Model Vulnerability: Normalize imperfection and create safety for others to do the same.
            • Address Contempt Gently: Call out harmful behaviors with care and respect.
            • Prioritize Psychological Safety: Foster an environment where team members feel safe to speak up.
              • Key Takeaways:
              • Contempt, a hidden driver of stress and disconnection, has two extremes: outward grandiosity and inward shame.
              • Small, intentional steps—like practicing self-compassion and empathy—can shift us toward healthier, more connected ways of living and working.
              • By modeling respect, humility, and self-awareness, physicians can influence the culture of medicine for the better.
                • Resources Mentioned:
                • Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart
                • Terry Real’s work on grandiosity and shame
                • The Four Horsemen research by John and Julie Gottman

                  • Don’t Miss Our Free Video:
                  Check out our free resource, How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking It Up in Silence. Click the link in the show notes to access it today.

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                  Next Episode: Tune in as we explore Empathy vs. Sympathy. See you then!

                  Resources:

                  Atlas of the Heart

                  Terry Real

                  How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good



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