Unhindered

Have you ever wondered why it seems that many people prefer to stay in the dark, hiding in wilfulness ignorance and choosing their dysfunction over health and healing?

Why is this so?

This is the one of the questions I get asked most frequently, and over the years I have often been bewildered as to why this appears to be true.

Check out today’s episode of 10 minute Tuesday to explore this issue with me and discover what, if anything, to do about this phenomenon.

(Note: I had a few glasses of wine before recording this episode, which may account for the way in which I approached this delicate subject…)

Someone has to go first.

I’m not sure two people are ever fully ready for change at the same time.
When problems arise between two people who care about each other, something must be done to clean the space again. If nothing is done things naturally get worse.
While both parties are impacted deeply, people always have different tolerances to relationship pain.
Some can cope with unresolved issues longer than others, but most people are just scared and ill-equiped. They don’t like what’s going on but have no idea how to fix it.

The leverage model is the framework for those with the readiness and courage to go first.
Those who may hate conflict, but hate tension with those they love even more.
Those who know the relationship is worth fighting for but just don’t now how to fight for it.
This is the roadmap for how to fix things with those you love.

On today’s podcast I want to talk to those people who are ready to go first. If you are going to fight for change, you will need more than just courage and determination, it must be the right kind of change, for all the right reasons with the right tools.

Let me show you how.

In the Buddhist teachings, the three poisons of aversion, attachment and ignorance are shown to be the primary causes of people trapped in suffering. They are also the root of all of the other mental states that cloud the mind and manifest in unwholesome actions. The three poisons are represented in the hub of the wheel of life as a pig, a bird, and a snake.

On today’s episode of 10 minute Tuesday, I’ll show you why these three poisons are part of the pain of unnecessary suffering in the world and how to replace them with generosity, loving kindness and wisdom instead.

Have you ever wondered why most people lose the sense of child like wonder when they stop being a child? Why does life all of a sudden have to become so serious and hard?

This conundrum has a lot to do with safety. Life stops being safe, and so we no longer have energy available for wonder.

This means in order to get wonder back, you also have to find safety again. The problem with this is that while safety for a child is provided entirely externally, an adults sense of safety must come from within.

You guessed it…The lack of wonder is an another aspect of the insecurity problem.

To have energy for wonder, it must be safe. But In order to have a sense of safety, you must be secure.

On today’s episode of 10 minute Tuesday, I’ll talk you through this process in detail and show you 4 reasons why having a sense of child like wonder will totally change your experience of life being so hard.

Daniel Sih interview.

Daniel is the co-founder of Spacemakers®, a productivity consulting group for busy leaders.

His new book "Spacemaker - how to unplug, unwind and think clearly in the digital age," won the Australian Business Book Award in 2021 for personal development, and was finalist for best technology book.

On this episode of the podcast, Daniel shares his wisdom about the importance of contemplation and community for being in the right space to overcome insecurity.

Daniel is a remarkable human who embodies his relevant and timely message.

For more information about his work got to https://spacemakers.com.au

Destiny is a word that I haven’t used for at least 10 years. But, as you can see, it is not only back in my vocabulary but back in my awareness in a big way.

On today’s episode of 10 minute Tuesday I’ll tell you about a profound experience I had that realigned me with my destiny and filled me with certainty about who I am and where I’m heading. I’ll also step you through 4 keys that will help you do the same and show you exactly why insecurity is the number 1 enemy to any of us fulfilling our potential and purpose in this lifetime.

Understanding the law of entropy has been my most favourite discovery of the last 12 months. Quite simply, entropy means that all things move toward disorder. Left unchecked, the disorder of a system always increases over time. This is the second law of thermodynamics and it is universally true. While this might sound very bleak and leave you to fear that this means everything will always get worse rather than better, entropy is actually one of the most wonderful and beneficial aspects of the world we find ourselves in.

In today’s episode of 10 minute Tuesday I’ll show you how this law impacts every area of life and how we can use this knowledge to our advantage in the pursuit of happiness and purposeful living.

This is the first 10 minute Tuesday for 2022.

On today’s episode, you’ll see that you can’t have success without security.

Success can only be true if you get to keep it. If it is fleeting, how is it success?

What is the point of chasing something if as soon as you grasp it, it evaporates right before your eyes?

If you are paranoid that you will be found out as an imposter, you’ll simply anticipate the moment it you’ll lose it all anyway.

If all your attention is on looking over your shoulder for the person who is going to better you and steal your crown, then what is the point of getting to the top in the first place?

If you fear you don’t really deserve it, you’ll convince yourself your success is fake. No matter what you achieve it will be hollow.

If you are insecure about your shortcomings, then you will be far more focussed on what you haven’t done than what you have. You’ll only downplay your achievements and make them count for nothing.

If you believe you are not enough, then whatever you’ve achieved, no matter how spectacular it is, will not be enough either.

To solve the success problem, you have to solve the insecurity problem first.

It is only when you come to accept your great inherent value and worth separate from your achievements and performance that you get to keep your success for good. You now have nothing to prove or defend. This alone allows you to see yourself as truly successful and genuinely enjoy the wins you’ve worked so hard to achieve.

One of the central themes of the Insecurity project is to dial down the angst people normally associate with facing their deepest fears about themselves. When the insecurity problem is accurately understood for what it really is, there are a number of surprising, amusing and even hilarious discoveries that make solving the insecurity problem far less daunting than imagined.

This podcast episode is the final instalment for season 2021 and aims to highlight the funniest things about eradicating the fear of not being good enough from your life.

As an end of year bonus, I’ve also ticked off a 5 year bucket list item by doing my first 5 minutes of stand up comedy material at the end of this episode! You’re welcome…

My guest on the show today is Ronsley Vaz.

He is the founder of the award-winning audio marketing agency Must Amplify whose clients are some of the world's most impactful actors, entrepreneurs, athletes, artists & politicians.

Ronsley is an artist, entrepreneur, author, academic, chef and, more famously a podcaster. He’s interviewed over 1400 people on his show ‘Bond Appetite’ & has been listened to over 5 million times in 133 countries.

Ronsley is also the executive producer of The ‘Psychology of Entrepreneurship podcast’ and host of ‘Should I start a Podcast.’

One this episode Ronsley shares very personally about the highs and lows of his own entrepreneurial journey and talks about how it sometimes necessary to borrow other people’s confidence in you until you find your own.