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This episode contains content that may be difficult for those who have experienced violence or who are sensitive to mentions of abuse or intimate partner violence. Please take care when listening.

In 2007, Pastor Neil Schori sat down with a woman who had come to him for marriage counseling. You probably recognize her name: Stacy Peterson.

Not long after that conversation, Stacy when missing and still has not been found.

Her husband, Drew Peterson, is serving time in prison for being convicted of murdering his previous wife.

Pastor Neil joins the Untangled Faith podcast to share his thoughts on the Steven Crowder video, what he wishes he had known about intimate partner violence and what friends and faith community leaders need to know to be safe places for those who may not even know they are in danger.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The multiple facets of abuse go beyond bodily injury.

• The necessity of pastors to possess the right skills to manage abusive scenarios.

• Red flags the signal abuse situations.

• Empowering victims

• How incorrect theology is harming those being abused.

Links:

Document the Abuse website: https://documenttheabuse.com

Neil Schori on Twitter: https://twitter.com/neilschori

Neil Schori coaching: https://www.facebook.com/SchoriCoaching

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Hillary McBride joins Amy Fritz on the Untangled Faith podcast to unpack spiritual trauma, healing, and how we can create faith communities that avoid replicating unhealthy patterns.

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In this episode we:

• Explore who McBride's new book, Holy Hurt: Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing, is for and how different groups relate to spiritual trauma.

• Define spiritual abuse and spiritual trauma, and unpack the common misconceptions surrounding these terms.

• Discuss how curiosity and hope can bridge the gap between those who have and haven't experienced spiritual trauma.

• Address the accusation that spiritual trauma is a "fad" and reflect on the history and reality of spiritual harm, especially for marginalized communities.

• Consider the ethical complexities of sharing stories—both for survivors of spiritual trauma and those hosting podcasts or creating resources.

• Talk through practical ways new communities and organizations can avoid recreating harmful power dynamics and foster safety and agency.

• Reflect on the role of conflict, repair, and personal healing in faith spaces and survivor communities.

• Touch on generational differences in openness to processing and naming spiritual harm and why resources matter for healing.

Featured Guest

• Hillary McBride

Resources mentioned

• Faithful Counseling BetterHelp - Get Started & Sign-Up Today

• Holy Hurt: Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing

• Hillary L McBride - Therapist, Researcher, Speaker and Writer

• Hillary L McBride (@hillaryliannamcbride) • Instagram photos and videos

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Chris Staron, host of the Truce podcast joins Amy to talk about the importance of looking at history to make sense of this current moment.

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In this episode we:

• Talk about the origin story of the Truce podcast and Chris's approach to using history to illuminate today's faith questions.

• Discuss the power of curiosity and humility in addressing gaps in our knowledge.

• Reflect on the importance of surrounding ourselves with experts—and being open to their feedback.

• Examine how historical context can reshape our assumptions about gender roles, especially in the context of "biblical womanhood."

• Challenge the idea that "this is the worst it's ever been" by exploring history's patterns and precedents.

• Talk about identifying trustworthy sources—and red flags—in historical writing, including the importance of bibliographies and the dangers of consuming information solely from those who share our theological or political biases.

• Analyze the work (and controversy) surrounding figures like David Barton and the misinterpretation of America's Christian roots.

• Highlight the value of reading outside our usual bubbles and expanding our knowledge beyond World War II or familiar American history.

• Encourage listeners to approach new information, especially history, with a willingness to be challenged and changed.

Featured Guest

• Chris Staron

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Resources mentioned

• Robert Caro's "The Years of Lyndon Johnson" series

• Isabel Wilkerson's The Warmth of Other Suns"

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Amy Fritz shares an update on what's happening with the Amos v. Lampo Group and O'Connor v. Lampo Group lawsuits and a brief summer update.

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Resources mentioned

• Substack Update https://untangledfaith.substack.com/p/finding-my-podcast-rhythm

• Amos v. Lampo Group filings https://www.courtlistener.com/docket/61614266/amos-v-lampo-group-llc-the/?filed_after=&filed_before=&entry_gte=&entry_lte=&order_by=desc

• O'Connor v. Lampo Group filings https://www.courtlistener.com/docket/17372107/oconnor-v-the-lampo-group-llc/?filed_after=&filed_before=&entry_gte=&entry_lte=&order_by=desc

You can find more Ramsey Episodes here: https://www.untangledfaithpodcast.com/categories/ramsey-solutions-dave-ramsey/

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Dr. Camden Morgante joins Amy Fritz to talk about all the awful metaphors and false promises of purity culture, and a better way forward. If you grew up reading Josh Harris and Elisabeth Elliot, you're going to love this one!

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Featured Guest

• Dr. Camden Morgante https://drcamden.com/press/

Resources mentioned

• Dr. Camden's site: https://drcamden.com/press/

• Dr. Camden's Substack: https://drcamden.substack.com/

• Recovering From Purity Culture https://amzn.to/4kQmSPN

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Have you been told to (or seen others) push through personal pain and trauma while engaging in advocacy for the health of the Church without being given the tools to manage your (or their) own emotional wellness? Are you often feeling overwhelmed and exhausted?

Meet Lori Anne Thompson: a compassionate survivor, storyteller, and student. Lori Anne is a devoted wife, mother, and enthusiastic cook who loves to share her passion for sustainable rhythms and healing for those who have survived trauma.

This episode was initially shared in April 2023, but with the heartbreaking loss of Jennifer Lyell, I wanted to share it again. You can find more information on Jennifer Lyell here: Died: Jennifer Lyell, SBC Abuse Survivor and Former Lifeway Executive - Christianity Today

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Lori Anne and Amy talk through these topics in this episode of the Untangled Faith podcast:

Who is Lori Anne Thompson?

The Three Phases of Recovery

How trauma can't be your whole life

Chronic activation

Finding sustainable ways to give back

Red flags to look for

Becoming what we're against

The power of saying no.

Resources:

Victim Impact Statement from Lori Anne Thompson regarding Ravi Zacharias:

https://loriannethompson.com/2021/02/08/lori-anne-thompson-victim-impact-statement/

https://loriannethompson.com

https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/podcasts/bulletin/cpac-trump-transgenderism-oscars.html

Truth & Repair: How Trauma Survivors Envision Justice by Judith Herman: https://amzn.to/3mxzx0W

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Aaron Armstrong joins Amy Fritz on the Untangled Faith podcast to explore the nuances of leaving a beloved church community, navigating the awkwardness of joining a new church, and the motivations and process behind his new book, Faith Simplified: What We Believe and Why We Believe It. The conversation moves from personal stories of faith transitions to honest insight into Christian publishing, endorsements, and what it means to thoughtfully engage with the important theological tenants of the Christian faith.

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In this episode we:

• Hear Aaron's story of leaving a church he loved and the emotional and practical realities of church closure—reflecting on how endings don't always mean failure.

• Discuss the strange and sometimes awkward season of being new in a church, resisting the urge to jump right in, and learning to simply "be."

• Delve into the complexities of book endorsements in Christian publishing, including why they matter (or don't), how they're decided, and the landmines authors and publishers face.

• Talk about how reducing people to social media snippets can distort real-life relationships, and why discernment is important when choosing where to show up and engage.

• Wrestle with common theological distractions and accidental heresies.

• Explore Aaron's new book, Faith Simplified: What We Believe and Why We Believe It, including his approach to foundational theology, why he wrote it, and who it's for.

Featured Guest

• Aaron Armstrong Aaron Armstrong: Author, Speaker, Canadian

Resources mentioned

• Aaron's web site https://aaronarmstrong.co

• Faith Simplified https://amzn.to/43PxkzT

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Bill Henson, founder and director of Posture Shift Ministries, joins Amy Fritz on the Untangled Faith podcast to talk about cultivating a posture of radical love and hospitality toward LGBTQ+ individuals and families within the church, regardless of theological position.

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In this episode we:

• Explore the difference between a church's theological position and its posture toward LGBTQ+ individuals.

• Hear why Posture Shift was founded in the midst of the culture wars around LGBTQ+ rights and the church's response.

• Discuss the importance of practical, missional skill sets for churches to truly love and include LGBTQ+ people, beyond merely good intentions.

• Address common language pitfalls and the impact of terminology like "lifestyle" on LGBTQ+ individuals seeking belonging in faith communities.

• Examine the need for clarity and transparency about church beliefs on sexuality—and the harm of ambiguity or "bait and switch" scenarios for LGBTQ+ congregants.

• Reflect on the dangers of treating LGBTQ+ presence in church as a threat, and instead view it as a missional opportunity.

• Consider best practices for using names and pronouns, and the principle of "pronoun hospitality," especially in youth ministry and family settings.

• Learn about practical resources like the "Guiding Families" book and direct care coaching for families navigating these conversations.

Featured Guest

• Bill Henson, Posture Shift Ministries Posture Shift | postureshift.com

Resources mentioned

• This podcast is sponsored by Faithful Counseling. For more information and for 10% off your first month, visit Faithful Counseling- https://faithfulcounseling.com/untangled

• About - Posture Shift | postureshift.com

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Pete Singer passed away on May 1, 2025.

He is missed by his many family and friends.

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Pete Singer, executive director of GRACE, shares about grooming, hidden trauma, being "overly" sensitive to abuse, and the importance of third-party investigations.

"Perpetrators put a lot of effort into being the kind of person who would never do that."

"Being more sensitive may be the product of having more knowledge."

Pete Singer is the Executive Director of GRACE: Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment and an expert on third-party investigations, trauma, and trauma-informed practice.

GRACE: Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment is a nonprofit organization that specializes in safeguarding initiatives to guard against church abuse, sexual abuse in the church.

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. What misconceptions about perpetrators of abuse do people have, and how can we ensure we are more informed?

2. How does trauma-informed practice apply in churches, and why is it important?

3. How can churches protect possible victims and be transparent and trustworthy in their response to allegations of misconduct?

Links:

https://netgrace.org

SAMHSA's Six Principles of Trauma-Informed Care – Post-Secondary Peer Support Training Curriculum (opentextbc.ca)

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Dan and Summer Watt & Melissa Hogan joined me for episode 39: The Problem with Financial Peace University and Dave Ramsey's Financial Rhetoric. ⁠ This conversation we had was made possible by the fact that those of us involved in this episode have spent the last several years processing together our experiences with the ups and downs of Financial Peace University and the rhetoric coming from the Ramsey Show.⁠ ⁠ While we all had different levels of understanding and adhering to the plan, each of us have found ourselves with serious questions. Some of these questions started before we broke ties with the organization and some of these realizations came later.⁠ ⁠ We don't claim to be unbiased observers. We all have had very painful and disappointing experiences with Ramsey Solutions, but we don't think that negates the very real questions we raise.⁠

Links:

D.L. Mayfield, The Myth of the American Dream

Dan Watt- Why Write About Lampo?

Dan Watt- Getting a Mortgage with no credit score

American Gospel movie

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