We've talked so much on this podcast about this idea of feeling stuck in midlife. and you know...I don't know what it is that puts us here...It's like we've spent our whole lives wearing all these hats and, literally, giving over ourselves to do ALL the things for other people that when the circumstances change and the kids go to college and we're no longer an unpaid damn uber driver for our littles and the PTO board is like, "you know most people on the board actually HAVE kids at this school (LOL) don't you want to find something else to do with your time?" that we're like...."well, what the hell am I supposed to do instead? I've been showing up to the damn PTO meeting for like 12 years the first Tuesday of every month!"

It's the strangest thing to wake up, without having a kid crawl into bed with you at 5 am and look in that mirror and think..."who the hell are you?!?" Sometimes, it's like I don't recognize myself anymore. I don't know who I am. I don't know what I want. I don't know what makes me happy AND I don't know what to do to figure it all out!

Thankfully, our guest today, Marcy McDonald is the author of UnStuck Yourself: Daily Practice with the Right Tools Will Change Your Life and co-author of the internationally best-selling book, Transforming Your Life Volume V: 20 Incredible Stories Showing the Strength of the Human Spirit. Marcy is a powerhouse that is changing lives daily. OR seeing people to the end of their lives in a way that releases regret and preserves the dignity of the dying as an end-of-life doula. She was a guest expert on the TV Show "4 Days to Save the World" and has been featured on numerous podcasts and spoken at multiple summits.

She has extensive experience consulting on, envisioning, strategizing, developing, writing, editing, and producing courses and speaking publicly on multiple topics from how to have an emotionally healthy mindset to overcoming negative self-talk to living intentionally and authentically. In addition, she speaks and leads workshops on improving focus to save time and boost productivity. She offers both intensive workshops and 1:1 coaching on mindset.

In this episode, Marcy shares with us some of the tools she uses to help her clients get UNstuck and get on with living a live they love that is full of joy and authenticity. 

In this episode, Marcy teaches us:  

1. You have to learn how to notice what is going on and where you feel stuck and THEN find the right tool to navigate that situation. Most people don't even realize they feel bad. The recognition is the start.
2. The rational mind processes 64 bits of information in a second. The emotional mind processes a quadrillion. The emotional brain is "in charge" of your decisioning and to do so, it draws on your most negative memories in order to "keep you safe"
3. Do rational breathing exercises when you notice tension in your body by putting your hands on your belly and watching your hands to see them move in and out. By doing this exercise you will force yourself to breathe more deeply and focusing on your hands pulls you back into your rational mind so you're more capable of making rational choices vs. emotional choices.
4. Notice the negative beliefs about ourselves and how we "beat ourselves up" then, look at the actual facts....if the negative believe is "I'm fat." Then "build a bridge" between the negative thought and the positive fact using the phrase "I'm practicing". For example, I'm practicing eating more healthy.
5. Today may be the only day you have, so you need to live each day fully and authentically. That means you may need to work through the things that are preventing you from living in the present day with gratitude and joy.

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