We've all been taught how to spot red flags in others—but what if we're the red flag?

In this powerful episode, Dr. Zoe unpacks the uncomfortable but essential question: could your own behaviors, coping mechanisms, or unresolved trauma be playing a role in your relationship struggles? With compassion and clarity, she explores how complex shame and survival patterns might show up as self-sabotage, emotional unavailability, or codependency—and how recognizing these patterns is the first step toward healing.

This isn't about blame. It's about brave introspection, self-compassion, and taking radical ownership of your growth.

What You'll Learn:

• The subtle ways red-flag behaviors can manifest in everyday life
• How complex shame might be driving your relationship dynamics
• Why self-awareness is the most powerful relationship tool you have
• Practical steps to shift from reactivity to intentional connection

Whether you're healing from a toxic relationship or trying to build healthier ones, this episode will challenge and empower you to look inward—and come out stronger on the other side.

Resources & Mentions:

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