Diet culture thrives in isolation. It tells us we must heal alone, control ourselves into wellness, and avoid burdening others with our food struggles. But what if true recovery depends not on control, but on connection?

In this solo episode, Dr. Marianne explores how co-regulation—the experience of nervous system safety in relationship—can be a radical force for healing. She explains how eating disorders often develop in the absence of relational safety and why diet culture reinforces disconnection and shame. Through the lens of nervous system science, trauma-informed care, and body liberation, this episode centers the power of healing in community.

Dr. Marianne also shares why co-regulation can look different for neurodivergent people, especially those with PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). You'll learn how autonomy and co-regulation are not opposites, and how spacious, consent-based connection can be life-changing in recovery.

Whether you are navigating ARFID, anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, or a complex relationship with food and body, this episode offers a compassionate, liberation-oriented approach to healing that honors your boundaries, your needs, and your nervous system.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

Why diet culture depends on disconnection and control

How eating disorders often emerge from a lack of safe, attuned relationships

What co-regulation is and why it supports sustainable recovery

How co-regulation can be tailored for neurodivergent folks, including those with PDA

Why autonomy and connection are both essential for healing

Ways to build nervous system safety in recovery without pressure or compliance

How community-based healing challenges shame, perfectionism, and diet culture

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Looking for therapy with Dr. Marianne? She offers trauma-informed eating disorder therapy in California, Texas, and Washington, D.C. Learn more or reach out at drmariannemiller.com

Supporting someone with ARFID or navigating it yourself? Explore the self-paced ARFID and Selective Eating course, grounded in sensory-attuned, neurodivergent-affirming care: drmariannemiller.com/arfid

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