Maybe this is a question you have never thought of! Have you ever taken the time to think about the different types of sex you might be in the mood for? For most the answer is, no… Taking this question one step further, depending on your mood on a certain day of week, you might be more or less open to certain types of sex with your partner. 

Ok that was a great thing to think about, but now the next part is to express this whole new world to your partner. Given this area of sex and intimacy often is uncomfotable and vulnerable, you can find it dificult to be fully expressed with your partner without some pushback or defensiveness. So what to do?

This episode is the first of three episodes around sex and intimacy that we will be interviewing other relationship experts. In today’s episode you will meet Seth and Melanie Studley who have been married for 16 years and have three kids. Seth is a licensed marriage and family therapist and together they are the hosts of the “Anatomy of Marriage, Family, and Sex” podcast, along with their “Anatomy of Marriage” app! 

From them you will realize that there are different types of sex energy and moods, and on your journey of marriage, you will have the tools to express this desires as they come up in different seasons.

 

Get to Know the Studleys:

1. Anatomy of Marriage App
2. Anatomy of Marriage, Family, Sex Podcast

 

Questions Asked in the Interview:

1. What has your journey been as a couple in getting more comfortable and exploratory with sex and intimacy?
2. You mentioned that there are different kinds of sex based on the mood...can you describe the types? How should a partner communicate about the energy they are in the mood for?
3. How do you suggest couples talk about this with each other?
4. How should these conversations be approached when you have kids? How and when do you have these conversations with or around them?

 

Guest Quotes:

"Connection & pleasure is the goal, expression can be different based on energy mood"

"Clarity is Kindness"

 

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here
2. Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)