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Episode 182 - When Family Hurts: Why Pulling Back Isn't Selfish - It's Part of Healing

Episode Summary:
Have you ever stepped back from a family relationship because it just hurt too much to stay close? Maybe a child rejected your values, your faith, or even blamed you for their pain—and you’re left feeling broken, confused, and ashamed for needing space.

This episode is your reminder:
 You are not broken.
You are not selfish.
And you are allowed to take care of yourself.

In this heart-to-heart conversation, I’m talking about why it hurts so much when family relationships feel strained, especially for women who’ve been taught to self-sacrifice in the name of love. I’ll walk you through the survival patterns we develop—like control, silence, and emotional distance—and show you how to begin healing from the inside out.

You’ll learn:

• Why your pain makes sense (and doesn’t make you weak)
• How to recognize and unlearn reactive patterns
• What healthy emotional space looks like—and why it’s necessary
• How your healing becomes a gift to future generations
• Why pulling back can be a loving choice, not a selfish one

If you're feeling stuck, lost, or unsure how to move forward with a family member—especially an adult child—this episode is for you.

 

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Favorite Quote from the Episode:
"Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is step back and let the wound breathe. That’s not selfish—it’s wisdom."

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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