The Science of Happiness

Who’s Always There for You?


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When we remember the times someone had our back, it changes the way we view ourselves and the world. Our guest explores what happens when trying a practice to feel more supported.

Link to episode transcript: https://tinyurl.com/yc2kpzmy

Episode summary:

Ever since he was a young child, José Valladares has spent his life caring for others and has taken pride in supporting his family and community, For our show, he tried a practice where he recalled people in his life who he can turn to during a difficult moment — the people who support him. As he wrote about their admirable qualities and specific instances where they helped him, José felt a renewed sense of gratitude and energy to persist forward in helping others. Later, we hear from psychologist Angela Rowe about how feeling supported can impact our relationships and sense of personal empowerment.

Practice:

  1. Make a list of the people who offer you comfort or security.
  2. Write down six positive qualities that are common to some or all of these people.
  3. Next, recall and visualize a specific situation when you felt distressed or worried, and one of these people comforted and helped you.
  4. Write a brief description of that situation and how you felt during it.
  5. Learn more about this practice at Greater Good In Action:

    https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/feeling_supported

    Today’s guests:

    José Valladares is a software engineer in Utah originally from Honduras.

    Angela Rowe is a psychology professor at the University of Bristol.

    Learn more about Angela’s work: https://tinyurl.com/4nh752ad

    Resources from The Greater Good Science Center:

    Happiness Break: Who Takes Care of You? With Dacher Keltner: https://tinyurl.com/bdezwwyd

    How to Let Someone Love You (The Science of Happiness Podcast): https://tinyurl.com/5xtzbzj2

    Four Ways Social Support Makes You More Resilient: https://tinyurl.com/2p9zkjpj

    Just One Thing: Feel the Support: https://tinyurl.com/yrfnmwfv

    Friend or Family? https://tinyurl.com/msbs2kuh

    More Resources on Feeling Supported

    NYT Times - Are You Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? https://tinyurl.com/yes746sv

    The Atlantic - The Trait That ‘Super Friends’ Have in Common: https://tinyurl.com/bdheumdh

    BBC - Why friendship makes us healthier: https://tinyurl.com/3596n4u7

    TED - How to ask for help -- and get a "yes": https://tinyurl.com/2ybrmt7m

    Stanford - Asking for help is hard, but people want to help more than we realize, Stanford scholar says’: https://tinyurl.com/4n4hraj5'

    Who do you turn to for support in your life? Email us at [email protected] or use the hashtag #happinesspod.

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