Fake Love and Flying Monkeys

Why does the narcissist come back? - The Hoover manoeuvre explained


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Narcissists have a way of reappearing in your life, often when you least expect it. After enduring the pain and chaos of narcissistic abuse, it's natural to ask yourself, "Why do they come back?" The narcissist will 'hoover' you back to regain control of you and to make sure you never forget about them. (Hoover meaning to suck you back, the term being coined from the Hoover vacuum cleaner)
Whether it's a sudden phone call, an unexpected visit, or a chance encounter at the grocery store, the narcissist's return can be bewildering, especially when they seemed so eager to move on with someone else.

In this episode we unpack...
* Why does the narcissist hoover you?
* The Trap of the "Let’s Just Be Friends" Line
 * The Confusion of narcissistic Hoovering
* What are the classic strategies the narcissist uses to hoover you?
* What does it mean if you don't get hoovered?
* Does every victim of narcissistic abuse get hoovered?
* What happens each time you potentially fall for the hoover?
* How do you stop the narcissist from hoovering you?
* The Danger of Unblocking   

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