My inadequacies around relationship stemmed from times when my feelings were disregarded. I learned, having been on the receiving end of emotional trauma, that there are three basic agreements at work in any relationship. Nailing these will help quell the inadequacies and insecurities so many of us experience in our partners, and make way for clear agreements that both (or all) involved can be comfortable with.

Chapters:

Three Basic Agreements in a Healthy Relationship (00:00:00)

Agreement with Self: Integrity (00:00:16)

Agreement with Relationship: Commitment (00:00:59)

Agreement with Other Person: Transparency (00:01:19)

Welcome to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast (00:02:05)

A Story of Integrity and a Missed Party (00:02:34)

Defining Integrity in an Open Relationship (00:05:31)

The "Clear Conscience" Rule for Sex (00:06:14)

Learning from Past Sexual Experiences and STDs (00:11:13)

The Importance of "Why Am I Here?" (00:12:03)

Integrity: Who Are You When Nobody's Looking? (00:14:57)

Datability and Underneath the Facade (00:17:26)

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