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Episode 190: Why Taking Care of Yourself Isn't Selfish: How Wise Selfishness Strengthens Family Relationships

Is taking care of yourself selfish—or is it the very thing your family needs most?

In this episode of Coaching Your Family Relationships, Family Conflict Coach, Tina Gosney, explores the belief so many women were raised with: that self-care is wrong, selfish, or indulgent. Using the story of “Sarah,” a mom running on empty from years of self-sacrifice, Tina unpacks how burnout, resentment, and guilt often come from ignoring our own needs.

You’ll discover the concept of wise selfishness—a perspective that transforms guilt into grounded self-care, boundaries into deeper love, and personal well-being into stronger family connection.

If you’ve ever felt invisible, resentful, or guilty for saying no, this episode will help you see self-care in a new way: not as selfishness, but as the foundation of real connection.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why the belief that “taking care of yourself is selfish” quietly sabotages family relationships
• How wise selfishness (a Buddhist teaching) reframes self-care as essential to love and connection
• The generational programming that teaches women to disappear in service of others
• What happens when you suppress your needs—and why they eventually leak out as resentment or burnout
• Practical ways to start honoring your needs without losing closeness with your family

Resources & Next Steps

Ready to go deeper? Join Tina for a 1-day training on October 9: End Family Disconnection and Create Relationships That Last.
This isn’t just another workshop—it’s a space to reconnect with yourself and your family in powerful, practical way

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Download the Free Guide:
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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
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