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Why We Resist Change (and What to Do About It) with Ross Ellenhorn


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In this episode, Ross Ellenhorn explores the complexities of why we resist change and what to do about it. As Ross explains in this conversation, “staying the same protects you from the insult of small steps.” He shows us why these tiny steps can sometimes feel insulting and demoralizing. Ross also delves into the fear of raising expectations, the pain of disappointment, and why hope itself can feel threatening

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Key Takeaways:

  • Psychological concepts related to change, addiction, hope, disappointment, and self-efficacy.
  • The complexities of addiction and the distinction between harmful behaviors and positive attachments.
  • The challenges of personal change and the forces that resist it, including fear of disappointment and existential anxiety.
  • The concept of “fear of hope” and its impact on motivation and willingness to change.
  • The importance of social support and community in the recovery process.
  • Critique of current addiction treatment models and the need for a more compassionate, harm reduction approach.
  • The role of context in shaping an individual’s ability to change and the limitations of individualistic approaches.
  • The significance of incremental change and the value of small steps in personal growth.
  • The importance of respecting resistance to change as a form of self-love and preservation.


If you enjoyed this conversation with Ross Ellenhorn, check out these other episodes:

How to Integrate Behavior Change with Your Values with Spencer Greenberg

Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ Fogg

Behavior Change with Dr. John Norcross


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