Feeling like the “easy one” in your polycule?
Always chill, never the squeaky wheel?
This episode is your permission slip to stop shrinking for connection.

We’re breaking down what it means to disappear inside non-monogamy, why boundaries aren’t selfish, and how to recognize when your emotional self-silencing isn’t maturity—it’s survival.

👉 Topics covered:

• What emotional self-abandonment looks like in Ethical Non Monogamy
• How "being chill" becomes a trap
• The difference between inclusion and being held
• Real stories from non-monogamous clients + my own experience
• Why you don’t need to squeak louder to get greased
• The truth about interdependence vs codependence

💬 If you’ve been wondering:
 “Why do I feel invisible in my relationship?”
 “Am I bad at polyamory?”
 “Do my needs even matter here?”

This conversation is for you.

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