You don’t see it until you see it. You can’t unsee once you see it.

One day, all of a sudden, I just saw it. My thoughts were, "hey this is a problem."

"Something just isn’t right here."

Before this, I made excuses. I justified everything.

He’s not feeling well today.

He had a rough childhood.

He is stressed at work.

He didn’t have siblings.

The kids were being loud and frustrating.

Our son could have been more obedient.

I could have been more understanding.

I could have said that better.

I should have known that would upset him.

Anything and everything except for - he should not talk to us this way. His words are mean and hurtful. His tone is not okay as my partner for life. He is NOT a loving and compassionate person.

Why were those not the things I was thinking and saying? I misdirected the fault for what was going on for years, many years. Laying the blame everywhere except where it truly belonged. Until one day….

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