YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton

By Jodi Carlton

YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship is a podcast about understanding the misunderstood.

Hosted by neurodiverse relationship expert and educator Jodi Carlton, MEd, the show explores au

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Number 1: Why Your ADHD Brain Forgets Everything (Except What It Loves): S6E8
This week we're getting really personal. We're opening up about our own ADHD brains — the things we've struggled with, the stuff that drove our partners crazy, and the moments that only made sense once we finally understood neurodivergence. If you've ever felt like your brain works differently from everyone else's, or like your partner's special interests leave you feeling invisible, you're not alone. We've been there too. 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss our next episode where we continue the conversation. 📩 Send us your questions: [email protected] YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast with Jodi Carlton Season 6 (Navigating Life & Love in Neurodiverse Relationships with co-host Mona Kay) Episode 8 Chapters: 0:00 — When a partner's special interest makes you invisible 1:45 — Today's topic: executive functioning challenges 2:19 — Jodi's ADHD spotted while editing the podcast 8:39 — Feeling invisible when a partner locks in 10:41 — ADHD vs autistic hyperfixation: how long is too long? 15:01 — Memory struggles: locked in but can't remember a thing 20:00 — Binging shows and forgetting you ever watched them Find us at www.jodicarlton.com and www.neurodiverselove.com Navigating Neurodiverse Life and Love is a casual show about neurodiverse romantic relationships, families, and life as a neurodivergent person or parent, hosted by Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton, two leading voices in the area of neurodiverse life and love. 👩‍💼 About Jodi Carlton, MEd I'm Jodi Carlton, MEd, a neurodiversity educator, relationship expert, author, and coach with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, families, and professionals better understand autism, ADHD, and the realities of neurodiverse relationships. As a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I combine professional expertise with lived experience. My own family includes multiple neurotypes, and after spending nearly two decades in a neurodiverse marriage, I understand both the challenges and the opportunities that can emerge when different minds meet. My work also explores the important distinction between neurodivergent differences and harmful relationship dynamics, including narcissistic abuse and personality pathology. My goal is not to tell people what to think, but to help them better understand what they are experiencing so they can make informed decisions about their relationships. On this channel, you'll find episodes of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast, interviews with leading experts, educational videos, and practical conversations designed to help you better understand yourself, the people you love, and the misunderstood mind. Courses: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Quizzes: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz Subscribe to my newsletter "Inside The Misunderstood Mind": https://inside.themisunderstoodmind.com
September 02, 202625min
Number 2: Is It Autism or Incompatibility? What Neurodiverse Couples Need to Know
Is your relationship struggling because of neurodivergence — or because you're just not compatible? In this episode of Navigating Neurodiverse Love and Life, Jodi Carlton and Mona Kay get honest about one of the hardest questions neurodiverse couples face. In this episode: The two extremes of autistic commitment: the revolving door and staying forever in a toxic marriage Why blaming the diagnosis is unfair to your partner AND the neurodivergent community How compatibility changes when you move in together, get married, or have children Why traditional marriage therapy often makes things worse for neurodiverse couples Nesting — the alternative living arrangement helping neurodiverse families find peace Jodi's personal story of neurodivergent burnout after her kids left for college How ADHD and autism create opposite conflict styles in the same household How to ask genuinely curious questions — and why most questions are actually setups Whether you're in a neurodiverse relationship, raising a neurodiverse family, or just trying to understand yourself better — this episode will help you stop blaming the diagnosis and start building real understanding. 🔔 Subscribe for new episodes 💬 Send us your questions: [email protected] ⏱ Chapters 0:00 Intro — Meet Jodi & Mona 1:33 Episode Begins — Commitment Extremes in Autistic Relationships 2:23 Mona's Story: He Would Have Stayed Forever 2:51 Loyalty, Aversion to Change & Letting Go 4:46 Mona's Coaching Philosophy: Compatibility Over Neurotype 5:49 You Can't Blame It on the Diagnosis 7:05 Compatibility Changes — Moving In, Marriage & Kids 7:53 Nesting: A New Container for the Relationship 9:10 Jodi's Story: Dating After Divorce 9:35 Neurodivergent Family Burnout 14:04 Key Lesson: Understand Yourself & Your Partner 15:00 Jodi's Tip: How to Ask Curious Questions 16:13 Mona's Experience: Check Yourself 17:52 Wrap-Up & Closing
July 07, 202618min
Number 3: Autistic Therapist Shares Marriage Tools That Actually Work
Autistic + ADHD partners often collide around regulation. Here’s how to stop the clashes and build connection with real-world scripts, rituals, and repeatable practices. If you need clear, practical tools to make a neurodiverse relationship feel calmer and more connected, this episode delivers! Jodi and licensed counselor Greg Fuqua (late-identified autistic) break down exactly how autistic self-regulators and ADHD co-regulators can stop clashing and start syncing up—so both partners feel seen, safe, and respected. Greg shares the exact rituals he and his wife use after 30+ years together—like a 20–30 minute transition buffer before reconnecting after time apart, a simple “commute-call” habit that creates connection without pressure, and a prepare → attune → debrief framework for handling events like parties or family gatherings. You’ll hear why effort often feels invisible, why “fair” doesn’t always mean equal, and how shifting from content fights to process check-ins changes everything. We also dig into scripts for setting capacity limits, what shutdowns and alexithymia look like, and a quick connect → ground rhythm you can try today. If you missed Part 1, circle back for the mindset shifts that make these tools stick. 💡 This episode is especially helpful for: Autistic–ADHD couples who keep clashing over how they calm down or connect Partners who want closeness without losing themselves (empathy + boundaries) Late-identified adults looking for simple scripts and daily rituals to cut conflict and feel safer together 00:00 – Welcome to Season Five 01:48 – When couples therapy backfires (“the wrongness trap”) 03:02 – Self-regulation vs. co-regulation in ASD and ADHD 06:43 – The 20–30 minute transition ritual that prevents conflict 09:10 – Why effort is invisible and scorekeeping fails 17:14 – The commute-call ritual for daily attunement 20:26 – Two rules for safety in communication 26:53 – The couple’s event game plan: Prepare → Attune → Debrief 31:24 – Reflection over rehashing: how growth really happens About Greg Fuqua: Greg Fuqua, MA, LMHC, is a late-identified autistic therapist specializing in neurodiverse counseling and couples therapy. With over 30 years of personal experience in a neurodiverse marriage, Greg brings rare insight to his clinical work, blending lived experience with professional expertise. Formerly a professional artist and art professor for 23 years, Greg integrates creativity and empathy into his strength-based, person-centered approach. He is an Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinical Specialist (ASDCS) and Level 2 AANE-trained neurodiverse couples therapist, as well as co-host of the Neurodiverse Love podcast with Mona Kay. Greg leads Divergent Counseling in West Des Moines, IA, where he supports individuals, couples, families, and organizations in building healthier, more authentic relationships. Resources: Greg’s website: https://www.gregfuqua.com/ Neurodiverse Connections Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@NeurodivergentConnections/featured More from Jodi: Visit jodicarlton.com (free resources, assessments, and courses) • Watch Part 2 of my conversation with Greg: Coming Soon: October 1! Questions? Email: [email protected] — 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 🔔 Help the algorithm help other couples—Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
October 01, 202539min
Number 4: Autism Relationship Tool - Images Versus Words
Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares a tip about improving communication with your autistic partner in this bonus episode. 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources. 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
February 19, 20241h 0min
Number 5: Neurodivergence Pain and Suffering
#Neurodivergent wife and coach, Christie Ellis shared with me her own journey through tremendous pain and suffering and how her life has been enriched because of her experiences. Christie has incredible insights about how emotions inform us, and how #neurodiverserelationship partners can improve #communication and connection. This is episode 8, part 2 of my chat with Christie, on Season 3 of the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship." Watch all episodes at: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR #neurodiverserelationship #suicidalthought #autismsigns #autisticwoman #adhd #neurodiversewoman #communicationskills #relationshipproblems #jodicarlton ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. 💁‍♀️ My ground-breaking program for neurodiverse relationships, facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. ❤️️ Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
June 21, 202329min