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What are boundaries really? Because kids naturally don’t like rules, they will always try to break them, negotiate, not do it, … But I also didn’t want to force, push, or yell at my daughter if she said no or didn’t listen. 

Because I didn’t want her to grow up into being me: the one who always listened and never said no out of fear, and ended up becoming a resentful people-pleaser, walking on eggshells not to make mommy mad = afraid of not being loved.

So is it even possible to have rules and get them respected without yelling and all that drama around it? 

I won’t sugar-coat it, this one took me a while to figure out because I didn’t have any healthy role models growing up.

So this is where I’m at with it right now, perfectly imperfect…

You can catch this episode on Youtube at https://youtu.be/FK8UCjILepc

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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The Zen Supermom squad is expanding, and we are thrilled to introduce our newest team member: Coach Tina! I invited her for a chat in this podcast episode so that you can get to know her a bit. Because apart from being a first-class master coach and trauma specialist, she’s also a mom of 2, expatriate, … and so much more.

So come meet Tina with me!

You can catch this episode on YouTube as well at https://youtu.be/WWeNUeQiDdQ

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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Maybe you were not lucky enough to have a happy childhood. And maybe you did!

Either way, if you can’t help it and end up yelling at your kids frequently, the chances are high that something happened very early on in your life and you never healed the pain. And that’s what keeps jumping out at your kids when they cross your boundaries now.

How to start healing your pain without blaming your parents for it?

And if you are already mad with them because it was clearly their “fault”, how could that resentment NOT stand in your way of healing?

Because if you’re looking around for advice on how to be a calm parent, it means you deeply care about your kids and their wellbeing. And you don’t want them to grow up feeling your anger was their fault.

That’s why this journey is worth it.

And that’s why the relationship with your parents (whatever that is right now) should not stop you.

Let’s dive in…

You can catch this episode on YouTube as well at https://youtu.be/YaBuhx1UZWw

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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No child is born mean or has the intention to hurt you. But what if they start yelling at you, and calling you the worst names because something you did or said made them mad? 

How do you feel about them then? Hurt, not respected, angry?

Of course, it makes perfect sense. But once you calm down, you might regret some things you said in that heat of the moment. And even though you apologized, you feel ashamed it happened and you lost your calm.

If you know exactly what I’m talking about, then let’s dive in deeper. 

Because there’s a way how you can set healthy boundaries and stay calm, even when your child is yelling at you.

It’s not ok for them to hurt you verbally/emotionally (or in any way, really). 

But I don’t have to tell you that punishing them by doing the exact same thing and hurting them back emotionally doesn’t really teach them anything about how to express their anger without hurting others.

Let’s start!

Catch this episode on Youtube at https://youtu.be/XQxRuFIKi8I

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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Life can get very cruel at times. And no matter how hard you try to protect yourself and the kids from the pain, sometimes you just can’t. And it’s devastating.

How to deal with situations that feel heavier than what you can take?

How to still get up in the morning and be there for your kids?

Let me share a few powerful tweaks that worked for my supermom clients in their heavy situations.

May this bring you some much-needed peace and ease for you and your family.

Catch this episode on Youtube too at https://youtu.be/dFM9H3OUAk0

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
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Catch this episode on Youtube at https://youtu.be/0rhdBO4X7QM

Free assessment: https://assessment.positiveintelligence.com/pq/overview

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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Congratulations, supermom!

You already know that to stop yelling at your kids, parenting techniques won't help.

Because no matter how easy it would be to blame them for making you upset, exhausted, and out of patience, you know it has actually a lot to do with you.

So first of all, you're a great mom and I know you're doing your best.
And I know that for a fact because you're here, looking for help.

But there are just some things that do not work as another DIY for your smart brain. And healing your own childhood wounds and past pain that's really at the roots of your uncontrollable anger is one of them.

And what if you're scared of healing your past because:
- either you tried in the past and it didn't work
- or it made you feel even worse
- or you've been avoiding even thinking about it your whole life because it's just too much?

Then this podcast episode is for you.

Breathe in, breathe out.
You're safe.

Let's dip a toe together...

And then email "SLOW" to [email protected] if you want to check in together, slowly and carefully, if we could help you clean up your pain too...

2 weeks - that's how fast it takes on average for Zen Supermom clients to feel relieved, less angry, and more in control in stressful situations with their kids. But we can also go at your speed.

Catch this episode on Youtube at https://youtu.be/BlT3mdS1_kY

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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Is your child hitting you when they feel angry? 

Do they suddenly get into a fit of rage at the end of the day when you pick them up at the daycare center? Or what is the situation when they lose it the most often?

I know that it can be super frustrating when your once cute little bundle of joy who only knows coos and ahhs, one day, suddenly starts hitting you out of nowhere.

Want to get the 3 key steps to help them stop - without yelling?

What you're going to get inside:

• 3 steps so that you can handle the situation without yelling
• how to shift from a 'momzilla' into a curious observer of emotions, 
• knowing that all emotions are allowed (no matter if your parents taught you otherwise...)

Dive in!

And then email "READY" at [email protected] if you're finally ready to stop just reading & listening, and start making it happen.  

2 weeks - that's how fast it takes on average for Zen Supermom clients to feel relieved, less angry, and more in control in stressful situations with their kids.

Catch this episode on Youtube at https://youtu.be/fR2kRNNgbUQ

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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I am so excited about this episode, but let me start by saying thank you to all the moms who took the leap of faith and embarked on the journey of becoming an anger-free, unconditionally loving mom with the help of The Stop Yelling Program. It wouldn’t exist and grow so fast without you.

And yes, we are growing! Please join me as we welcome our newest addition to The Zen Supermom team, an expatriate supermom of two, and experienced Therapeutic Trauma-Informed Coach Silvia Causo. Let’s hear her story, her struggles as a mom, and how it all helped her become stronger and better at helping others heal too.

Having been Silvia’s mentor on her professional education path, I am confident that with her help, the Stop Yelling Program will be able to help more moms than ever before. 

Get to know more about Silvia on the Zen Supermom web: https://alenagomesrodrigues.com/zen-supermom-method/

Link mentioned in the episode: Free assessment of the voices in your head: https://www.zensupermom.com/voices

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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If you lost hope at ever feeling better because you already tried and learned so much (parenting, mindfulness, therapy, …) and none of that helped you fully heal, stop yelling at your kids, stop burning out, stop feeling depressed, and just feeling like a really bad mom…

Then this short episode is for you.

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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