Have you ever heard someone say… “Attracting a great man is not about the size of your thighs” and thought…

Yeah, right!

I totally feel you!

Ladies, you are going to love this episode of the Dating Den!  

If you are like me you have let your emotional self and your physical self impact how you are with men and how you date. Be prepared to change your life!

So many of us have had problems with some kind of addiction. My guest today, Dr. Susan Peirce Thompson, turned her addiction from hard drugs into a food addiction before she educated herself about the science behind the addiction. Her Bright Line Eating program now helps people shed pounds and to build new futures.

Dr. Susan is an Adjunct Associate Professor of Brain and Cognitive Science at the University of Rochester and an expert on the psychology of eating. She is President of the Institute of Sustainable Weight Loss and CEO of Bright Line Eating Solution. She is the author of the New York Times Best Seller, Bright Line Eating.

The Science Behind Your Addiction  [12:26]

Simply said, sugar and flour are drugs. They are the refined essence of a normally non-harmful plant. They flood the pleasure center of the brain with dopamine after eating them. The brain will modify itself to moderate the dopamine receptors. It makes people who are considering giving up sugar and flour feel desperate and bleak. Food addiction looks the same as heroin or cocaine addiction.

If you are beating yourself up about your weight it’s because you don’t trust yourself after years of betraying yourself. You can build up your integrity around food. You can slowly break the addiction.

Dating and Hating [18:46]

It's hard to show up for dates in a body you don't like. Picking clothes based on how much they hide and not on how much they show. Wishing you were in a different body. It makes you feel like you have deep psychological issues. You make yourself believe something is wrong with you.

There is nothing like food addiction to make you hate yourself.

The Four Bright Lines [27:52]

Dr. Susan explains why most diets are not helping people to lose weight. She says most diets focus on what to eat and what not to eat and include an exercise program. But in reality, exercise sabotages your weight loss strategy. Willpower will abandon you because it gets exhausted. You will fall into the willpower gap.

Build automatic habits around your eating. Give yourself no choice. Your healthy eating happens whether you like it or not. Dedicate a few months to your diet and during the weight loss phase, rest. Don’t exercise.

Mantras [35:36]

Say it out loud with me ladies “That is not food! That is poison!” Now say it again and picture someone handing you an ice cream cone! “That is not food!”

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