10 BDSM SKILLS THAT CAN INFORM ALL RELATIONSHIPS : 02 - DON’T BORE YOUR SUBMISSIVE!

Boredom isn’t just a shallow thing.  Boredom is ultimately indicative of soul stagnation.

Boredom indicates to us that our journeys have stalled.

We are here seeking expansion.  We are here seeking experiences.  Our soul is on an arc.

Our Eros is no exception to his.  Our erotic journey and self-expression is also an expressive arc.

In a thriving Dom-sub dynamic, a great Dom understands this.  He does not have his eye on just creating a little bit of momentary stimulation for his submissive.  A great Dom has his eye on the soul journey of his submissive’s erotic expression.

What is that the submissive’s soul is seeking next?  What is her erotic expression longing for next?  Where is she stuck?  Where is she holding herself back?  Where can I facilitate her movement and expansion?

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In vanilla relationships as well, the women today are tremendously bored with their men.

Women feel men don’t really see them.  Men aren’t really curious about them.  Men don’t really understand women, let along being a stand for their soul expansion.

Both the submissive and the woman have a tremendous capacity for fun.

Both of them have a tremendous capacity for extracting fun out of both positive and negative experiences.  This is a very important and rich fact for Doms and men to keep in mind.  To take their women/submissive on a full ride, you need to be masterful at making use of both positive as well as negative experience to generate fun for them.

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In the work environment, the number 1 reason people quit their jobs and careers is not because they are not making enough money or they hate their bosses; it’s that most people are bored out of their fucking minds with their work and job and career.

People feel they are stagnating in their career.  People feel they are going to do die repeating this same day over and over, and that would be a tragic way to spend the rest of their life.

As a boss or an employer, keep an eye on creating challenges for your employees.  Give them new missions and new challenges.

As an employee, keep an eye on whether you are growing through your work.  You will live a more fulfilling life making less money at something that is challenging you rather than the opposite.

— Om Rupani

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