ANSWER YOUR CALL!  OR GET OFF THE POT!

Lauren and I giving some tough love to you women who are on the fence about answering your call.  We wholeheartedly urge you to take courage and step towards the bit of uncertainty that might be the start of an adventure.

With love.

Om & Lauren.

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PODCAST WITH EYLA CUENCA —

TOPICS:

I feel for you people who binge watch my material.

Containment for a birth doula.  Containment in birth space.

The energetics of Containment.

Containment in Man-Woman dynamic.

Men’s initiations, or lack there of, these days.

Where the men drop contentment and boundaries, women step in to pick up the slack.

You will never get the best out of a woman who is chronically uncontained.

What women look like after a good scene.

The downward spiral of distrust that results in long-term frustrations.

Reversing the downward spirals.

Men want to be found right.

Discerning non-consensual Domination & submission from the consensual.

Using scene-play for release and catharsis.

Flipping trauma for Eros.

The coolness of the Dom energy.

Balancing energies between Dom & sub.

Archetypical mismatch when both woman and men are submissives.

Women being more yes to their submission than men are to their Domination.

A functional dom-sub dynamic is a co-conspiracy.

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SHIFTING PRIESTESS TRAINING FROM VIENNA TO NEW JERSEY

Hello Everyone.  Lauren and I are pivoting our next Priestess Training from Vienna back to Jersey City, NJ.

We are doing so in response to the needs and desires of our students.  Many more students are a yes to doing it here right now than traveling to Europe for it.

Please look at the course page if you are interested : https://omrupani.org/practitioner-mastery

Please reach out if you have any questions.  Lauren and I are happy to get on a zoom call with you to answer your questions.

— Om Rupani

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POLARITY GLITCHES : 01 ARE YOU FOLLOWING YOUR MAN?  OR, ARE YOU ‘LETTING HIM LEAD’?

Many couples who have switched from an egalitarian model of relating towards a more polarized form of relating are still feeling quite exhausted.  The sweet rewards of ease and greater functionality that polarity relating has promised them still seem elusive in their dynamic.  The women are still feeing over-stretch and tired.  The men are not quite feeling like they have arrived in their element in leading in their relationship.

When I’m coaching couples and listening to their conflicts and complaints, I am often able to spot a handful of glitches in their dynamic.  It’s almost as if their habits and ways of doing things need to be ‘debugged’ like in a computer program.  I thought I’d make a series of videos addressing these glitches.

This video deals with one of the most common shadow pieces I see — where the woman thinks or acts like she is really in favor of her man leading, but in fact she is stuck in the shadow energy of ‘letting him lead’,  or ‘allowing him to lead’.  

There is a world of difference between trusting and following your man and this underhanded energy of ‘letting him lead’.

There are many beliefs and energies that can live behind this phenomenon of ‘letting your man lead’ instead of whole-heartedly wanting his leadership.  Here are 2 of them:

1. You simply don’t know how to turn off your controlling mechanism.  Behind this drive to control is a deep distrust — perhaps of everyone, but more likely a distrust towards men and the masculine.
2. You feel following your man makes you inferior to him.  So you are holding your surrender in reserve, because you don’t want to render yourself weaker and inferior to him according to your beliefs.  Constantly checking your man, on the other hand, implies you are more competent than him and thus superior to him.

— Om Rupani

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PRIESTESS TRAINING - BALANCING PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL ENERGIES

It’s a common inquiry among women considering this training about balancing their work life with their desires for personal partnerships.  Lauren and I discuss this topic in this video.

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— Om Rupani

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PODCAST : WOMEN’S DISCONTENTMENT WILL END THE WORLD. 

TOPICS:

Challenges of Eros in long-term relationships.

The correct purpose of a long-term partnership.

Dropping birth rates.

Adversity as the source of meaning.

Accumulating experiences of betrayal in hook-up culture.

The chronic dissatisfaction of the modern woman.

Men want to make women happy; modern woman has vowed to not be happy.

For most women, submission is weakness.

Women’s submissions as men’s reward and fuel.

Ownership in relationships.

It’s not a man’s job to bring a woman into submission.

Attitude towards naysayers.

Women’s fantasies.

BDSM in long-term relationships.

Your Permission Field in a relationship.

Men’s path to dominance.

Real sexual mastery.

Casual sex vs. partnership.

Women’s sex and self-worth.

Women can’t submit to a man they don’t respect.

Money beliefs in family lineage.

Healthy dynamic between mother and son.

Masculinity in media.

Feminism’s efficiency in destroying man-woman relationships.

Relationship mastery as prerequisite to sexual connection.

Too many men these days are boring.

-- Om Rupani

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Priestess Training in Vienna!  March - July 2025

The next run of the Priestess Training will be in Vienna.

All the course details are at : https://omrupani.org/practitioner-mastery

Please reach out if you have any questions.

— Om Rupani

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Of Vegans and Nice Guys and Submissives

A broad conversation on my favorite topics of BDSM, Masculinity and Man-Woman Relating in today's culture.

— Om Rupani

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SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS ARE ABOUT GIVING YOUR PARTNER WHAT THEY NEED, WANT & DESIRE.

My personal relationship philosophy is no more complex than the above statement.  Give your partner want your partner wants.  Contribute to them.  Make their life easier.  Make their life better.  Contribute to their expansion.  

Two people doing that for each other — that’s the golden state.  That’s heaven on earth as far as human relating is concerned.

Do whatever works.  

I personally have no particular philosophy or ideology on HOW A WOMAN SHOULD BE, or HOW A MAN SHOULD BE.

Be however you want.  You are a free and sovereign soul.  Do your thing.  Express yourself as you please.  Your life is yours to live.

But, if you want to play the man-woman game, or any relational game, then who you are, how you are, what you do, how you do it - all of that goes into whether you will succeed or fail at being able to give your partner what your partner needs, desires and wants from you.

Everything I teach and talk about is constructed on this metric.  My personal approach to creating successful man-woman relating is trying to find as many big pieces that are valid generalizations as to what men want from women and what women want from men.  I personally have no other measuring stick, no authority, no higher source regarding men & women.  What works?  What works most of the time?  Let’s try that.

What generalizations are consistent regarding what women want from men?

What generalizations are consistent regarding what men want from women?

Let’s follow those.  Let’s build on that data.  It’s a pretty reasonable approach.

What makes this simple approach a bit more complicated to implement, is that human beings are not obvious creatures.  Our needs and desires are not always plain to see and understand.  Many times, men and women themselves don’t have clear understanding of their true needs and desires.  This is where a little digging is needed.  This is where insight into our nature is needed.

These insights often ruffle feathers among people when they go against people’s self-concepts of what it means to be a good man or woman.  But arguing with the insight, or the insight-bringer, is not really necessary.  You be the judge of what is working in your relationships.  If you and your partner are mutually happy and thriving, ignore everyone blabbering their relationship advice.  What do you care?  You are already succeeding at your relationships.  You are happy and thriving.  Keep doing what you are doing.

If what you have been doing has not been working and creating great results in your relationships, then it might be worthwhile to consider that some new data and action might be needed for you to create the needed success.  Try something new if you want, or don’t.  All up to you.

— Om Rupani

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10 BDSM Skills That Can Inform All Relationships : 06 - Own Each Other! / Or, How Relationships Die!

Owning a human being is a concept that is a bit out of date by normal standards.

As with all things in the BDSM realm, distinctions need to be made between the CONSENSUAL and the NON-CONSENSUAL.

Consensual Ownership might be an energy that is direly needed in our culture today.

My offer is that ownership is at the heart of what makes all relationships work.  This certainly applies to romantic relationships, whether they be kinky or not.  Beyond that, it even applies to familial relationships and even work relationships. 

Our life energy flow into that which we own.  When we own the people we care for, we nurture them, and as a result, those relationships flourish.

When we withdraw our ownerships energies from a relationship, that relationship begins to wither and deteriorate.

It could even be said that the bulk of the lies we perpetrate in relationships are lies about how much we truly own someone.

— Om Rupani.

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