In this episode, we break down how to identify and understand your actual needs and feelings. We also demystify the power dynamics within the family system and how they can distort our perspective in relationships.  It's not about right or wrong; instead, it's about understanding and healthily managing our feelings and needs. In a society dominated by a culture of suppression, we often learn to hide our feelings and needs. We focus on obtaining favorable judgments from others; in the process, we lose touch with our inner selves. Developing literacy of feelings and needs can be transformative. It helps shift your attention from external influences to your body and mind. By tuning into our feelings and needs, we can identify what is truly important to us before we hit the "red alarm" zone. This proactive approach to personal growth helps us make informed choices about our well-being. Through our discussion, we aim to help you reclaim your sense of self and navigate conflicting narratives within your relationships.

Show notes:
[1:11] What are faux feelings and needs, and what are their differences from actual feelings and needs? 
[20:22] How do you receive someone when you sense faux feelings and then add real feelings in communication?
[27:54] How do we recognize and respond to harmful situations?
[30:31] What would a healthy culture or family system look like?
[36:03] How do you let go of resentment?
[37:11] How do you recognize if you are developing narcissistic traits?
[52:32] Outro

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