Flying Free

12 Life-Changing Beliefs That Will Unhook You From Abuse Part One [181]


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“I would keep the peace or create peace at any cost. And a lot of the time, the cost was myself.”


Amie searched for love her entire life. But all she found were unsafe people. And all she learned was that love demanded everything and gave nothing but pain in return. 


Despite this, Amie is a poster child for what’s possible after a life of abuse. She’s flourished in Flying Free and Flying Higher, moving from a caterpillar perspective to a butterfly perspective, from crawling to flying.


How? It all comes down to old thoughts versus new thoughts. Just like a caterpillar, Amie wove a cocoon of new thoughts to replace the ones that had led her into harm and kept her from living beyond her trauma. 


What she learned is so powerful, so practical, and so encouraging, we talked for 2 hours. I broke our discussion into a 3-part podcast series, diving into exactly what Amie did and providing listeners the simple, downloadable resource she used to fly free. 


Part 1 of this 3-part therapy session includes:

  • Why Amie was terrified that Flying Free would not be a safe place for her
  • How chameleons and trauma are related
  • The FREE PDF DOWNLOAD for old thoughts vs. new thoughts (see below)
  • Why the church’s definition of “community” is usually just icky enmeshment
  • 2 old thoughts and 2 new thoughts from Amie’s worksheet (these are truth anvils, I tell you!)
  • How Amie was robbing her ex-husband of his chrysalis when she thought she was loving him (super easy to do with our kids too)

P.S. Listen to Part 2 and Part 3 of this 3-part series!

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download

You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com

And finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com

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