"I'm not selling my house right now, so it doesn't matter what it's worth today."

That one sentence changed everything about how I look at my INVESTMENT accounts. And if watching your investments go up and down makes you want to hide under the covers, you need to hear this analogy.

Today we’re talking about investing after divorce by breaking down the three buckets every divorced woman needs to understand, what to do with settlement money sitting in your bank account, and when you actually need a financial advisor versus when you can handle it yourself.

If you've ever thought "someone needs to rescue me financially," this episode is for you.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.
• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month. 
• The Renew Your Mind Podcast with Diana Swillinger
• Dave Ramsey Baby Steps
• Money with Katie Show
• Investing for Dummies

Today's Guest: Samantha Compton, President & Senior Financial Advisor

It wasn’t until a major life event that Samantha realized a desire to understand and set up her own financial future. That transitional experience helps her remember that financial topics can be intimidating and confusing, especially for those unfamiliar with industry lingo.

Once Samantha became educated and equipped in her own finances, she wanted to serve others by giving insight for their financial futures. She especially enjoys helping women going through divorce and/or the loss of a spouse as well as facilitating financial conversations between couples and helping the non-CFO of the family understand what is in place for their future.

Samantha has helped singles and couples develop their long-term financial plans since 2012, when she began her financial career. In 2016, she transitioned to Wise Wealth as a senior financial advisor, and in 2023, she opened Insight Wealth, an EverSource Wealth Advisors team.

Welcome to Season 3 of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast! This season we’re getting all up in your business (literally): the money business. And we’re kicking things off by asking: What’s your money mindset looking like after divorce? Is it cool, calm, and collected, or hiding in a closet stress-eating Oreos and ignoring the bill collectors?

I invited my friend and fellow coach Diana Swillinger to help us unpack the tangled web of beliefs we’ve inherited about money, and how to burn those unhelpful scripts to the ground so we can build a mindset that actually serves us.

🎯 Key Takeaways:

• Your money beliefs didn’t drop from heaven on a golden scroll. They were absorbed from your family, church, culture, and that one pastor who said poverty = holiness 
• You’re allowed to love money. Not in a “Scrooge McDuck swimming in gold coins” kind of way, but in a “money helps me take care of my life and generously support others” kind of way.
• Money is not evil. Abuse of power is. And guess what? You having resources = you having options = less abuse. Coincidence? I think not.
• Self-trust is everything. If you’ve been financially controlled, rebuilding trust in yourself is the first step. God wants you to believe in yourself, because guess who made you? 
• You are not the exception to God’s love. Generosity starts with you. Stop excluding yourself from the care you give to everyone else.
• You can be Christian AND want financial security. Shocker, I know. 

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.
• Flying Higher is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month or $590 for an entire year of mind-blowing personal growth. 
• Be sure to check out Diana’s podcast, Renew Your Mind! 
• Grab a copy of You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth by Jen Sincero

Season Three is coming February 7, 2026, and the topic is MONEY. We'll be discussing money mindset, taxes, investing, estate planning, buying, renting, and selling homes, as well as budgeting, building your financial future, and much more! 

Subscribe to get new episodes on your podcast app as they are released. 

So, you got divorced and your social life went up in flames. Welcome to the club, friend. Pull up a chair.

In this season finale, I sit down with my friend Diana Swillinger (host of The Renew Your Mind Podcast) to talk about something every divorced woman eventually faces: the weird, wonderful, terrifying world of making new friends when you're a whole new person.

We talk about the great scattering (as Mel Robbins calls it), how to let go of draining friendships without guilt, and why being rejected might not actually kill you. If you're feeling lonely, wondering where your people went, or ready to rebuild your community from scratch with people who actually see you, this episode is the warm hug and gentle shove you need.

And don't worry, introverts, we’ve got you too. You can still want deep connection without having to attend a single church potluck ever again. Promise.

Key Takeaways:

• Friendships change after divorce, and that’s normal.
• You’re allowed to let go of draining people. Seriously, permission granted.
• Great friendships need three things: proximity, timing, and energy.
• Let them be who they are, and let yourself be you.
• You don’t need a huge friend group, just real ones.
• Rejection happens, and you’ll survive it. Promise.
• Be open, take small risks, and make the first move sometimes.

Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development. 
• Check out Diana’s website and explore some resources, listen to her podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast, and finally, connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.

What if the most important relationship you’ll ever have isn't the one with your ex, your pastor, or even your cat, but the one with yourself? (I know, scandalous.) 

In this episode, I’m joined by three divorced Christian women, Barb, Diana, and Lisa, to unpack what it really looks like to reconnect with yourself after decades of religious programming and marital trauma.

We Talk About:

• Rebuilding your identity after your inner toddler’s been gagged and duct-taped by shame for too long
• Why self-love isn't selfish 
• How IFS (Internal Family Systems) can help you make peace with all the parts of you, even the hot messes and drama queens
• The sneaky inner critic that won’t shut up and how to lovingly calm her down
• Tiny, powerful ways to rebuild trust with yourself (without selling your soul to a Himalayan yoga retreat)

Whether you’re eight days or eight years post-divorce, this episode is your permission slip to stop apologizing for existing and start building a fierce, compassionate relationship with the one person who will always be there: YOU.

Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development.
• Check out Diana’s website and explore some resources, listen to her podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast, and finally, connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.
• Connect with Dr. Barb on her website, Integrative Coaching for Life. 
• Read the book Lisa recommended, Hidden Within. 

You've survived the marriage from Hades, signed the divorce papers, and maybe even had your ceremonial "burn the wedding dress" moment. 

Your kids are grown, they have opinions (lots of them), and some of those opinions are... not in your favor. If you're wondering how to rebuild, repair, or even just exist in relationship with your adult children post-divorce without losing your mind (or your will to live), this episode is your safe space.

I sit down with my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger, for a conversation about the complex and often heart-wrenching work of parenting adult kids after divorce.

What We Talk About:

• How your adult kids might try to parent YOU 
• Why their black-and-white thinking isn’t your fault, (but also maybe kind of is?)
• How we passed on rigid theology and why it complicates everything now
• When your child blames YOU for the divorce (hello, Christian programming!)
• The fine line between a heartfelt apology and a full-blown grovel-fest
• Using cognitive behavioral tools to detach from their drama and stay in your lane
• How to hold space for conflicting realities without losing your own mind
• Hope for reconciliation, even when it feels lightyears away
• What it means to bring the peace (no, not a pumpkin pie. Peace.)

Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development.
• Check out Diana’s website and explore some resources, listen to her podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast, and finally, connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.

Why do your kids act like little angels at their dad’s house and then transform into rabid raccoons the moment they step foot into your kitchen? No, it’s not because you’re failing as a mom (although that voice in your head might say otherwise). 

It’s because YOU are the safe one. 

In this episode, we unpack all of it: the chaos, the trauma, the meltdowns, and the sacred role you play in raising kids who actually make it out of this mess OK.

I sat down with Diana, Loretta, and Charlotte, three divorced Christian mamas who’ve done the hard work of parenting through PTSD, manipulation, religious confusion, and all the weird stuff your kids’ dad tries to pull post-divorce. 

We Talk About:

• Why your kids hold it together at Dad’s house and come unglued at yours (hint: it’s not about “respect”)
• What Polyvagal Theory has to do with your kid whacking you in the head with a Richard Scarry book
• Why “big behavior” ≠ “bad kid”
• How Christian parenting culture gets trauma so wrong
• What to say (and what NOT to say) when your kid reports their dad’s latest antics
  Why curiosity > control when it comes to parenting
• Practical boundaries that protect your kids AND your sanity
• Reframing fear and people-pleasing
• The long game of parenting: trust, patience, and letting your kids learn to think for themselves

Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development.
• Check out Diana’s website and explore some resources, listen to her podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast, and finally, connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.
• Contact Loretta at [email protected] 

Ever wondered what happens to your church relationships when your marriage falls apart and you do the unthinkable (aka, choose not to be miserable for the rest of your life)? In this episode, I sat down with Diana, Stacey, and Marie, to talk about the real fallout that happens not just in marriage, but in the holy halls of church after divorce.

What We Talked About:

• How divorce changes everything about how you experience church
• What happens when you realize your church was more in love with patriarchy than Jesus
• Spiritual deconstruction (a.k.a. following Jesus out of the building)
• Learning to hear God’s voice (Head’s up: it’s not your ex, your pastor, or the elder’s wife)
• Releasing or renewing relationships after betrayal
• Forgiveness: what it is, what it isn’t
• How to support your kids spiritually without traumatizing them 
• Rebuilding community outside of the institution (Zoom counts, y’all)

Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development. 
• Listen to the audiobook for All the Scary Little Gods by yours truly for FREE! 
• Books mentioned: Freeing Jesus by Diana Butler Bass, The Book of Forgiving by Desmond Tutu, and Faith After Doubt by Brian McLaren.
• Connect with Marie on her blog, Live Like it Matters, and website, Spiritual Direction with Marie. 
• Connect with Stacey and find all her resources on her Linktree. 
• Check out Diana’s podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast.

So you got divorced, and now you’re the scandal of the century in your tiny town (or tight church circle). You’re dodging judgmental glances in the grocery store and wondering if your prayer request just got broadcasted as Christian-sanctified gossip. Sound familiar? 

In this episode, I team up with my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger, to talk about how to take your power back when your life becomes the talk of the neighborhood.

If you're tired of feeling like your healing is public property and you’re ready to walk tall again, even while Sister So-and-So is side-eyeing you from the church pew, this one’s for you.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 

• Why small communities (and churches) make divorce extra spicy 
• How gossip can hijack your story, and how to stop handing it over
• Practical ways to reclaim your voice, dignity, and narrative
• How to respond to those “concerned” (ahem…nosy) comments
• What shame does to your soul and how to evict it for good
• Why protecting your story is wisdom, not paranoia
• Confidence tips to strut your stuff, even when your insides are spaghetti
• How to truly stop giving a flying fig about other people’s opinions

Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development.
• Check out Diana’s website and explore some resources, listen to her podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast, and finally, connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.
• Listen to Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk and do some power poses. 

Have you ever been talked over in a meeting, assigned work with no warning, or gotten that oh-so-lovely “Can you just help with this one little thing?” at 4:59 p.m.? 

In this episode, I’m joined by Stacey, Diana, Marie, and Grace, all divorced Christian women who are navigating life post-divorce in the workplace. We’re diving deep into how to show up for yourself professionally without selling your soul or compromising your values.

What We Talked About:

• How divorce made us braver and more assertive at work 
• Real-life stories of standing up to toxic bosses and winning (even if your hands are shaking the whole time)
• Tips for dealing with mansplaining, micromanagers, and Monday meetings 
• Knowing when to speak up and when to let it go Elsa-style
• Creating unshakeable boundaries around your time, energy, and sanity
• How trauma triggers show up in the office, and how we’ve learned to manage them
• Why being a “dependable worker” doesn’t mean being everyone’s doormat
• Using body language and presence to command respect 
• The sacred art of saying “no” without apologizing or over-explaining
• Gossip: How to shut it down without becoming the HR police

Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women who are ready to evolve into the next version of themselves. A version that is more confident, more regulated, and more at peace about all of life. 
• Connect with Marie on her blog, Live Like it Matters, and website, Spiritual Direction with Marie. 
• Connect with Stacey and find all her resources on her Linktree. 
• Check out Diana’s podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast.
• Add Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy, Dare to Lead by Brené Brown, and Rich Girl Nation by Katie Gatti Tassin to your library.
• Check out Toastmasters.