Caller Chelsea: "My husband has used some porn as a form of escapism, but never really an addiction. His real addiction has been alcohol. He is currently 3 months sober, but it seems like his goal in this is to show me that the alcohol was never really the problem in our marriage, but that the real problem was/is me. He makes zero effort to move toward the relationship, giving me the silent treatment. When I force him to talk, or at minimum listen to what I have to say, he refutes most everything I say that I am feeling. I have begged him to go to couples counseling, but he refuses, saying that I don’t really want to resolve anything, I just want a place to be able to level him with anger into compliance with the approval of an “expert”. He won’t make any agreements regarding how we share our time, money, and space. I have restarted individual counseling, and am trying to figure out boundaries, but it is so confusing when we share so much in life."

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Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.  

Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!  

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