-Diana Winston

 

Meditation is touted as being a cure-all for everything from anxiety to depression to addictions.  But is it possible that all this is too good to be true?

 

In this episode, meditation teacher - and former Buddhist nun! - Diana Winston guides us through what we know of the research on meditation that's relevant to parents.  It turns out that the quality of much of this research isn't amazing, but this may not matter to you if you're thinking of starting a meditation practice because the opportunity cost (a few minutes a day) is so low and the potential benefits are so high.

 

We walk through a basic meditation that you can do anywhere, and no - it doesn't involve sitting cross-legged with your thumb and first finger held in a circle and saying 'ommmmmm....'.

 

I was skeptical about meditation too - until I tried it.  Perhaps it might help you as well?

 

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02:36 Introducing Diana Winston

03:39 Defining Mindfulness

05:25 Distinguishing between mindfulness and meditation

06:26 How can mindfulness benefit me?

08:05 Self-hatred as a Western concept

12:27 The practice of mindfulness rooted in religion and cultural appropriation

13:57 The research on mindfulness

17:27 Why is it so hard to study mindfulness?

19:33 Mindfulness vs science as tools of observation

21:26 The benefits of mindfulness to parents and children

28:04 Improving parent-child relationships through mindfulness

30:27 Working in mindfulness practices in the context of communities

35:52 Practice mindfulness now with this quick walkthrough

42:46 Sit Still and It Will Hurt Eventually

 

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