Ryan Allen, LPCC-S, LPC, is a licensed therapist with a decade of expertise working with young children and their families.  A parent of two young kids, Ryan creates free resources for nearly 1 million parents and child caregivers on both TikTok and IG, providing guidance and support to shift away from traditional punitive approaches towards fostering environments of mutual respect.

I intentionally bring up several controversial topics to get his thoughts.

Is it true....

• That therapists are perfect parents?
• That your pediatrician’s advice is the golden rule?
• That kids grow out of behaviors?
• That you shouldn’t say “good job”?
• That you have to read to your kids every night?
• That all it takes to extinguish a behavior is playing your cards right?
• Is there such a thing as a naughty or bad kid?
• If your child knows better and does it anyway, isn’t that manipulation? Shouldn’t you take it personally?
• Do we need to fix a behavior right away or else it will get worse?

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER -

• Two questions to ask yourself to actually stop a negative behavior
• The insight that completely shifted Ryan’s professional approach
• An alternative approach to the red/green/yellow clip charts

DON’T MISS:

• What to do when behavior feels disrespectful

// MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE //
Beyond Behavior by Mona Delahooke
Dan Siegel books
Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn
No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury

// CONNECT WITH RYAN //
Tiktok: @preschooltherapy
Instagram: @preschooltherapist
Website: http://Preschooltherapist.com

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