Claire had used respectful parenting methods since her children were babies, so child-led learning seemed like a natural fit for her.  She protected her toddler’s free play time and involved her in household chores and nature walks.

 

Claire attended school as a child (just like I did!); she even enjoyed elementary school. By high school she didn’t see the relevance between what she was being taught and the things she was interested in - by that time her biggest lessons came from extracurricular art classes with mostly retired classmates at an art school, and from a theater production which she and other students put on entirely by themselves - getting advice from teachers, but messing up and fixing their mistakes by themselves.

 

It was the art classes and theater experiences that shaped the kind of learning that Claire wanted for her child, so she got herself pretty worked up over the idea of her oldest daughter attending public school.  It was actually joining my Learning Membership that helped her see that if she did need to put her daughter in school someday, they would still be able to find ways to support her at home.  Whichever way that turned out, she and her daughter would be OK.

 

And in the meantime, her daughter had transitioned from the simpler questions of two to the more complex, involved questions of three.  Her new sibling was born, and her writing explorations proceeded in parallel with figuring out her place in the newly expanded family: suddenly she’s highly motivated to write a sign saying:

NO BABIES ALLOWED.

 

Not only has Claire seen her child’s learning develop, but she’s also seeing her own growth as a person and as a parent.  Having arrived at the decision to homeschool from a place of fear and defensiveness, which she would have to justify to her extended family who are teachers, she now feels confident that homeschooling is the right fit for her family right now - even though that may change in the future.

 

And - more importantly - she has reimagined her role in the homeschooling relationship.  She now knows she doesn’t need to high-tail it for the library the moment her daughter expresses an interest in a new subject - she can sit back and observe and see what her daughter is really learning…and then go to the library if that’s the most appropriate thing to do.  Claire is becoming her daughter’s guide on the side who takes cues from her learner, rather than the sage on the stage who takes advantage of every Teachable Moment to impart a lesson.

 

Now Claire feels much more relaxed about her daughter’s learning, because she trusts her daughter - and she trusts herself.  Claire had spent a lot of her own early years feeling uncomfortable, and searching for belonging.  She figured that if she just pushed herself harder, and beat herself up when things went wrong, that eventually she would be good enough.  

 

That she would finally stop feeling ashamed of herself, and fit in.

 

Now she sees that you can’t teach a child to be compassionate.  The way our children learn compassion is by seeing us being compassionate with them - and with ourselves.  

 

So Claire is reparenting herself at the same time as she’s supporting her child’s learning.

 

Claire is in the Supporting Your Child’s Learning Membership, which doesn’t offer a curriculum.

 

It doesn’t tell you what activities to do when, or give a checklist of learning goals for you to fill out.

 

Instead, it helps you to:

 

If you need this help so you can support your own child’s learning, I’d love to meet you in the Learning Membership. Make learning a fun adventure that not only strengthens your bond, but also nurtures your child’s intrinsic love of learning—an essential foundation for success in an AI-driven world.

 

If you’d like a bit more of a sense for what it’s like to be in the membership before you join, I hope to see you on our FREE You Are Your Child’s Best Teacher masterclass coming up this Thursday August 15, 2024 at 11am Pacific.  You’ll get a good chunk of what we discussed in the recent five-day workshop - in just 90 minutes!

 

03:07 Invitation to join the Supporting Your Child Learning Membership

03:50 What life in a homestead is like for Claire's family

05:43 How does their way of life show out in her child

07:07 Ways that Claire support her child’s learning prior joining the membership

09:17 Claire's lack of connection to what she was studying in school

10:09 How her passion for art continues to influence Claire’s life today

11:39 Getting community support for Claire help her a lot in embarking her journey in the membership

12:58 Claire's thoughts and difficulties she encountered when she began the first module

14:53 Claire’s learning explorations with her child’s interest in letters and writing

16:20 How Claire's daughter uses writing to express her feelings about their relationship

17:49 Claire’s positive and negative feelings when she first started homeschooling her child

19:10 Our education system is failing because we compel teachers to work inside a system that does not work for children.

21:42 Claire's methods for supporting her child in discovering what she is truly interested in

24:36 Listening to our child with the idea that we might be the one who comes out of experience changed

26:45 Ways we help our children explore what they already know and considering their needs and interests to be worthy

28:16 Claire's daughter shows an interest in experiments and independently determining the next steps she needs.

32:05 Claire can foresee herself in the future just being guide on the side

35:42 Claire's journey to trusting herself and her child with the help of her community

38:50 What it’s like having self-compassion with our child