December 29, 2014

173: Five Steps to a Better Meeting, with Donna Schilder

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41 minutes

Donna Schilder

We’ve all seen bad meeting behavior, but do you know what to do? Donna Schilder shares five power steps for leaders and facilitators to get us towards a better meeting.

1. What are some types bad meeting behavior we often see?

Late arrivers

Ramblers

Side Conversationalists

Note Passers

Multi-taskers

Non-participators

Dominators

Chronic objectors

Gate-closers

Off-the-wall commenters

Eye rollers

Sighers

Personal attackers

2. How can leaders identify disruptive behaviors as they happen?

Realize that your job is to create the agenda, lead the participants through the agenda, but also, to watch for and facilitate behaviors that prevent the meeting from being as successful as it can be.

Now that you are more focused on what they are, you can watch for these disruptive behaviors.

Scrutinize and reflect on meetings that don’t seem to be as productive as they should be.

Watch for other people’s reactions.

Are they rolling their eyes, sighing, showing signs of frustration, shuffling in their seats?

3. How can a leader intervene in disruptive behaviors in meetings?

For Side Conversationalists, Ramblers, Multi-Taskers, Note Passers, Eye Rollers, Off-the-Wall Commenters, & Eye Rollers: Use non-verbal cues

For all behaviors: Acknowledge and reinforce acceptable behavior

For Late Arrivers, Dominators, Ramblers, Gate Closers, and really any behaviors:

Review Ground Rules for Effective Meeting Behavior

Don’t interrupt others, encourage new ideas, don’t be late

Encourage shared responsibility for handling disruptive behavior

For Ramblers or if new topics just come up:

Use a Hold Bin when the meeting gets off topic

For Non-Participators:

Round Robin – always allow people to pass

Invite people into the conversation

For some of the more difficult behaviors, like Dominators or Personal Attackers:

Utilize team feedback tools

Plus Delta

Team Effectiveness Surveys

Use firm but friendly confrontation

4. What is firm but friendly confrontation?

This is in order from the lightest intervention to the strongest intervention. Tread cautiously with the strong

interventions.

General Question: Does anyone else feel we are digressing?

Specific Question: For a side conversation: Andrea, do you have anything to add?

General statement (no names): We had agreed as a team that we would be on time to this meeting

General statement (looking at the person): Not everyone here seems to be open to new ideas

Specific statement: Joe, you seem to be objecting to this idea.

5. When should a leader Take it Offline?

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December 29, 2014

173: Five Steps to a Better Meeting, with Donna Schilder

Listen Later

41 minutes

Donna Schilder

We’ve all seen bad meeting behavior, but do you know what to do? Donna Schilder shares five power steps for leaders and facilitators to get us towards a better meeting.

1. What are some types bad meeting behavior we often see?

Late arrivers

Ramblers

Side Conversationalists

Note Passers

Multi-taskers

Non-participators

Dominators

Chronic objectors

Gate-closers

Off-the-wall commenters

Eye rollers

Sighers

Personal attackers

2. How can leaders identify disruptive behaviors as they happen?

Realize that your job is to create the agenda, lead the participants through the agenda, but also, to watch for and facilitate behaviors that prevent the meeting from being as successful as it can be.

Now that you are more focused on what they are, you can watch for these disruptive behaviors.

Scrutinize and reflect on meetings that don’t seem to be as productive as they should be.

Watch for other people’s reactions.

Are they rolling their eyes, sighing, showing signs of frustration, shuffling in their seats?

3. How can a leader intervene in disruptive behaviors in meetings?

For Side Conversationalists, Ramblers, Multi-Taskers, Note Passers, Eye Rollers, Off-the-Wall Commenters, & Eye Rollers: Use non-verbal cues

For all behaviors: Acknowledge and reinforce acceptable behavior

For Late Arrivers, Dominators, Ramblers, Gate Closers, and really any behaviors:

Review Ground Rules for Effective Meeting Behavior

Don’t interrupt others, encourage new ideas, don’t be late

Encourage shared responsibility for handling disruptive behavior

For Ramblers or if new topics just come up:

Use a Hold Bin when the meeting gets off topic

For Non-Participators:

Round Robin – always allow people to pass

Invite people into the conversation

For some of the more difficult behaviors, like Dominators or Personal Attackers:

Utilize team feedback tools

Plus Delta

Team Effectiveness Surveys

Use firm but friendly confrontation

4. What is firm but friendly confrontation?

This is in order from the lightest intervention to the strongest intervention. Tread cautiously with the strong

interventions.

General Question: Does anyone else feel we are digressing?

Specific Question: For a side conversation: Andrea, do you have anything to add?

General statement (no names): We had agreed as a team that we would be on time to this meeting

General statement (looking at the person): Not everyone here seems to be open to new ideas

Specific statement: Joe, you seem to be objecting to this idea.

5. When should a leader Take it Offline?

Visit Donna’s detailed notes and downloadable PDF

Discover More

Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

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