Anger Secrets

175 - Why You Keep Losing Your Temper - And How to Stop


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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three practical steps to help you control your anger before it takes over. If you've ever said something you regret in the heat of the moment, or felt like your anger erupts before you even realise what's happening, this episode explains exactly why that happens and what you can do about it starting today.

Rather than offering generic advice like "count to ten" or "take a deep breath," Alastair breaks down the real mechanics of anger: why it escalates so fast, what's actually driving it beneath the surface and how better communication can transform even the most stuck relationship patterns.

Key Takeaways:

  1. You can't control your anger if you don't know it's happening. Learning to spot your personal early warning signs before anger peaks is the most important first step.
  2. Your anger isn't caused by what happens to you. It's caused by what you think about what happens to you. Changing the thought changes the response.
  3. Beneath every repeated trigger is usually a rigid belief, and once you can see it clearly, you can begin to shift it.
  4. Active listening is one of the most powerful anger management tools in relationships. When people feel truly heard, defensiveness drops and real conversations become possible.
  5. These are skills, not personality traits. They get easier with practice.

Resources & Next Steps:

If you'd like support controlling your anger and building calmer, more loving relationships:

  1. Visit: angersecrets.com
  2. Book a free 30-minute phone call
  3. Access the free training on "Breaking The Anger Cycle"

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