For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Ever feel like your anger takes over before you even realise it’s happening? In this practical and encouraging episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares six simple but powerful tips to help you stay calm in the heat of the moment.

From spotting early warning signs of anger to using empathy, these tools will help you break old patterns and respond with calmness, not conflict.

Key Takeaways:

-Your body gives early signs of anger, like tension and quickened breath, that you can learn to recognise and manage.

-The real cause of anger isn’t what happens. It’s your thoughts about what happens.

-Using the “Tension Scale” helps you catch anger before it spirals out of control.

-Deep breathing, positive self-talk and short breaks can help defuse intense emotions.

-Empathy and Time-Out strategies are essential tools for handling conflict in relationships.

-Taking ownership of your anger empowers you to choose healthier responses, and create stronger, more respectful connections.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

If you know your anger is hurting your relationships, but you keep putting off getting help, this episode is for you.

In this eye-opening conversation, anger expert Alastair Duhs unpacks the five most common objections that stop people from taking action on their anger. Whether it’s fear, pride, doubt or simply feeling “too busy,” you’ll learn how to overcome the internal resistance that keeps you stuck - and discover why change is simpler and closer than you think.

Key Takeaways:

-Avoidance isn’t laziness—it’s fear. But naming that fear can take away its power.

-Believing you should “fix it on your own” is a trap—real strength is knowing when to ask for help.

-You’re not uniquely broken—anger follows a predictable pattern that can be changed with the right tools.

-Lasting change doesn’t require years of therapy—it often starts with 10 minutes a day and consistent effort.

-The cost of doing nothing—damaged relationships, missed opportunities and emotional pain—is far higher than the cost of change.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

What happens when the people you love start to fear your anger? In this deeply personal episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares Paul’s story - a father and partner whose uncontrolled anger nearly cost him everything.

Through honest reflection and powerful insights, Paul reveals how one simple tool helped him break the cycle of anger, communicate with compassion and rebuild trust with the people who matter most.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger is rarely random-it's often a buildup of stress, hurt and old emotional habits that go unexamined.

-Recognising physical warning signs like a pounding heart or tight chest can help you pause before you react.

-Awareness is the foundation for change-it allows you to step back and make conscious choices rather than defaulting to old patterns.

-Expressing sadness or hurt with calm words like “that comment hurt” can create connection instead of conflict.

Real change doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a gradual process that starts with one decision and builds through daily effort.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Have you ever felt like your anger comes out of nowhere? Like one small moment flips a switch and suddenly you're shouting or shutting down without knowing why?

In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs breaks down the truth about anger triggers - what they are, why they matter and how learning to recognise them can put you back in control of your anger, your relationships and your life.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger doesn’t strike randomly. It follows patterns based on personal emotional triggers and learned responses.

-Your body gives you early warning signs of anger, like a racing heart, clenched jaw or rising tension. If you learn to spot them, you can stay ahead of an anger outburst.

-Triggers don’t cause anger. Your thoughts about those triggers do. Shift your thinking and you shift your reaction.

-Tracking your triggers helps you see which situations set you off, and gives you the power to plan and respond more effectively.

-Managing your anger isn't about avoiding tough situations. It's about building the skills to respond with awareness instead of reactivity.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Break The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Many people think they don’t have an anger problem. They’re just “passionate,” “stressed” or “misunderstood.”

In this eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs uncovers the four most common myths people believe about anger, revealing how these hidden stories keep you stuck in harmful patterns. If you’ve ever felt like anger is just part of who you are, this episode will give you the truth (and the tools) you need to finally break free.

Key Takeaways:

-Denying your anger doesn’t make it disappear. It forces it underground, where it damages your health and relationships.

-Anger isn’t something that just “happens” to you. It’s created by your thoughts about what’s going on around you.

-Blaming others for your anger gives away your power. Recognising that you create your emotions puts you back in control.

-Even lifelong anger can be changed with two core habits: noticing early warning signs and shifting the thoughts that fuel the fire.

-You don’t need years of therapy to see results. Most people can make a real shift in just 21 days of consistent practice.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Does alcohol cause your anger outbursts? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the hidden (and often misunderstood) connection between alcohol and anger.

With honesty and compassion, Alastair reveals how drinking strips away your emotional guardrails, why it’s not the root of your anger and what you can do to stay in control, even in the heat of the moment.

Key Takeaways:

-Alcohol doesn’t cause anger—it amplifies what's already inside you.

-Drinking impairs the prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain responsible for self-control and emotional regulation.

-Most people blame alcohol to avoid facing deeper emotional patterns, but real change starts with taking responsibility.

-Miscommunication and distorted perceptions are common when drinking, which often leads to explosive reactions.

-Setting drink limits, having an exit plan for conflict, and asking a trusted friend to support you can prevent blowups before they happen.

For some, the healthiest and safest path might be cutting out alcohol entirely to protect their relationships and emotional well-being.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Have you ever lost your temper and instantly regretted it?

In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals three life-changing lessons that will help you stop letting anger win and start responding with clarity, calm and control.

Whether you’re just beginning your anger management journey or looking to deepen your self-awareness, these practical insights will show you how to break the cycle and build stronger relationships.

Key Takeaways:

-The first step to anger control is awareness—recognising the early warning signs before anger takes over.

-Anger feels powerful in the moment, but it rarely helps solve the problem and often leaves deeper damage behind.

-You create your anger through your thoughts and interpretations, which means you have the power to shift how you feel.

-Tools like cognitive reframing can help you respond more thoughtfully and constructively, even in high-stress situations.

-You are not a victim of your anger. You are the author of your reactions, and change starts with that realisation.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

What is anger, really? In this thought-provoking episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs joins Jake and Sarah to explore the emotion beneath the outbursts. Together, they unpack what anger truly is, why it takes over so fast and how understanding it can unlock the first step to real change.

If you’ve ever felt like your anger controls you, or wondered if it has to, this episode will change the way you think.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger isn’t your actions, it’s the emotion underneath. Understanding that difference is the key to breaking the anger cycle.

-Your thoughts and perceptions, not just the events themselves, are what trigger anger.

-Recognising early warning signs of anger and using tools like deep breathing can help you interrupt angry reactions in real time.

-Techniques like cognitive restructuring help shift how you interpret situations, reducing emotional intensity.

Managing anger isn’t about suppressing it. It’s about learning to channel it in constructive, respectful ways.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Every relationship has conflict. But it’s how you handle that conflict that determines whether it brings you closer or drives you apart.

In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three powerful relationship tools that can help you stay calm in the heat of the moment, understand your partner more deeply and build a connection that lasts.

If small issues often turn into big fights, this episode is for you.

Key Takeaways:

-Conflict is natural, but disconnection doesn’t have to be. Anger expert Alastair Duhs explains how to transform arguments into opportunities for growth.

-Mastering the art of pausing when anger flares up can be the first step to stopping destructive cycles before they start.

-Shifting your mindset from “winning” the argument to “understanding” your partner builds trust and emotional safety.

-Regular positive connection, what Dr. John Gottman calls the “Magic Six Hours”, can make your relationship more resilient to stress and conflict.

-Emotional safety is built through small, consistent moments of appreciation, affection and real listening.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

What happens when the people you love start to fear your reactions, even if you never raise your voice or hand? In this moving episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Cameron, a husband and father whose journey into anger management began the night he saw fear in his daughter's eyes.

What follows is a powerful story of self-awareness, humility and real transformation.

Key Takeaways:

-Emotional outbursts, no matter how rare, can deeply impact your loved ones, especially children.

-Anger management isn’t just for those who “lose control”. It’s for anyone who reacts in ways they later regret.

-Awareness of early warning signs of anger is a crucial step in changing reactive behavior.

-Small moments of calm, empathy and listening can start rebuilding trust in strained relationships.

-Change is hard but possible. Cameron likens his transformation to getting sober: difficult at first, but freeing.

-Emotional abuse doesn't require physical violence. Just the presence of fear, instability or recurring tension.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System