For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

What if the key to overcoming anger wasn’t more control, but more compassion?

In this thought-provoking episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores how choosing compassion—far from being weak or passive—can be a powerful way to break the cycle of reactivity and protect your most important relationships.

If you’ve ever lashed out in the heat of the moment and wished you could take it back, this episode could change the way you see anger forever.

Key Takeaways:

-Assumptions fuel anger: Most outbursts are based on incomplete stories and snap judgments—recognising this blind spot can stop anger before it starts.

-Curiosity creates space: Taking a moment to ask “What else might be going on?” turns impulse into insight and helps you respond thoughtfully.

-Compassion is not weakness: It’s a conscious choice to interrupt the anger cycle and act from strength, not reactivity.

-We all have hidden struggles: Seeing others through a compassionate lens—even in conflict—fosters connection and emotional clarity.

-You always have a choice: While you can’t control others, you can choose your response—and that’s where real power lies.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

What if you could stop anger before it spirals out of control? In this episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares five powerful strategies to help you take control of anger in the heat of the moment—before it causes lasting damage to your relationships or peace of mind.

Whether you're prone to explosive outbursts or just want to stay calm under pressure, this episode offers practical tools that can make a real difference.

Key Takeaways:

-Recognise your early warning signs of anger: Learn how to spot the physical and emotional signals—like a clenched jaw or rising heart rate—that anger is building before it takes over

-Take a time out (the right way): Stepping away isn’t enough—learn how to use that time intentionally to cool down and reset your mindset.

-Use your breath to calm your body: Discover a simple breathing technique that helps deactivate the body’s fight-or-flight response and restore emotional balance.

-Reframe the situation: Shift your perspective in the moment by challenging negative thoughts and considering alternative explanations.

-Think about the consequences: Before you react, ask yourself: Will this really help me get what I want? This one pause can protect your relationships—and your self-respect.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Is it normal to fight with someone you love? Absolutely. But how you fight makes all the difference. In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs — joined by AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah — explores what healthy conflict actually looks like.

You’ll discover how even difficult arguments can become turning points for connection, growth, and trust when you approach them with the right tools and mindset.

Key Takeaways:

Arguments are normal — and not a sign of failure. Conflict happens in every relationship. The goal isn’t to avoid arguments, but to navigate them respectfully and constructively.

Most fights aren’t about the dishes. Beneath many arguments lies an unmet emotional need — like feeling unheard, unvalued or disconnected.

Use “I” statements to reduce defensiveness. Phrasing like “I feel hurt when...” keeps the focus on your experience and prevents blame from derailing the conversation.

Listen to understand, not to win. By slowing down and really hearing your partner, you create space for empathy, not escalation.

Work together to find solutions. Approach conflict as teammates, not opponents — and look for resolutions that work for both of you.

Repair matters. Apologising, owning your part and reconnecting after a fight builds safety and deepens trust over time.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

If you've ever said, “I'm sorry, it won’t happen again,” but found yourself losing your temper anyway — this episode is for you. Anger expert Alastair Duhs, with help from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, unpacks why anger keeps hijacking your reactions despite your best intentions.

You’ll learn how to break the anger cycle not with willpower alone, but with awareness, skill and support — so you can finally start living the change you keep promising.

Key Takeaways:

Anger doesn’t appear out of nowhere — it builds. Learning to spot your early warning signs of anger (like clenched jaws, fast breathing, or racing thoughts) gives you the power to intervene before things escalate.

Most people wait too long to act. By recognising anger early and using tools like deep breathing or taking space, you give yourself the pause needed to stay in control.

Positive self-talk can de-escalate intense emotions. Replacing unhelpful thoughts like “I can’t handle this” with “I can stay calm and in control” helps shift your emotional state in the moment.

Underlying beliefs shape your anger patterns. Beliefs like “I must be right” or “life should be fair” often drive repeat anger episodes — challenging and changing these can lead to lasting transformation.

You don’t need perfection — just practice. Small, consistent changes can profoundly improve how you handle anger and how safe your relationships feel.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this heartfelt episode of The Anger Management Podcast, we explore the quiet loneliness that can exist even in close relationships—and how vulnerability can bridge that emotional gap.

Anger expert Alastair Duhs, with help from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, dives into why opening up feels so risky, how emotional walls quietly sabotage intimacy and how you can begin sharing your inner world in a way that feels safe, strong, and real.

Key Takeaways:

Vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s courageous honesty. Real strength lies in showing your true self, not just your anger, but also your fears, needs, and hopes.

Your anger may be masking deeper emotions. Slow down and ask, “What am I really feeling beneath this anger?” to reveal the sadness, fear or longing you might be hiding.

Use “I” statements to foster connection. Communicating your feelings clearly and without blame helps your partner hear you, not defend against you.

Your partner isn’t a mind reader. If you need support or connection, say so directly—honesty is a bridge, not a burden.

Create space for connection. Regular, intentional moments—like a short daily check-in or a phone-free walk—build the emotional safety that makes vulnerability possible.

Anger often protects something more tender underneath. When you embrace emotional honesty, anger softens and true intimacy begins to grow.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Why do so many men feel pressure to be strong, silent or always in control — even when it’s hurting them inside?

In this courageous episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the emotional “masks” many men wear to survive societal expectations — and how those masks can quietly feed disconnection, frustration, and unchecked anger.

With thoughtful insight from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, this conversation offers a path toward healthier masculinity, deeper relationships, and the kind of strength that comes from taking the mask off.

Key Takeaways:

Emotional masks start as protection — but can become a prison: Roles like the provider, protector or alpha male may help men cope, but when worn constantly, they block real connection and emotional growth.

Anger is often the “acceptable” emotion — but it’s not the only one: Many men struggle to express fear, sadness, or vulnerability. Reclaiming these emotions isn’t weakness — it’s how real healing and closeness begin.

Letting go of old roles opens the door to authenticity: When you stop performing and start showing up as yourself, you create space for real conversations, stronger relationships, and healthier responses to conflict.

You don’t have to do it alone: Whether through friendship, therapy or support programs, finding people you can open up to is one of the most transformative steps a man can take.

Healthy masculinity means emotional awareness, not emotional avoidance: True strength isn’t about hiding pain — it’s about having the courage to face it, express it, and grow from it.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Ever feel like you're listening — but somehow still missing the mark? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the often-overlooked skill that can radically transform your relationships: active listening.

With insight and practical tools from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, you’ll discover how better listening habits can reduce conflict, build emotional safety, and bring more connection and calm into your daily life.

Key Takeaways:

Presence matters more than you think: True listening starts with giving your full, undivided attention. No phones, no multitasking — just focused presence. This simple shift can ease tension and help your partner feel truly seen.

Hold the advice — offer understanding instead: Jumping in to fix things can leave your partner feeling dismissed. Empathy phrases like “That sounds hard” or “I can see why you’d feel that way” create emotional safety and trust.

Ask questions that open the door to connection: Instead of yes/no questions, use open-ended ones like “What was that like for you?” These deepen the conversation and reveal what’s really going on beneath the surface.

Don’t interrupt — and do pause before you speak: Giving someone space to finish their thought (and taking a beat before you reply) shows respect and helps prevent misunderstandings from spiralling into conflict.

Listening well isn’t about agreement — it’s about making space: Being open to your partner’s perspective, even when you disagree, sends a powerful message: “Your experience matters.”

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

What makes a marriage truly work — even in the face of conflict, disconnection, or emotional distance? In this heartfelt and practical episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the three essential relationship skills that every couple needs to thrive.

With real-world insight from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, you'll learn how small, consistent changes can rebuild trust, restore connection and transform your relationship — no matter where you’re starting from.

Key Takeaways

Conflict is normal — but unmanaged anger is not: Every couple argues, but when anger turns aggressive or shuts down communication, it damages trust. Learning to manage your anger is often the first step toward healing.

You can’t “win” an argument — but you can create understanding: Real communication begins with listening. Shifting from “you” statements to “I” statements and validating your partner’s feelings helps reduce defensiveness and build empathy.

Active listening is a superpower in relationships: Techniques like paraphrasing, asking open-ended questions and checking for understanding help your partner feel heard and respected — even during tough conversations.

The Magic Six Hours can transform your connection: Just six hours a week of intentional connection — like daily check-ins, small acts of affection and shared activities — can build an emotional buffer that strengthens your bond.

You can’t control your partner, but you can choose your response: Emotional responsibility — managing your reactions, listening deeply, and showing up consistently — is the foundation of a lasting relationship.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Joe thought his anger was just who he was until a moment changed everything. In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares Joe's story, a successful businessman whose struggle with anger had profound effects on his life and relationships.

Joe's journey shows that real change is possible, even after decades of uncontrolled anger. The conversation dives into the impact of anger on mental health and relationships, highlighting how it can spread and create rifts in connections.

By the end, listeners are reminded that managing anger is a skill that can lead to peace and deeper connections in life.

Key Takeaways:

• Anger is a natural emotion, but if left unchecked, it can hurt your health and relationships.
• Joe's story illustrates that recognising one's anger can lead to significant change and healing.
• Real change in managing anger starts with small steps and conscious decisions to pause and breathe.
• The transformation in Joe's life shows that it is never too late to control anger effectively.
• Uncontrolled anger can create rifts in relationships, making it harder to build trust and understanding.
• By managing anger, you can enhance your quality of life and the lives of those around you.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Anger is a natural human emotion, but how you react to it matters a lot. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into the differences between anger, abuse and violence.

Alastair explains that feeling angry doesn't mean someone is abusive; it's about how actions can impact others. Alastair also discusses how harmful behaviors that can stem from anger can be changed with awareness and effort.

Recognising patterns of abuse and violence is a brave first step toward healthier relationships and a calmer life. If you want to learn more about managing anger, this episode is a great starting point.

Key Takeaways:

• Anger is a natural human emotion, just like happiness or sadness.
• Recognising the difference between feeling anger and acting abusively is crucial for healthy relationships.
• Abuse is defined by patterns of behavior aimed at controlling or hurting someone, not just by feelings of anger.
• Both verbal and emotional abuse can cause long-lasting harm, sometimes even deeper than physical abuse.
• Understanding that anger can trigger harmful actions helps in learning to manage responses better.
• Growth in anger management starts with awareness, honesty and a commitment to change one's harmful behaviors.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.