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In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into four key behaviors that lead to the end of marriages, based on research by Dr. John Gottman. Alastair discusses how these behaviors often creep in unnoticed, slowly eroding trust and connection in relationships.

He emphasises that criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are crucial patterns to recognise. Each behavior has its antidote, which can help partners communicate better and rebuild their relationship.

By addressing these issues, couples can create a more loving and respectful connection.

Key Takeaways:

• Arguments can often lead to silence, creating distance in relationships.
• Small patterns in communication can gradually erode trust and love over time.
• The importance of addressing negative behaviors before they cause serious damage.
• Four key behaviors that can predict divorce and how to counteract each one.
• Criticism can create resentment, and gentle communication is a better approach.
• By recognising harmful patterns, you can change the direction of your relationship.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs discusses the importance of a genuine apology and how it can truly heal relationships.

He shares how many people struggle with apologising effectively, often just saying "I'm sorry" without understanding what it really means, and shares seven practical tips to help listeners make their apologies more meaningful.

From acknowledging mistakes to committing to real change, Alastair emphasises that a heartfelt apology can rebuild trust and repair damage. By taking these steps, he believes people can strengthen their connections and move forward in a positive way.

Key Takeaways:

• A genuine apology can rebuild trust, soften resentment, and even save relationships.
• It's important to express genuine remorse by acknowledging the pain you caused someone.
• To apologise effectively, one should avoid excuses and focus on taking full responsibility.
• Real healing takes time, and patience is key when waiting for forgiveness from others.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Change is possible, even after anger has caused hurt and broken trust. In this episode, anger expert Alastair talks with Simon, a husband and father whose anger impacted his family life.

Simon shares his journey of recognising his anger patterns and taking responsibility for his actions. He emphasises that the path to change starts with oneself and that it’s never too late to become a better person.

By the end of their conversation, listeners will see how facing the truth about anger can lead to calmer, happier and more respectful relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Anger's impact on relationships can be severe, causing fear and hurt in loved ones.
• Taking responsibility for one's own anger is vital for making real changes in life.
• Listening and understanding others is essential for building better communication skills.
• It's never too late to change and become the person you want to be, no matter the past.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Many couples find themselves stuck in the same argument over and over. They often feel frustrated and exhausted, wondering how to break the cycle. In this episode, anger management expert Alastair shares a three-step approach called the LNC Method.

This method is designed to help couples replace fighting with productive conversations. Alastair emphasises that this isn't just theory; it's a practical way to create understanding and find solutions that work for both partners. By learning to communicate better, you can build happier and more respectful relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• The same fight with a partner often stems from feeling unheard or uncared for.
• Using the LNC Method of Listen, Negotiate, and Commit can break repetitive arguments.
• Listening means understanding your partner's feelings and concerns, not just waiting to talk.
• Commitment to action is vital after discussions to ensure that solutions are implemented.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Compassion can be a game changer when it comes to managing anger.

In this episode, anger management expert Alastair Duhs shares a powerful story about a man named James, who almost let his rage take over in a hospital parking lot. But instead of acting on his anger, James had a moment of realisation that completely shifted his perspective.

Understanding what others might be going through can help calm the storm of anger. By asking oneself what might be happening for someone else, you can create better responses and stronger relationships.

Listen to learn how compassion is a key tool to transform anger into understanding.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding that anger often stems from misunderstanding situations can help immensely.
• Compassion is a powerful tool that can transform anger into understanding and calmness.
• When anger rises, pause and consider what the other person might be going through.
• Assuming the worst in others can lead to explosive anger and regrettable actions.
• Recognising that everyone has their struggles can help you respond with compassion instead of anger.
• Choosing to respond with empathy rather than reacting in anger can save relationships.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Sometimes, it takes just one angry outburst to hurt someone you love or to do unrepairable relationship damage. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into how to stop anger before it escalates.

Learn five simple strategies to stay calm and grounded when emotions run high. By utilising these strategies, you can prevent anger before it starts and protect your relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Just one angry moment can hurt someone you love and escalate small issues into big ones.
• Recognising your Early Warning Signs of anger gives you more control over your reactions.
• Taking a Time-Out can help de-escalate anger and is a sign of strength, not weakness.
• Focusing on your breathing can calm your body during moments of rising anger, helping you reset.
• Reframing situations allows you to interpret events differently and maintain your emotional control.
• Thinking through the consequences of your anger can help you avoid regret and move toward desired outcomes.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Scott's is the fun Dad who kept the laughs coming. Deep down however, he was dealing with a lot of unresolved pain. Over time, this pain turned into a rocket of rage, especially when he felt his daughters push back against him. After a series of explosive moments, Scott realised he needed to change his approach to anger.

In this episode we hear how Scott faced his past, took ownership of his anger and rebuilt trust with his family through The Complete Anger Management System.

If you are feeling like your anger is harming your relationship, this episode is a must-listen.

Key Takeaways:

• Suppressed anger can affect your family relationships deeply.
• Real strength comes from facing your past and choosing to change your future.
• Understanding where anger originates in the body can help manage it effectively.
• Taking ownership of your anger triggers is a key to rebuilding trust with loved ones.
• It's never too late to seek help for anger issues and work towards healing.
• The Complete Anger Management System provides practical tools for lasting change.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Fighting with loved ones can be tough. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into why the fights happens and how to handle them better.

Learn how small issues, like a forgotten anniversary or a simple comment, can escalate into big arguments, leaving both partners feeling hurt. To break this cycle of anger and arguments, Alastair introduces three essential rules for fighting fair. These rules help couples see arguments as chances to connect, keep communication respectful and work together to find solutions.

For anyone looking to improve their relationship and argue less, this episode is packed with practical strategies.

Key Takeaways:

• Arguments can be chances to understand your partner better, not just to defend yourself.
• Keeping communication respectful during heated moments is crucial for a healthy relationship.
• Working together to find solutions can strengthen your bond instead of tearing it apart.
• Seeing conflicts as opportunities can change the way you approach disagreements in relationships, and
• Time-outs during arguments are a sign of wisdom, not weakness; take a break if needed.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Feel like anger gets the best of you? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three powerful strategies to help you regain control over your anger and respond thoughtfully instead of reacting explosively.

Learn the importance of recognising your Early Warning Signs of anger, using positive self-talk to stay grounded and challenging your beliefs that fuel anger. These steps are straightforward and practical, aimed at creating calmer and stronger connections with loved ones.

Key Takeaways:

• Spotting your Early Warning Signs of anger is crucial for managing anger effectively.
• Positive self-talk can help you stay calm and reduce anger responses.
• Understanding the beliefs behind anger can lead to better control over reactions.
• Challenging common anger-inducing beliefs can help in creating a healthier mindset, and
• Awareness of your feelings can create a powerful window for choosing your responses.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Anger doesn’t have to control you, and it definitely shouldn’t ruin your relationships. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three key strategies to help manage anger effectively.

These strategies have transformed the lives of many, promoting healthier relationships and a calmer, happier mindset. Tune in to discover how you can take charge of your emotions and create lasting change in your life.

Key Takeaways:

• Anger is a normal human emotion that serves a purpose, but managing it is key.
• Recognising early warning signs of anger can help prevent escalation in conflicts.
• Using positive self-talk can significantly change how one reacts when feeling angry.
• Challenging and changing core beliefs that fuel anger can lead to healthier relationships.
• Taking proactive steps, like deep breathing or walking, can help de-escalate anger effectively.
• These strategies aim to create lasting change for calmer and happier relationships.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.