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What has your anger really cost you?

Your peace of mind? A relationship that mattered? Your child’s trust — or your own self-respect?

In this powerful episode, Alastair Duhs invites you to take an honest look at the true cost of anger — not with judgment, but with compassion. He shares real client stories, including Richard, whose marriage collapsed under the weight of unresolved anger, and Jason and Josh, two men who learned to reclaim their calm and their connections by finally understanding one essential truth:

Anger doesn’t work. It never has.

This episode is your call to take back control — not through force, but through awareness, choice, and change.

Key Takeaways:

• Anger does not solve problems; it often makes them worse for everyone involved.
• Many people mistakenly believe that anger gives them control in difficult situations.
• Realising that anger is a trap can lead to better emotional health and relationships.
• The first step to overcoming anger is recognising its negative impact on one's life.
• Choosing to respond differently instead of reacting with anger can change everything.
• Understanding that anger isolates us can help reclaim personal power and control.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this powerful episode, host Alastair Duhs interviews Leon, a courageous man who recently took the step to control his anger.

Initially, Leon didn't realise he had an anger problem. He thought that since he wasn’t yelling or being physical, anger was not an issue for him. Listen as Leon shares how this understanding changed, and how understanding the subtleties of emotional and verbal abuse transformed to approach to anger management.

With his newfound awareness, Leon quickly became a calmer father and partner. In this episode, Leon encourages others to do the same, and especially to recognise the impact of words on the people you love.

Key Takeaways:

• Leon did not believe he had an anger problem, but soon learned that anger could hurt others without being loud or aggressive.
• Awareness of stress and tension levels is essential to manage anger effectively.
• Leon recognised that his tone and words were impacting his family negatively.
• Leon emphasises the importance of positive self-talk for managing emotions.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

The blame game is a trap that keeps people locked in negative patterns and arguments. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains that while blaming others feels good in the moment, it ultimately damages trust and connection in relationships.

Recognising and stopping the blame game is crucial for personal growth and healthier relationships. By practicing self-awareness, empathy and better communication, you can take control of your anger and foster more positive interactions.

Key Takeaways:

• The blame game can trap people in negative emotional patterns and arguments.
• The first step to breaking the blame habit is self-awareness and ownership of one's actions.
• Practicing empathy can shift the focus away from blame and foster connection.
• Communication without blame can lead to healthier conversations and relationships.
• Blaming others might feel empowering initially, but it ultimately leads to disconnection and hurt.
• Real strength comes from controlling one's own responses and not blaming others.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into the idea that real change in anger management is possible, even if it feels like nothing works. By the end of the episode, listeners will understand that anger management is a skill that can be learned, not just a trait they are stuck with.

Alastair also emphasises that with the right tools and support, transformation is achievable, and that you are not alone on this anger management journey.

Key Takeaways:

• Admitting the need for help with anger is a courageous first step towards change.
• Anger management is a skill that can be learned, not a fixed trait.
• Many people struggle with anger because they lack a proven path to follow.
• Real change in anger management is possible with the right support and commitment.
• You can control your reactions and choices, which is where your true power lies.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this powerful and deeply honest episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, Alastair Duhs sits down with Gary — a recent participant of The Complete Anger Management System — to explore the painful realities of letting anger go unchecked for too long.

Gary opens up about the breakdown of his relationship, the guilt he carries and the critical moment he realised he needed to change — not just for his relationship, but for himself.

With raw vulnerability, Gary shares how enrolling in The Complete Anger Management System helped him transform not only how he handles anger, but how he shows up in every part of his life — as a man, a father, and a human being.

This is a conversation about regret, responsibility, and most importantly… hope.

Key Takeaways:

• Gary's journey shows that real anger change is possible, even after losing a relationship.
• Recognising one's own anger is crucial for personal growth and healthier relationships.
• The tools learned in anger management can help reduce anger significantly over time.
• It's important to be proactive about anger issues before they affect your life dramatically.
• Being vulnerable and sharing experiences can help both the sharer and the listener grow.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into four key behaviors that lead to the end of marriages, based on research by Dr. John Gottman. Alastair discusses how these behaviors often creep in unnoticed, slowly eroding trust and connection in relationships.

He emphasises that criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are crucial patterns to recognise. Each behavior has its antidote, which can help partners communicate better and rebuild their relationship.

By addressing these issues, couples can create a more loving and respectful connection.

Key Takeaways:

• Arguments can often lead to silence, creating distance in relationships.
• Small patterns in communication can gradually erode trust and love over time.
• The importance of addressing negative behaviors before they cause serious damage.
• Four key behaviors that can predict divorce and how to counteract each one.
• Criticism can create resentment, and gentle communication is a better approach.
• By recognising harmful patterns, you can change the direction of your relationship.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs discusses the importance of a genuine apology and how it can truly heal relationships.

He shares how many people struggle with apologising effectively, often just saying "I'm sorry" without understanding what it really means, and shares seven practical tips to help listeners make their apologies more meaningful.

From acknowledging mistakes to committing to real change, Alastair emphasises that a heartfelt apology can rebuild trust and repair damage. By taking these steps, he believes people can strengthen their connections and move forward in a positive way.

Key Takeaways:

• A genuine apology can rebuild trust, soften resentment, and even save relationships.
• It's important to express genuine remorse by acknowledging the pain you caused someone.
• To apologise effectively, one should avoid excuses and focus on taking full responsibility.
• Real healing takes time, and patience is key when waiting for forgiveness from others.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Change is possible, even after anger has caused hurt and broken trust. In this episode, anger expert Alastair talks with Simon, a husband and father whose anger impacted his family life.

Simon shares his journey of recognising his anger patterns and taking responsibility for his actions. He emphasises that the path to change starts with oneself and that it’s never too late to become a better person.

By the end of their conversation, listeners will see how facing the truth about anger can lead to calmer, happier and more respectful relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Anger's impact on relationships can be severe, causing fear and hurt in loved ones.
• Taking responsibility for one's own anger is vital for making real changes in life.
• Listening and understanding others is essential for building better communication skills.
• It's never too late to change and become the person you want to be, no matter the past.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Many couples find themselves stuck in the same argument over and over. They often feel frustrated and exhausted, wondering how to break the cycle. In this episode, anger management expert Alastair shares a three-step approach called the LNC Method.

This method is designed to help couples replace fighting with productive conversations. Alastair emphasises that this isn't just theory; it's a practical way to create understanding and find solutions that work for both partners. By learning to communicate better, you can build happier and more respectful relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• The same fight with a partner often stems from feeling unheard or uncared for.
• Using the LNC Method of Listen, Negotiate, and Commit can break repetitive arguments.
• Listening means understanding your partner's feelings and concerns, not just waiting to talk.
• Commitment to action is vital after discussions to ensure that solutions are implemented.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Compassion can be a game changer when it comes to managing anger.

In this episode, anger management expert Alastair Duhs shares a powerful story about a man named James, who almost let his rage take over in a hospital parking lot. But instead of acting on his anger, James had a moment of realisation that completely shifted his perspective.

Understanding what others might be going through can help calm the storm of anger. By asking oneself what might be happening for someone else, you can create better responses and stronger relationships.

Listen to learn how compassion is a key tool to transform anger into understanding.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding that anger often stems from misunderstanding situations can help immensely.
• Compassion is a powerful tool that can transform anger into understanding and calmness.
• When anger rises, pause and consider what the other person might be going through.
• Assuming the worst in others can lead to explosive anger and regrettable actions.
• Recognising that everyone has their struggles can help you respond with compassion instead of anger.
• Choosing to respond with empathy rather than reacting in anger can save relationships.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.