For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

This episode dives into one of the most difficult but essential topics: understanding how abuse and violence may show up in your life—and how to end the cycle. Anger expert Alastair Duhs speaks with clarity and compassion about behaviors that cause harm, whether through words, control, silence or physical actions.

If you’ve ever questioned the impact of your anger or wondered if your actions have crossed a line, this episode offers a courageous path forward.

Key Takeaways:

-Abuse isn't just physical—it can be verbal, emotional, psychological or sexual, and all forms can leave deep, lasting harm.

-If you’ve used anger to intimidate, control or manipulate, it’s time to look honestly at your behavior and its impact.

-Alastair explains why abuse and violence are the same—because both hurt and control others, often in invisible but devastating ways.

-Taking responsibility for your actions is not a sign of weakness—it’s a brave step toward healing and change.

-True transformation begins with clarity, accountability and the willingness to break old patterns.

-Help is available, and no matter what your past has looked like, it’s never too late to build respectful, safe, and loving relationships.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Arguments in relationships often start small but quickly spiral into deep disconnection. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals why conflict escalates with the people we love most—and how to stop it before it starts.

With three powerful, practical techniques, Alastair guides you to shift from reaction to response, helping you transform your most difficult moments into opportunities for connection.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger is one of the biggest obstacles to resolving conflict—but even small changes can prevent regretful blow-ups.

-Trying to “win” an argument often sacrifices what truly matters: your connection and mutual respect.

-Shifting your mindset from defending your position to understanding your partner creates space for healing and collaboration.

-The “Magic Six Hours” technique helps couples intentionally invest in their relationship, building trust before conflict arises.

-Conflict is inevitable—but how you handle it determines whether it brings you closer or drives you apart.

-Support is available if you feel stuck—you're not alone, and real change is possible.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the emotional toll of anger—not just on the people around you, but on your own sense of self.

If you’ve ever whispered an apology and still felt the weight of guilt, this episode will help you understand why anger shows up and how you can begin to break free from its grip.

Real stories of transformation offer hope, showing that lasting change begins with awareness and a simple, courageous first step.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger is natural—but when left unchecked, it can damage trust, create fear and leave emotional scars.

-Even well-intended apologies can feel empty if the deeper patterns of anger aren't addressed.

-Children are especially vulnerable to the emotional impact of anger, which can affect their confidence and sense of safety.

-Stories from real people like Nathan and Peter show that no matter your past, healing and change are absolutely possible.

-Breaking the anger cycle doesn’t require perfection—just awareness, reflection and the willingness to respond differently.

-You can begin to rebuild trust and connection with the people you love starting today.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this deeply moving episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares the powerful transformation of Cameron—a husband, father and successful businessman—who took brave steps to change the legacy of anger in his family.

After a painful outburst left his daughter afraid, Cameron realised he was repeating patterns he swore he’d never pass on. What followed was a journey of self-awareness, emotional growth and quiet victories that began with enrolling in The Complete Anger Management System.

Key Takeaways:

-Recognising anger patterns—especially those modeled in childhood—is the first step toward breaking them.

-Emotional abuse doesn’t require physical violence; creating an unstable environment through tone and reaction can be just as harmful.

-Small, conscious shifts—like responding with calm empathy instead of anger—can rebuild trust in relationships.

-Early warning signs of anger offer an opportunity to pause and choose a new response before things escalate.

-Cameron’s story highlights the power of self-awareness, reflection and learning new emotional skills—even later in life.

-Online anger management allows for flexible, private and personalised growth at your own pace.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this powerful episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores a transformative truth: anger doesn’t start in the world around you—it starts within. Through vivid storytelling and real client experiences, Alastair reveals how your thoughts shape your emotions and how shifting your perspective can bring calm, clarity and deeper connection to your life.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger is not caused by external events, but by your thoughts and interpretations of those events.

-Recognising your role in creating anger gives you the power to choose a different response.

-Even deeply ingrained patterns of blame and frustration can be changed with awareness and practice.

-Real-life examples from Alastair’s clients show how changing thought patterns leads to stronger relationships and more peace.

-A simple but powerful question—“What am I thinking about this?”—can help interrupt the cycle of anger in any moment.

-With support and commitment, you can rewrite your story and live with more pride and emotional freedom.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Have you ever snapped at someone you love — and immediately regretted it?

In today’s powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals what he considers the missing key to managing anger. This simple yet essential shift has helped thousands of people break the cycle of outbursts, regret, and disconnection — and it could do the same for you.

Key Takeaways:

• Awareness is the foundation of anger control; without it, change is impossible.
• Recognising early warning signs of anger can help interrupt the cycle before it escalates.
• Anger is normal, but it can be damaging when it controls your reactions to situations.
• Learning to pause and reflect on feelings can significantly improve relationships and personal peace.
• The journey to managing anger requires practice and patience, and it won't happen overnight.
• Everyone has the power to take back control over their emotions with consistent effort.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

What has your anger really cost you?

Your peace of mind? A relationship that mattered? Your child’s trust — or your own self-respect?

In this powerful episode, Alastair Duhs invites you to take an honest look at the true cost of anger — not with judgment, but with compassion. He shares real client stories, including Richard, whose marriage collapsed under the weight of unresolved anger, and Jason and Josh, two men who learned to reclaim their calm and their connections by finally understanding one essential truth:

Anger doesn’t work. It never has.

This episode is your call to take back control — not through force, but through awareness, choice, and change.

Key Takeaways:

• Anger does not solve problems; it often makes them worse for everyone involved.
• Many people mistakenly believe that anger gives them control in difficult situations.
• Realising that anger is a trap can lead to better emotional health and relationships.
• The first step to overcoming anger is recognising its negative impact on one's life.
• Choosing to respond differently instead of reacting with anger can change everything.
• Understanding that anger isolates us can help reclaim personal power and control.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this powerful episode, host Alastair Duhs interviews Leon, a courageous man who recently took the step to control his anger.

Initially, Leon didn't realise he had an anger problem. He thought that since he wasn’t yelling or being physical, anger was not an issue for him. Listen as Leon shares how this understanding changed, and how understanding the subtleties of emotional and verbal abuse transformed to approach to anger management.

With his newfound awareness, Leon quickly became a calmer father and partner. In this episode, Leon encourages others to do the same, and especially to recognise the impact of words on the people you love.

Key Takeaways:

• Leon did not believe he had an anger problem, but soon learned that anger could hurt others without being loud or aggressive.
• Awareness of stress and tension levels is essential to manage anger effectively.
• Leon recognised that his tone and words were impacting his family negatively.
• Leon emphasises the importance of positive self-talk for managing emotions.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

The blame game is a trap that keeps people locked in negative patterns and arguments. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains that while blaming others feels good in the moment, it ultimately damages trust and connection in relationships.

Recognising and stopping the blame game is crucial for personal growth and healthier relationships. By practicing self-awareness, empathy and better communication, you can take control of your anger and foster more positive interactions.

Key Takeaways:

• The blame game can trap people in negative emotional patterns and arguments.
• The first step to breaking the blame habit is self-awareness and ownership of one's actions.
• Practicing empathy can shift the focus away from blame and foster connection.
• Communication without blame can lead to healthier conversations and relationships.
• Blaming others might feel empowering initially, but it ultimately leads to disconnection and hurt.
• Real strength comes from controlling one's own responses and not blaming others.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into the idea that real change in anger management is possible, even if it feels like nothing works. By the end of the episode, listeners will understand that anger management is a skill that can be learned, not just a trait they are stuck with.

Alastair also emphasises that with the right tools and support, transformation is achievable, and that you are not alone on this anger management journey.

Key Takeaways:

• Admitting the need for help with anger is a courageous first step towards change.
• Anger management is a skill that can be learned, not a fixed trait.
• Many people struggle with anger because they lack a proven path to follow.
• Real change in anger management is possible with the right support and commitment.
• You can control your reactions and choices, which is where your true power lies.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.