Conversations from the Heart

#18 - You're Not What I Need, but I Don't Want to Let You Go


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The richest and deepest of romantic partnerships is the type where each person is committed to a shared vision of a life together--where each person brings the best of themselves to the other.

So what do we do when we're all in, but our partner isn't feeling it?  Or, if the tables are turned, how do we kindly disengage from an ex-partner who isn't ready to let us go?

Both sides of the intimate relational coin are up for discussion on today's podcast, in addition to a handy strategy for meeting our emotional needs during a break up.

Show notes:
(0:00) Intro
(2:45) My partner wants less commitment and I want more.  What do I do?
(12:00) I'd rather have the hope of working towards a future with you than no hope at all.
(23:50) A practical strategy for redirecting emotional needs during a breakup.
(30:30) How do positive, encouraging messages fit into NVC?
(36:24) NVC as an outward performance.
(37:40) My ex wants to re-engage but I don't.  How do I disconnect kindly?
(44:40) When you are finished, you get to be done.
(49:00)  Do my needs cause others pain?
(56:00)  The function of the words "I'm Sorry"
(58:30) Outro

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