Welcome to episode #189! This week, Matt and Braden talk about issues that can lead to sexless marriages and what we can do to bring about a healthy sex life. 

Sex in marriage is biblical. 

There can be many causes for sexless marriages. Things like trauma - both physical and psychological; addiction - thinking you can get what you need from your porn habits; and even a family belief system that you don’t need to have sex in your marriage. Scripture tells us to come together often and to only come apart (both parties involved in the decision) for a time to pursue prayer and fasting. 

The issues that are preventing sex in your marriage need to be addressed and dealt with. 

There are individual issues (trauma, addiction and beliefs) that keep us from having sex, but there are also marriage issues that come into play. Drift is the natural tendency in marriage - like a current that has the ability to carry us each in different directions without us even realizing it. We have to be proactive in preventing drift by investing in our marriage. 

A lot can be resolved through a conversation. 

Think inwardly for yourself - your own ideas. Don’t make up answers for your spouse. Assume they want a really good connection in marriage. We don’t always know how to get there. Have the conversations and look at the issues and see how you can work through them. It is never too late to start talking.

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BRADEN HAFNER

Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE

Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.