Welcome to episode #190! This week, Matt and Braden talk about some tips to help navigate through the issues that can contribute to a sexless marriage.

We need to create bitesize steps and goals for ourselves. 

To get to the ultimate end goal, we need to take smaller steps and take little movements. When we just look at the end goal and all it entails, it can be overwhelming and we can end up not doing anything and not moving forward at all. It takes steps to get to that end goal. 

Seek to understand before you seek to be understood. 

Look for the currents that are causing the drift in your marriage and seek to correct them. Be intentional with connection. It's important to not just know their love language, but to understand how they feel love within that language. We need to be good at granting forgiveness and seeking forgiveness. 

It is important to talk about individual issues as a couple. 

It can be easy to end up shrouded in shame and guilt. When we keep things from our spouse, there is a lack of communication and gaps in understanding and it creates assumptions in our spouse. The gaps get filled in with those assumptions and it creates more divide. Create a space where you can share to get on the same page to figure out what kind of supports you need or steps to take toward healing. 

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Podcast Hosts

BRADEN HAFNER

Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE

Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.