Avoiding Third-Person in the Child-Centered Playroom

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I kick off our new Session Savvy series, designed to help play therapists refine their approach and avoid subtle deviations from the child-centered play therapy (CCPT) model. Today, I address a common habit I’ve noticed, especially among those with an academic or school background—referring to oneself in the third person during sessions. While it may seem harmless, this creates a subtle disconnect with the child, distancing the therapist from the relationship that is so central to CCPT.

I explain the importance of using first-person language to maintain and deepen the therapeutic connection. Referring to yourself as "I" or "me" reinforces the relationship, ensuring the child feels fully engaged and connected with you. This small change can significantly strengthen the relational bond, which is the foundation of CCPT. If you’ve developed this habit, don't worry—it's an easy adjustment, and being aware of it is the first step toward more effective sessions.

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