The Sensitive & Soulful Show

198. How To Stop Taking Things Personally In Your Friendships


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If you’re someone who spirals when a friend doesn’t text back or seems distant, this episode is a powerful reminder: it might feel personal...but it probably isn’t. Alissa explores why highly sensitive people often take things personally in friendships and how past wounds may be showing up in the present. You’ll learn how to identify your triggers, assume the most generous, and support yourself with compassion—so you can experience more peace in your relationships.

What You’ll Learn:

  • Why HSPs often take things personally in friendships—and how to stop
  • The connection between overreacting and unresolved past hurt
  • How your nervous system goes into “threat mode” over neutral situations
  • The difference between assuming the worst and assuming the most generous
  • How to check in with your triggers instead of blaming yourself or others
  • Why personal growth means not projecting past pain onto present people
  • What it looks like to show yourself compassion in emotionally activated moments
  • Tools to ground yourself before jumping to conclusions
  • How to gracefully approach honest conversations when needed
  • Why real friendships can survive seasons of less communication

Questions Answered in This Episode:

  • Why do I always take things personally with my friends?
  • How can I stop overanalyzing texts or slow replies?
  • What if I’m triggered by a friend pulling away—how do I manage it?
  • Why does silence or distance from someone I care about feel so threatening?
  • How do I know if it’s a real issue or an old wound being activated?
  • What does it mean to “assume the most generous” in friendships?
  • When is it time to bring up concerns—and how do I do that with care?
  • How do I stop letting other people’s actions define my worth?
  • What’s the link between friendship struggles and abandonment wounds?
  • Can I really feel safe in my relationships, even when things aren’t perfect?

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