Sexual desire isn’t something you have or you don’t. Sexual desire isn’t something that diminishes with time. Sexual desire is a measuring stick or barameter for where the intimacy is at between the couple. What I’m most concerned about are all the missed opportunities that people experience when desire is thought of as something that is just there or it isn’t. It’s also concerning when people think that if someone doesn’t have much desire then there is something wrong with them. When someone is struggling with low desire this is a giant neon arrow pointing at the lack of intimacy between the two people.