Here’s a tricky question: should you tell your partner if you’ve cheated on them? While many people believe that there is a simple “yes” or “no” answer, this question may be a bit more complicated than we think.

Disclosing your infidelity to your partner isn’t a matter-of-fact situation. As Dr. Marie Murphy says, you’re not obligated to tell anyone about your affair—whether it was a one-time thing or a long-term relationship. But, every action has a consequence, so regardless of what you decide to do, it’s important to carefully consider your honest wants and needs.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about whether or not you need to tell your partner about your infidelity. She shares the first two things to consider when making a decision, the red flags to look out for in your decision-making process, and the various complexities of telling the truth. Plus, Dr. Murphy dives into her recommendations if you do decide to tell your partner that you’ve cheated. Stay tuned!