Welcome to episode #204! This week, Matt and Braden talk with John Daugherty from Be Broken Ministries about grace based models for recovery. 

Grace is not opposed to effort. 

Our effort doesn’t earn anything from God. But we need to put in effort for recovery. There is nothing that we can do that will make God love us more or less. We need to understand that our identity, our value and worth cannot fluctuate. We can then use that worth as a starting point to work on our recovery. Instead of feeling like we need to prove ourselves and base our worth on our performance, we can rely on the truth that our worth comes from God and we don’t need to earn it.  

We have to shift the ultimate focus in grace-based recovery. 

We come in with a performance based bias, with the goal being a behavioural outcome. Whatever the addictive compulsion is, our assumed goal is to not have those behaviours. We try to replace it with a better, more positive behaviour. Grace-based models shift the focus from a behaviour-first outcome to understanding a relational outcome and understanding what it means to be made in God’s image and to love Him and others. We want to be in a safe enough space to be able to share the fullness of our stories and build those authentic relationships with others and God. 

Parents have a great responsibility to set the tone of conversations in the home. 

It can be intimidating to talk about your story to your families. It is good to divulge our stories and talk about what we learned from it and how we are continuing to grow and manage our sexuality. Stories are our connectors of our transformations over our lifetime. The family unit is God’s primary unit that transformation is to happen between generations. By starting those conversations in the home and creating that environment it can build honesty, vulnerability, openness, and the ability to share feelings and ask questions.

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BRADEN HAFNER

Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE

Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.